In the life of every woman there are black and white stripes, no one is immune from them. It is clear that you should not dwell on the problems, you need to look for positive moments in each situation. But what to do when life seems hopeless, and inside is not strong enough to somehow change the existing state of affairs? You need to pull yourself together and start living with a new sheet. And to do it right, read this article on how to become a happy woman without loss and mistakes.
The content of the article:
What prevents happiness
6 steps to changing yourself
Psychologist's comment
Get rid of all the excess
In order to start a new happy life, you need to get rid of everything that hinders this. What could it be? Yes, whatever, it all depends on the situation.
Unloved work - this is one of the main causes of female depression. Of course, we all want to enjoy what we do, but not everyone succeeds. Someone interferes with the material condition, someone - the fear of change.
If you feel that you can no longer tolerate the arbitrariness of your superiors or intrigues among your colleagues, or you are already sick of the monotonous paperwork, start searching for a new place. Believe me, you will not lose anything from this: it is likely that soon you will find a more interesting option for you.
Advice: if work as such suits you materially, but it seems boring, then a creative hobby can help you. Do needlework, painting, scrapbooking or wood carving in your free time. Many women began to engage in their favorite business for the sake of creative self-realization, and eventually turned the hobby into the business of their lives.
Heavy relationships are another reason why women feel unhappy. This is a very broad topic that deserves a separate discussion. Of course, if the relationship was started, it means that you initially had feelings for this person, and you will try to settle all the problems that arise between you amicably.
But there are situations when a woman is unable to maintain peace and quiet in the family (the husband suffers from alcohol or drug addiction, or the spouse beats the wife regularly), so they need to be addressed immediately. If you want to learn how to become happier, then first you need to get rid of the person who makes you unhappy.
Advice: if you are not sure whether you can live without this person, then you should not chop off your shoulder and end a long relationship in one day. Try to live separately and understand how important this relationship is to you, how you feel away from this person.
A cluttered house is a stone in every woman’s soul. Who wants to come from work to the apartment, where things fall from the upper shelves, bags have nowhere to put, and in rooms the eternal mess reigns? An uncomfortable home can cause real depression, while a clean and tidy one can be a source of good mood and a desire to work and create.
In order to turn your home into a cozy nest, first throw out all the rubbish that has been accumulated in it for years: you can give old things that you don’t carry to your friends, you can give away broken equipment, junk books, magazines and newspapers - to the reception waste paper. This can be done gradually so as not to get tired and not to abandon everything at the very beginning of the journey. Divide the apartment into zones and pay daily attention to cleaving a certain place.
Tip: after you throw away all unnecessary, you will have a lot of free space, and cleaning will be easier and faster. To create coziness, you should look into stores for your home to buy beautiful things that make your life easier and create a comfortable atmosphere. Replace the bored curtains, lay new carpets, make a permutation - to upgrade your home is not necessary to overhaul.
Take care of yourself
How to become happier? A real woman, to feel happy, must love herself. Without this, it is impossible to rejoice at new acquaintances, to be successful in your personal life and career. To finally love yourself, you need to take care of yourself and make every effort to be admired not only by others, but also by you:
- Change your image. New stylish hairstyle and beautiful makeup can turn your whole life upside down, so if you want to drastically change your life, then start with a trip to a beauty salon. Along the way, do a manicure and massage, other cosmetic procedures. After the salon, go shopping for clothes, shoes and accessories - you need to fill the empty places in the closet that appeared after you get rid of old things.
- Lose weight. Many women feel unhappy due to the presence of excess weight. In fact, it is easy to get rid of it, observing proper nutrition and doing moderate exercise 2-3 times a week. Give up flour, sweet and roast, from fast food, consume more vegetables and fruits, drink more clean water, and the changes will not keep you waiting: you will become slimmer, your skin will become smooth and elastic, fast fatigue, shortness of breath and swelling will disappear. Believe me, the rejection of snacks is worth such great changes!
- More and more thoughtful read. Choose useful books, not fiction novels that litter the brain. This may be special literature that will allow you to be more successful in your career, or self-development and motivation manuals that will teach you to live in harmony with yourself and give ideas for further direction.
- Plan your life. When you go with the flow, life becomes meaningless: you do not strive anywhere, become apathetic and lethargic, with time comes boredom and depression. To live an active and happy life, you need to set goals and achieve them. Get a diary and plan your to-do list the next day every evening. In this way, you can avoid the accumulation of unfinished tasks and gradually fulfill more global plans, step by step moving towards the final goal.
- Enjoy life every day. In fact, for many women it is difficult to learn how to see in everyday affairs a reason for joy, although they can be really happy if they look around them with different eyes. We must begin to appreciate what you have: warm relations with your husband, with whom you have been living for many years, the embrace of a child who came from kindergarten or school, the smile of a mother, the joy of a shrill puppy, who greets you from work. Most of the world's population do not have the benefits that you have: a refrigerator with food, a warm home, the Internet, or the opportunity to buy new clothes or medicines. We should be grateful for what we have, and not envy others, not to compare our wealth with the neighbor. Envy poisons the soul, making you feel resentment, bitterness and anger. And these emotions are incompatible with the feeling of happiness.
- Do good deeds every day. Selfless help to people really brings joy, so you need to show kindness more often. If it is not difficult for you, then do not refuse help to others: help a colleague with a report, move the old man across the road, visit a lonely neighbor in the hospital. Do not wait for gratitude for their work, they should bring joy already on the fact of their commission. Good deeds make us better, which means happier!
Elena, Rostov-on-Don