School time is the time of love, hope and sympathy.
It is at school age people for the first time have an interest in the opposite sex, choosing as classmate his classmates.
Signs of interest
How to know who you like from the class?
Girls and boys express their sympathy differently.
This is especially true of primary and secondary schools, when the range of interests of children of the opposite sex has completely different directions and the manner of communication in “friendly groups” is very different.
Have a classmate
How to find out which boys like you:
- Sight. The boy constantly sees the pretty girl with his eyes, watches her while answering at the blackboard, and even during the breaks he keeps in sight.
These conscious or unconscious views indicate that the boy constantly thinks about you and seeks visual contact with the subject of his thoughts.
- Smile. Communicating with you, he can constantly smile and even laugh. Moreover, there can be no objective reasons for a smile (joke, anecdote, funny story, etc.). The smile itself appears on the face of a boy in love who is unable to control the flow of positive emotions when communicating with the object of his sympathies.
- Attempt to shorten the distance. He tries to sit down (for the next desk, for example), to be in the same team during outdoor games and constantly arises somewhere nearby.
- Unnatural behavior. In his usual company, he is quite cheerful, kind, friendly and confident. But if there is a girl next to him that he likes, the boy can dramatically change his tactics of behavior. This is expressed in excessive rudeness, which comes from the desire to prove his masculinity and the "coolness" of his beloved.
But if the guy is rather modest, next to a pretty girl, he may be speechless, withdraw into himself and be inappropriate to joke, confuse words and stutter.
- Mediators. If a guy likes a girl, he is looking for an opportunity to be near her. And this opportunity gives him a chat with his beloved friends. After all, if the boy is in the company of a girl, they have much more points of contact.
- Negative reaction to other guys. If he sees you in the company of another boy, his mood drops significantly. The facial expression changes, and attention is focused on your companion. In the future, the guy in love may even end the companionship with the "rival".
AT primary school, especially in the 4th grade, courtship can take a rather aggressive form.
A boy can offend a pretty girl, pull his hair, tease and take away school supplies.
Better then talk to him without witnesses and explain that you do not like this behavior.
Have a classmate
Symptoms of sympathy in girls:
- Benefactress. She helps with homework, gives off, repairs a broken pencil, and she always has a spare pen for you.
Most likely, the girl is sympathetic and tries to provoke a response, demonstrating her indispensability.
- Reverent attitude to appearance. If a girl is in love, in the eyes of her "prince" she wants to always remain perfect. Therefore, against the background of her classmates, she is distinguished by large earrings, an elegant blouse, make-up, a festive hairstyle for no reason and so on. She comes to study as a holiday.
- Hair. During a conversation with her lover, the girls constantly straighten their hair, twirl a lock on a finger or twist pigtails. This is not only an attempt to hide his insecurity and excitement, but also a kind of flirting on a subconscious level.
- Laugh. She laughs at all your jokes, sometimes in embarrassing situations because of this. Her ringing laugh is the best proof of sympathy for you.
- Attempts to cause jealousy. The girl actively communicates with other guys, laughs and even pats them on the shoulder, occasionally looking at you.
So she tries to play on the vanity of the boy she likes and provoke jealousy, as well as prove her status and significance.
- Initiative. She seeks to be closer by offering to prepare a creative project together or work in one group in an experimental lesson. At the same time, the girl tries to show that the motivation for her actions is only logic, and not a feeling of love and a desire to communicate with you (let's prepare the project together because you have the necessary material, but I have an idea and a theoretical part).
Tips for boys
Can I please the girl for 1 day?
You will not have a second chance to make a first impression.
If you have not previously communicated with a girl in an informal setting (all contacts occurred only in the conditions of group school games, clarification of educational issues, etc.), then she still doesn’t have solid view of you as an individual.
In this case, you can have a conversation in an informal setting and show yourself from the best side, forming a positive first impression with your beloved.
Have to prepare the conditions in advance: propose to spend up to the house, invite for a walk or call for a date. If you can’t get over the embarrassment and openly call for a date, you can ask to help with the lessons after school, referring to her good marks on the subject.
It is also advisable to know in advance the range of interests of the girl, so as to easily maintain an interesting conversation. You can get information both from friends and in time for collective conversations at recess (it is only important to listen carefully to the topics discussed by the girl).
How do you like a classmate or a girl from a parallel class? In order to impress a girl, sometimes it is enough just to start a conversation with her.
In childhood and adolescence guys suffer from insecurity and try hide this uncertainty behind pretentious behavior. A calm boy, who owns himself and is able to show initiative, evokes respect and admiration.
