Honestly, I don’t like to write this type of article - let's begin with this. Because the people of the adult generation (from 40 years) in our time - in most cases, those individuals who are unlikely to want to change. I have no goal to change anyone, but I know this information, I believe that every person is obliged.
So let's get started. From childhood, we all got used to the fact that, first, parents send us to kindergarten (not all), then to school, and after graduation, we must choose our profession and go further along our career path. And if it’s still acceptable with a child’s enrollment in kindergarten and school, that parents make a choice in favor of a son or daughter, then with a university this is more like mother’s sons and father’s daughters. That is, parents make the choice of profession instead of their child.
However, in this article I don’t want to delve into the topic of choosing a specialty, although you can write quite a lengthy text on it. Now I want to talk more about the fact that few of the parents give the right to choose the child independently how to live. And even the fact that under 18 they are responsible for it - this does not give parents the right to take away the choice of their small copy.
But let's get closer to the topic. Do you think school is important to man? That is, that the child began to go to the first grade and finish this educational institution after 9 years? And the second question - how much time will the student spend for nothing, studying unloved subjects, just in order to get the top five and not offend the parents? I am sure that this time will be much more than 50% of the total schooling, because usually children like only 1-2 subjects.
Do I want to say that the child does not need to go to school at all? Once I really thought so, and if I was asked - what about the overall development of a child in a team, I always answered that such development can be obtained in various sections and circles, which are now quite a lot. And the training itself can be carried out by tutors of those subjects that the child really likes. As they say, there would be only money.
Moreover, with the development of the Internet and the emergence of various courses, trainings, free e-books, people began to study on the computer much faster than at school. You probably yourself noticed that already seven-year-old children are well versed in tablets and phones, not to mention a computer.
Fifth-graders are more likely to conduct a history lesson, writing in contact on their device, rather than listening to the Ice Battle. What can I say, even some of the first-graders can not live without modern gadgets.
Have you ever wondered why most children of all ages do not like to go to school? The answer is quite simple: they do not like to study the knowledge that they are not interested. Moreover, they do not understand why they should be studied at all.
More precisely, the students know that mom or dad should be praised for good grades, and at the end of school, in the case of a good study, a prestigious university will be waiting for you. But children are completely unaware of what exactly they need from life, and how will the same institution of higher education be associated with this? Yes, students are told something about the fact that they will earn a lot and live securely. But the fact that children are engaged in a favorite thing all his life, a feeling that parents do not care about it at all.
I will give an example
Since childhood, a boy shows interest in sports and dreams of becoming an international boxing champion. But his father believes that to beat each other's muzzles is the lot of the primitive flock. And most likely the dad will do everything for his son to go somewhere to the economic university, if only he would be far away from the ill-fated boxing. And the son does not want to hear anything, so I want to do boxing - so I will do it!
Of course, physical education will be the favorite subject of this boy at school, and he will not be very interested in the rest of the lessons. But, after all, parents with teachers daily nudity under the ear, if only this student would always get fives and finish school with honors. They do not care at all that the grades in the school do not affect the personality of the person. And if he likes to be a boxer, then, ideally, he can only sincerely wish good luck and, if possible, support his child.
You will probably say that letting a son break his life is to be a disgusting parent. I think otherwise. Namely: to be a good parent is to accept the choice of your child and not interfere with it, no matter how ridiculous this choice may be. After all, we learn best from our mistakes, and parents are constantly trying to protect children from what they themselves were wrong about. But this will never lead to a positive result - it has been verified by many years of practice.
Let's return to the boy who dreams of becoming a great boxer. He has several ways. The first is to listen to your father and go to the economy, thereby spending 5 years in the empty. To be more precise, the son will secretly be angry with his father and thus destroy his body and psyche. After all, he likes sports, and thanks to his father, he unwittingly has to be an economist. And such a person will NEVER be happy no matter how much money he has.
The second way is to go in for boxing, despite the father's persuasion to enter a more humane institution. This is the most correct way, however, if the father turns out to be too stubborn, he will remind his son all his life that the latter has made the wrong choice.
And in the worst case, the son, unable to withstand such pressure and falling into a state of affect, with the help of the same box can kill his father. Do not be surprised, there are a lot of such tragedies in the criminal news, and most often they happen drunk. It is intoxicated that people become the most aggressive, and you will not believe it, but the main reason for this is the subconscious anger at their parents.
What to do in such situations?
Ideally, it is to educate your children, always giving the child the right to choose a particular business on its own. And also to give him the right to skip school and get twos and be real, and not try to please parents and everyone around him. You will say that you will endanger your child in this way? I don’t think so, because even with the strongest care, any person can always fall on his head a brick. But the fact that the child will become independent - this fact will serve him immensely for the rest of his life!
Of course, parents need to teach their children and tell them what is good and what is not. But not guided by the experience of their mistakes, but .... a criminal and civil code. In short, teach your child not to break the law, but otherwise - open up oxygen to him on all four sides! And such a person will never disappear.
You can teach your children everything, but always ask - is it necessary for the child himself? After all, it is rather silly to teach him art, just because you are an artist yourself. Or maybe your son loves to play chess and do math more, but he doesn't like to draw at all. And why then is he asked to become an artist?
Why parents do not take into account the choice of children?
Because they themselves have been taught so. During Soviet times, everything was completely different, and then there was no information at all. There was no computers, no freedom of choice - everything was decided by the state. And dissent, as we know, was punished very severely. And people who grew up under the conditions still remain in the heart of children, who believe that it is simply impossible to live differently. And then teach their children that.
How to choose a child university?
Of course, the person who goes there should choose this. And it does not matter whether it is prestigious or not prestigious, because if studying in this university is not a favorite thing of a student, the latter will not be able to give himself to study to the fullest. Even despite the persuasion of parents.
Of course, he can get a red diploma, but then things will be even worse. Because if a person receiving a crust with honors does not at all love what he studied for, this means only one thing: he is terribly intimidated by his parents or guardians. Roughly speaking, he constantly heard from them that, say, if you don’t study well, then we will drive you out into the street. And all this is very sad.
Based on this, parents, despite their egoism, must be given the right to choose their child. Yes, it will be extremely difficult to do, but if you really want your children to be happy, then you will do it. If you want to be proud in front of your friends and acquaintances that your son will soon become a millionaire thanks to you personally, then I can only sympathize with you.
Summing up,
I would like to say a few words about the fact that I personally know those people who did not even finish school, but grew up as successful people. By the way, success is not money and fame, but a normal attitude towards oneself and one's parents, plus the occupation of a favorite thing. And the financial question of such people will never remain a question, because, realizing yourself in what you enjoy, you will never be left without money.
If you are expelled from the university, this does not mean that your life is now over. Believe that there are still at least 33 variants of how you can live in the future, getting everything you need from life. And the fact that you were told by the parents that you have only one option to achieve your success was their personal opinion, which is not a reliable fact. Even in the USSR, people somehow got out of the way and achieved their heights by legal means, and nowadays it is much easier to make it. If you seriously think about it, then you will understand that the school and the university in the modern century no longer play such significant roles ...
