Each of us wants to love and be loved. How beautiful it is when people find each other and their interests, views and feelings coincide. But it happens quite differently. Non-reciprocal love is often the cause of depression, apathy.
But it is impossible to conclude the whole meaning of existence in a person who does not reciprocate. If unrequited love has grown into such an unhealthy affection, this must be fought.
How to forget a loved one?
If your love has not met the response feelings, you need to try to forget about it and live on. Yes, it is not easy. But it's worth a try!
- Change the situation. If possible, try to go as far as possible from the object of unrequited love. It may be worth changing your job, city, country of residence, or just to go on a long vacation.
A change of scenery, new people, current concerns will make you look at everything with different eyes. You will feel life goes on!
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It is trite, but, nevertheless, time heals. You should not commit rash acts, hastily try to build a new relationship with anyone, or hurt yourself.
It is trite, but, nevertheless, time heals. You should not commit rash acts, hastily try to build a new relationship with anyone, or hurt yourself.Give yourself time to take a break from people, from your thoughts. Do not do anything. It will take a month, two or more and you will feel better.
- Plan your day so that it does not have a single minute for sad thoughts. Sit back in two jobs, go in for sports, or devote yourself completely to your favorite work.
As a result of your efforts at work, you will receive an improvement in your financial condition, an increase in your career. Thanks to the exercises in the gym - a beautiful figure. And permanent employment will help to relive unrequited love more easily and to distract from the object of affection.
- Do not be afraid to start a new relationship! Of course, when you feel ready for them. Comfortable relationships without a strong passion, love, affection, based on sympathy and respect - this is what you need at this stage.
If you feel that you are ready for a new relationship, do not make a common mistake! No need to start "revenge" all men (or women) because your love once remained unanswered. Other persons of the opposite sex are not to blame for the fact that previous relationships did not work out and your feelings were neglected.
How to help a loved one if he suffers from unrequited love?
If your friend is depressed because his feelings have been rejected, do not leave him alone. Now, more than ever, he needs your support and attention. The following recommendations will help to support a friend correctly:
- Do not remind of the object of unhappy love.
- Do not ask for any details about why the relationship did not work out and rejected it.
- If your personal life is all right, do not tell about it. Also avoid talking about other people's ideal relationships, weddings, and happy love stories. Such topics can hurt your friend’s feelings and remind him of his failure.
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Try to entertain a loved one. Even if he refuses, still insist on going to the cinema, bowling, in the gym or cafe. - Pretend that no tragedy has happened and life goes on. Joke, help a friend with a sense of humor to survive this difficult moment. It is important not to overdo it and avoid jokes about his unrequited love.
- If you notice a prolonged anxiety, insomnia, depression, suicidal tendencies in a close person, immediately consult a psychologist.
Try to entertain a loved one. Even if he refuses, still insist on going to the cinema, bowling, in the gym or cafe.The best help in this situation will simply be your presence in a friend's life. Let him know that he is not alone, surround him with care and warmth.
How to accept the fact that your feelings were rejected and find the strength to live on?
Most of us experienced unrequited love. Someone ran into this at 17-18 years old, someone at a more mature age. Often, even in harmonious relationships, one partner loves, and the other simply allows himself to love, using his soulmate.
Understand, love is only mutual. After all, this is a bright feeling, it should carry joy and happiness for both partners. And non-reciprocal love brings only suffering. A person whose feelings did not find the answer tries on the role of the victim. Such a position leads to self-destruction, loss of individuality. It is necessary to realize this and by all means try to get out of this pool.
People tend to idealize the object of love. But time passes, we grow, we gain experience, attitudes and values change. Life is many-sided and in a year, two or five years you will be surprised how you could have suffered so much because of another person.
In any case, you expect new meetings and mutual feelings. When you learn the joy of harmonious and happy relationships, you will not even remember your past unrequited love. Find the strength to let go of the feeling that destroys you to open your heart to a new life!