Do not forget about good manners.
Offer the girl to bring the book or briefcase to the class, open the door or stand up for her if she is offended by other guys.
Sometimes say complimentspositively assessing her achievements (winning the intellectual competition, performing at a school concert, etc.) And, of course, always say hello when you see it (if you have already begun and you met).
How do you tell a classmate that you like her? It is always scary to receive a refusal, so it is better to check the reaction of the girl, and only after that tell her about your feelings.
"Feel the ground" by using compliments and hints that you like a girl. If she is embarrassed, hides a smile and blushes slightly, it means that feelings are being tested.
It is better to tell the girl the most important words when there are no eyewitnesses nearby. Otherwise, she may be embarrassed and refuse, succumbing to the fear and influence of friends.
How to understand that you liked the girl? If a girl feels sympathy, she will let know about it through her behavior and attempts to get close.
Fleeting glances, smiles and “random” collisions shoulder to shoulder. All this suggests that you are interested.
To be faithful, you can also ask the girlfriends friends. Often, they are willing to reveal the secret of a girlfriend in love, if they see a reciprocal interest from the guy.
Ask the girl about something (borrow a pencil, suggest a formula, remind the name of a new teacher). If she enthusiastically fulfills your request, it may mean her interest in you.
What mistakes should not make? The opinion that any attention is a pleasure is wrong.
If your attention in the direction of the girl is connected with the manifestation of hostility, humiliation and insults, the object of love will not answer you sympathy.
She would rather put you on the "blacklist of classmates" and will diligently avoid contact.
Another common mistake among boys is prove one's masculinity with stupid acts (fights, arrogant tricks in front of teachers, petty leprosy, etc.).
A girl cannot be attracted by this method, because she considers all this to be either a lack of upbringing / intellect, or childish. Preceding the girl friendship, you can not be shy of their relationship to their classmates.
If you accompany her after school to home, and then make fun of her in front of her comrades, trying to prove her indifference to “these stupid girls”, your chosen one will be offended and will not want to continue communication.
Recommendations to girls
What if you like a classmate? Try to get into his company in order to maintain communication not only at school, but also outside its walls.
Be active and cheerful, take interest in his hobbies and try to find common passions. Laugh at jokes and admire his achievements.
But at the same time there is a danger of becoming “your boyfriend” and “friend in a skirt”. To avoid this, behave feminine. Let the guys take care and help, wear dresses more often, give up alcohol and cigarettes, do not swear.
How to understand that you like a boy? If a boy is sympathetic, he will show his feelings.
First of all, it will be noticeable in terms of behavior and the need to prove its value through competition with other guys.
Also he will try to get in your field of vision, periodically checking where you are. And of course he will be happy to make contact, even if he does not take the initiative on his own.
How do you like a classmate or a guy from a parallel class? You must always be ready. Clean hair, neat and pretty clothes, polished shoes, a dazzling smile, a few topics for conversation and jokes in stock.
One way or another, you will have to make contact, and it is important not to miss the moment. Sit nearby during a trip to the theater, ask them to teach them to hit the ball in a gym class, etc.
You can go to the trick, leaving your thing in the place where you see the cute guy (signed by your name notebook, notebook or pencil case) and can heroically return back. This is a great way to start a conversation.
How to attract the attention of a high school student? It is possible to attract the attention of a high school student through common interests.
If the object of your love is busy in school amateur activities, you can share this passion with him. Participate in concerts, performances and the organization of various actions.
So you will become "colleagues" and can spend more time together. A senior pupil will certainly appreciate a girl who already from an early age is distinguished by an active lifestyle.
If your lover goes to extra classes in volleyball or orienteering, try to join these circles.
This is a good opportunity. get attention by asking for help, consultation or curative.
What mistakes should not make? Obsession is one of the main girlish mistakes. You should not spoil the guy with your attention.
So he is just fed up with communication. It is better to dose conversations, compliments and offers for help. Do not chase him at school and on the street.
Some girls are prone blindly trust the opinions of girlfriends. And this is also a big mistake. After all, it is much easier to judge what is happening. Yes, and some friends may purposely upset your relationship, as they experience a feeling of jealousy.
Arrogance is another mistake. Girls, falling in love with a guy, try to show him their indifference.
But adolescents (especially at the age of 14-16) suffer from complexes and self-doubt, so the guy may just be afraid of your reaction. Demonstrate unavailability needed very carefully and metered.
First love is beautiful. She will remain in your memory as one of the brightest and exciting periods of life.
But do not go headlong into love affairs, ignoring study, friends, parents and a colorful life, which every day opens for you all new and new doors.
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