People are born, people fall in love, get married ... And the question of what should be the age difference between a man and a woman remains open: there is no one true option for all. Since Soviet times, I remember the statement that spouses must be of the same age, most advocate a difference in the range of 4-5 years, and the rest are sure that it does not matter if the husband is older or younger, the main thing is for people to be well together.
The content of the article:
The optimal age difference for spouses
Why do men marry women with a big difference in age
Psychologist's comment
Optimal span
If you ask psychologists what kind of age difference is ideal for a relationship, they will be called five to six years. Most people feel comfortable in a union where a husband is a little older than his wife and there is no big difference in age. 
Spouses are in a psychologically favorable age zone, without going beyond the framework of one generation, they are united by a similar outlook, they are concerned about common problems. It is easier for parents of the wife to communicate with relatives of the husband and vice versa.
A man who married at 28-30 years old, as a rule, is already firmly on his feet and can support his family on his own, while a woman at 22-24 is at an age ideal for childbirth. The future father consciously approaches the issue of the appearance of offspring and is able to support his wife in difficult periods of pregnancy, childbirth and raising a baby.
It is proved that in marriage with a small age difference spouses have more children.
Bes in the rib ...
However, marriages are not uncommon, where a man is 10-15 years older than a woman, or even all of 20 years. And if the difference in the age of 10 years is perceived by society as normal, then to a couple with a difference of 15-20 years people usually have questions. Such a union is uncomfortable for both sides due to the heightened interest and negative attitude of others.
The problems begin at the stage of acquaintance with parents and continue in the process of family life. The public, as a rule, "worries" the disinterestedness of a girl who agrees to live with a man who suits her as fathers, and the alleged difficulties of conceiving a child with an elderly spouse.
Negative adds the fact that a man this marriage, most often, is not the first, and the former wife and children from the previous union can seriously interfere in the relations of spouses. If you have such a case, then you should evaluate the feelings and expectations objectively and think about whether you are ready for uneasy relationships.
Aged lady
There are often situations in which the husband, not the husband, is older than the wife. A small age difference is usually invisible, and the benefits of such a marriage are obvious. A woman whose husband is younger tries to look younger and devotes more time to caring for herself. Subconsciously, she is afraid that the young spouse will pay attention to the same age or young girls, so she is often tormented by jealousy and suspects innocent hubby of adultery. At the same time, she seeks to preserve the marriage and makes considerable efforts to this.
A strong advantage of such a union is the compatibility of partners. Young tireless partner will be the joy of the ladies, who are at the peak of sexuality. In addition, an experienced and wise keeper of the hearth will be easier to treat domestic troubles and quarrels over trifles.
If you are a little older than your husband, do not boast of this difference either in jest or in earnest. It is in your power to make it so that it will not be visible to you or others.
If the age difference makes you doubt the feelings of your partner, do not rush to the registry office - live on the same territory, and time will dispel or confirm your fears.
Challenge to society
Marriages in which a wife is ten, fifteen, or even twenty years older are more and more frequent; this is a rather large age difference. From the covers of magazines, we are looked at by well-groomed celebrities who demonstrate young lovers or lawful spouses who are good for their sons.
What makes a man conclude such a union:
- admiration for an extraordinary woman - talented, very beautiful;
- psychological problem - a young man is looking for affection, care, patronage in a relationship and finds them in marriage with a mature woman of the opposite sex;
- sexuality - a guy crazy about experience, self-confidence of an elderly partner and her readiness for new experiments;
- mercantile spirit - a financially unstable man is looking for a lady who will pay for his needs in exchange for his youth and attractiveness.
Psychologists know examples of successful marriages with a large difference in the age where a woman is older than a man. But these rare exceptions only confirm the general rule - such a union 
short-lived. If you risk to link your fate with a man much younger, be prepared for the fact that the "fledgling" youngster can leave you at the most inappropriate moment.
The optimal age difference between spouses is a deeply subjective concept. However, psychologically "persistent" to the public opinion of people is not so much, and if your feelings, respect for each other and common interests are more important than the opinions of outsiders - dare, your happiness is in your hands!
Elena, Saint Petersburg
