If it began to seem that something is stopping you from living and being a happy person, then you urgently need to change something. And if to speak specifically, the matter is in numerous excuses that you need to get rid of as soon as possible.
You must admit that it is unpleasant to realize that you had a great chance, but you didn’t use it for some reason, and now look for an excuse for yourself why you missed this chance. You do not need to look for excuses, but also do not need to dwell on it. Let go of the situation and live on, but know that if you have a good opportunity, then in no case should you miss it.
To do this, you need to start working on yourself and eliminate from life those principles that prevent you from moving forward and become a successful person.
1. "It's too late for me." According to the stereotypes that have been imposed on us since childhood, you need to go through certain stages in your life. And this is the end of school, university, employment, wedding and children. It is possible that you are moving a little slower in life than others, but this does not mean that you are lagging behind. Therefore, you have such a barrier at the subconscious level that it is too late for you, for example, to go to university or change jobs.
Decision. Give yourself the setting: "Now is the time to move forward." Repeat this setting more often. Also, it can be altered for a specific situation. For example, "Now is the time to enter a university."
2. "No time." All people, successful and not, have exactly 24 hours to manage your life and make her happy. Only each in his own disposes of his time and spending it on their goals. Write a list of what you spend a lot of time on, and then ask yourself how important it is to you and it may be worth refusing. For example, from social networks, watching TV, long phone conversations.
Decision. Learn how to properly manage their own time. Set priorities and follow them.
3. "Low self-esteem." Perhaps you think that you are a boring person and therefore are afraid that you will not interest other people. This is another excuse and justification of their unwillingness to do anything. Each person is interesting and individual in his own way.
Decision. "I am an interesting person, I am a person." Remember this statement and do not stop repeating it. This will not only raise your self-esteem, but also save you one more excuse.
4. "I do not deserve it." Why do you think so? Do you not love yourself so much that you may think that you do not deserve something? You do not need to limit yourself in opportunities, and understand that you, like other people deserve, to be happy. The only thing you can change is to make the right choice, which is the solution to this problem.
5. "Responsibility". This is a positive quality of a successful person, but if it is directed in the right direction. Perhaps, having a small child, you do not acquire anything for yourself, since you are responsible for the little man. You need to be a responsible person, but you should not forget about yourself, sometimes indulge yourself and make pleasant purchases for yourself, for example.
6. "No one understands me." If you need an understanding of a loved one, then try to approach him with your problems and questions when a person is ready for this. Otherwise, you may again face the problem of misunderstanding. It's time to understand that other people have no less problems, and they also get tired all day long.
7. "Nobody thinks of me." Relatives and close people think about you, but they should not remind you about it all the time. Therefore, learn to think about yourself and rely only on yourself.
8. "I'm not so smart." Perhaps you have had many attempts to become a successful person, to complete a large project, but you failed. But this does not mean that you are not smart, which means that you need to try again.
9. "Parents gave me the wrong education." You do not need to blame the parents for not giving you enough knowledge, education, and not having instilled any values. Parents love you very much and they did everything in their power. And you can start working on yourself and your education now. So chase away all excuses that are related to your parents, love them.
10. "I am not too persistent." Do you really think that the whole thing is perseverance and perseverance, maybe you are again looking for an excuse? Surely, you are engaged in an unloved affair, and you have to force yourself to work, for example. There is only one way out, try to find a job you like and then you will be pushed forward by desire and incredible strength.
