We are often told that if we want life changes, then first of all we have to change ourselves. But what exactly does this phrase mean to “get better”?
Positive changes are a matter of course a consequence of the abandonment of old behavioral patterns, when a person harms his own life and causes trouble to those around him. Usually, to get better and gain new habits, it takes about 30-40 days. It is during this time that new neural connections can be firmly formed in the human brain.
Let's take a look at some simple steps that will make you truly a better person. By practicing them for several weeks, you can make new habits a part of your life.
Pay attention to how you influence others.
Everything you say or do has certain consequences. Even completely unfamiliar people are adversely affected if you raise your voice on the seller in the store, or nervously signal you are driving. Just as you influence others, others influence others, and tension grows everywhere, like a snowball. Try to communicate politely even with those who treat you unfairly. Thus, you can both become better and change the attitude of others to yourself. After all, they will not be able to demonstrate their worst qualities in response to the respectful attitude shown to them.
Think before you say anything.
More often, people suffer from hurtful and unfair words than from physical pain. Do you really need to say something offensive? How would you feel if it were said in your address? Do you use "honesty" as an excuse for unnecessary criticism? Many great and wise people in history were perceived by the wise precisely because they never expressed impulsive emotions. Their every word was valuable and measured, as they always gave themselves time to think.
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Start serving other people.
This will immediately improve you - and not only in the eyes of those you assist. Those feelings that will accompany you at the same time will help you very quickly feel like a much better person. Studies have shown that adolescents with low self-esteem are rapidly gaining confidence in themselves, starting to engage in charity.
Use your talents.
Some believe that this or that talent can only be enjoyed as a hobby. For example, a sales manager may actually be an excellent artist. If he does not develop his talent, the world will lose the chance to enjoy his works. And also those people who could learn from him to draw, will not be able to take advantage of this opportunity.
This happens when a person is not aware of their talents. Other people do not use their gifts, because once someone called them incapable in their field (although most often the reason for such attacks and assessments lies in envy). How to become better than you really are? It is necessary to use those hidden forces that everyone has. Developing your talent is one of the most effective ways of personal growth.
Work on your weaknesses.
Without being too critical of yourself, make a list of your weak points. Develop a plan to improve each of them, one for a certain period of time. For example, if you tend to work until you lose your pulse, plan a day off, take time to rest. If you find it difficult to identify your weaknesses, ask for help from close people.
Develop your spirituality.
If there is no spiritual side in your life, think about how you can fill this niche. Prayer or meditation in many ways help personal growth. A person practicing in them becomes more balanced, his life satisfaction increases. Spiritual practices allow you to develop the best qualities - will, sanity, responsibility.
Take care of yourself.
Sometimes we tend to forget our needs. This is especially true for women who stop caring for themselves under stress, family problems or low self-esteem. Those who pay attention to their health, appearance and other needs, show greater respect for the needs of others.
Appreciate those around you.
It is very easy to take people for granted. For example, your spouse prepares a delicious dinner every day, a friend always remembers his birthday, and his subordinates work hard every day. The postman, the cleaning lady, the hairdresser - so many people make our life more comfortable. Some of them we never even see. Think how you can thank these people? It can be a nice compliment, a postcard, a plate of cakes or even a gift.
Following these tips will bring you closer to big changes. Remember that it is better to do good deeds little by little, but regularly. When you have these positive habits, you can become a much better person and do good without even realizing. But it will be noticed by other people!
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