A person can express his attitude and psychological state in different ways.
One of negative manifestations is verbal aggression. It aims to offend, touch the quick, suppress the will of the interlocutor.
This behavior is dangerous because after verbal often follows physical aggressionthat will already be regarded as a crime.
The essence of the concept
Called aggression destructive behaviorwhich is aimed at causing moral or physical pain to other people.
Such behavior is contrary to existing rules and regulations, and sometimes violates applicable law.
There are several ways to display aggression. One of these - verbal, that is expressed by words. Achieving the goal occurs with the help of bad language, rude loud remarks, insults, accusations.
According to psychologists, verbal aggression is often shown spiritually weak people from powerlessness, poor education and lack of knowledge in the field of communication.
A kind of verbal aggression is verbal violence. This is the method of controlling another person verbally.
Usually found in the relationship between a husband and wife, parents and children, a boss and a subordinate. The peculiarity of violence in the impossibility of the second hand to respond to the offender.
It is necessary to differentiate verbal and linguistic violence. Last sent on a certain class of people, for example, representatives of a certain nationality, age, etc.
Verbal abuse has specific victim.
An extreme manifestation of aggression is verbal humiliation.
It is represented by the behavior of the individual, aimed at the fall of the opponent self-esteemas well as the fall of his reputation in the eyes of other people.
The reasons
Some psychologists believe that aggression occurs in response to similar behavior opponent
However, this is not quite true. For example, a child cannot respond to the parent with the same, as well as the subordinate is forced to behave meekly with the boss because of the fear of losing his job.
The causes of verbal aggression are:
- A hostile attitude against the interlocutor, which arose for objective or subjective reasons.
- Provocative actions of the opponent.
- The behavior of the interlocutor, contrary to the norms of law and society, perceived as inadequate.
- The desire to draw attention to yourself.
- The desire to establish credibility by humiliating others.
- Low level of development, when a person cannot communicate without aggression.
- The manifestation of spiritual impotence, when the individual is simply not able to convey information in a different way.
In all cases, the motive of a person is one - this bring suffering to another. This is expressed not only in external factors, but also in the internal message.
For example, some people express obscenely, while not showing aggression. Their interlocutor perceives such communication normally and does not take offense at all. This is due to the absence of malicious intent in causing pain.
Based on the foregoing, you can determine personality type aggressive person. Most often, aggression is shown by people:
- Immature spiritually.
- Poor educated.
- Experiencing humiliation in childhood.
- Poorly educated.
That is, among such individuals most are dependent on alcohol, drugs, brought up in dysfunctional families or orphanages. Such behavior is the desire to hide their low self-esteem.
Also regular aggression can be a sign of mental illness. In educated and educated people, outbursts of aggressive behavior are usually the method of responding to negative behavior towards them or violation of social norms by other people.
Classification
The individual applies the following ways of expressing aggressive mood:
- insults;
- charges;
- obscene words;
- rude conversation;
- threats, curses;
- evil banter;
- slanderous talk;
- criticism for no reason;
- screams, tears, negative sounds.
However, by themselves evil words or obscene expressions cannot be a sign of aggressive behavior, unless they have an emotional message, that is, they do not combined with non-verbal signs, such as:
- gestures (clenched fist, waving a hand);
- facial expressions (evil facial expression);
- body position (offensive, rising);
- intonation (loud voice);
- intrusion into someone else's personal space.
Verbal aggression can be divided into the following types:
- Direct active. Insults and humiliation manifest themselves directly during the conversation of the interlocutors.
- Indirect active. The aggressor spreads gossip, slanders a man behind his back.
- Direct passive. The individual refuses to talk and communicate with the person.
- Indirectly passive. It is expressed by the refusal to defend the unjustly offended, to testify in his favor.
If direct aggression is easy to recognize, then hidden does not always show up.
Since the offender in direct communication can be benevolent and polite.
Forms of hidden aggressive behavior are:
- Condemnation, criticism. The aggressor constantly criticizes the interlocutor under the guise of a desire to help. And he praises his praise against his opponent.
- Jokes. The individual is constantly teasing and presenting it as just fun.
However, he does this with other people, not alone, which indicates his evil intent.
- Contradiction. No matter what the source says, the aggressor will always oppose his opinion.
- Belittling merit. Even if a person is honored with high awards, the aggressor will constantly argue that it was very easy and the reward was received undeservedly or “under pull”.
Aggression of children and adolescents
Very often, aggressive behavior is shown by children and adolescents.
It is associated with the formation of personality, desire to establish oneself, earn credibility among peers.
The young child initially shows aggression as an expression of his resentment and emotions. However, he assesses the result of such behavior.
If he managed to achieve the goal once, he will demonstrate this behavior constantly for toys, ice cream, etc.
At a younger age, children express aggression by shouting, weeping, and hysterics. Schoolchildren already know how to control their behavior, so their actions are purposeful.
The child is called names, makes fun of peers. Girls usually gossip, assign nicknames to others. Such children usually have low self-esteem and bad relationships with parents.
Teenagers are more sophisticated: they insult, humiliate, force to obey. Often they bring the victim to suicide.
The main provoking factors of aggressive communication of children are:
- Relationship in the family. Children observe violence among relatives, imitate parents. Often become aggressive children who themselves are subjected to humiliation by older relatives.
- Features of the nervous system. If the child has some kind of neurological diseases, he doesn’t tolerate the load, cannot withstand psychological discomfort.
- External influences. An attack of aggression can be caused by poor grades, a teacher's remark, fatigue, and a strong academic load.
Danger
Aggressive behavior is not only contrary to moral principles, but also to legislation. It can be dangerous for both the abuser and the victim.
If the victim in response will demonstrate similar manifestations, this can turn into a physical confrontation, namely, beatings, bodily harm, and murder.
For a victim, verbal aggression is dangerous because a person constantly feels humiliated, loses self-esteem and can reach suicidal thoughts.
Also a person can get used to to humiliation and to perceive them as the norm.
This happens with the child, which is constantly suppressed and scolded parents.
Having matured, such a person will tolerate the negative from other offenders.
In children, behavioral skills eventually translate into personal qualities. This leads to the development of psychopathy on the background of aggression. It also increases the likelihood of deviant behavior, disadaptation in societycommitting crimes.
How to resist?
An attack of aggressive behavior can happen any person, even the most educated and educated.
Emergency becomes a provoking factor. Usually, a mature person easily copes with himself, has the strength to admit a mistake and apologize.
You can resist any aggression from others by using the following methods:
- Ignoring. Just do not respond to the abuser, in no case do not show the same behavior. This applies to both explicit and hidden forms of aggression. For example, gossipers will lose all interest in condemnation if they do not get a response.
- Aikido principle. It should simply agree with all the claims of the enemy, thus extinguishing the conflict. He simply loses all meaning to continue further his insults.
- Appeal to the law. If the aggressor makes threats, he is sure that the victim will be frightened and will not tell anyone. Then you should let him know that he will answer for his actions according to the law. For example, to record his threats on video, to make public.
- Talk to the abuser. Sometimes negative behavior is caused by trivial misunderstanding. It should be explained to the person that no one wants him bad, to ask what caused this attitude. In some cases, it is possible to pay off the conflict once and for all.
Verbal aggression - This is, above all, a manifestation of bad manners and immaturity of the individual. She can not be justified under any circumstances.
Fight with such behavior should be in childhood. Adult aggression can be stopped by psychological methods or with the help of the law.
Psychological aikido against verbal aggression:
