Man's happiness is a topic that is so deprived of attention that one involuntarily begins to wonder if there is an unspoken taboo on it. Everyone knows what women's well-being is - marriage, motherhood, home and so on. And a man? What does he need for a feeling of complete satisfaction? He built a house, planted a tree, raised his son - and that’s all, the mission is over? Or is this just the beginning? About what lies behind 8 locks and why they are read eight further.
Female look: classic mistakes
Despite the gender equation, which has reached its apogee in recent decades, the nature of the happiness of a man and a woman has many differences. But the weaker sex often refuses to admit it. According to him, happy is the man who:
- created a relationship (met a girl, won her, long courted, offered to get married)
- brings up children;
- continuously cares for the family;
- sacrificed himself for the good life of his family.
Many girls continue to believe that the opposite sex has the same values as themselves. Most do not want to accept the fact that the family does not always occupy the first place in the life of men. At the very least, serving a lady, fulfilling whims and meeting her requirements is not exactly what her husbands dream of. According to psychologists, the successful man is the one who has managed to fully realize himself in 8 guises.
Miner
It all started with the fact that even primitive people shared responsibilities between themselves: the weaker sex remained in the cave to watch the fire, and the strong one went to get the loot. Times have changed, but his desire to dominate, to fight, to mine is not.
Naturally, not everyone wants or can become a “business shark”, but everyone aspires to realize himself in his profession, job, skill. Doing a favorite business condemns success, evokes a sense of pride, sets the general background of life. It can be argued that male happiness is in status and career growth, that is, in the weight of a mammoth, who managed to fill up on the hunt.
Builder
Even in ancient times, it happened that the husband brought his wife to his house. But today, the time has erased the old ways, and the housing problem is most often solved by joint renting an apartment or moving to a companion - there is no fundamental approach. Despite this, the need to “make a hut” and become a master in it still remains. It is associated with the need to feel the boundaries of their space. "My home is my fortress," is the slogan close to the strong floor.
Regardless of the lawyer or plumber will be discussed, but in his arsenal there will always be some building attribute, for example, a screwdriver or a hammer. This once again confirms that creation is a necessary component of male well-being.
Lover
The fact that the male genital organ has always been the pride of males is not worth reminding once again. The ancient captivity believed that he possesses magical power, has a sacred philosophical meaning. With the advent of civilization, beliefs dissipated, providing a field for research by physiologists, psychologists, and sexologists.
Laid the beginning of the extension of the race and make a woman happy by satisfying sexual needs - the natural capabilities of every man. To possess them is to become an object of female admiration, or even lust. Hence the penchant for polygamy. But, this kind of loving spirit arises only in the case when a woman ignores intimate communication, refusing to accept the essence of the male nature.
Otherwise, the statement put forward by offended girls that "all men are women" is nothing more than a myth.
Husband
Every man wants to have a good wife. This fact is indisputable, as it has been proven for thousands of years. For the right to possess the heart of the beloved, they fought duels, started wars, developed strategies. True, the concept of "good" everyone puts their meaning. Someone needs a vamp woman washing dishes on his heels in a dressing-gown. Someone is looking for a real muse that can inspire a talented master. And others prefer the classic version of a companion, choosing humble housekeepers.
In fact, no matter what the portrait of the chosen one is, the main thing is to feel loved and desired.
Father
Fatherhood is an important stage in the life of any man. Extending his family, continuing the name, he finds an heir. Or an heiress. In the old days they treated newborn boys more favorably than daughters. But today the situation has changed - many dream to see their blood in a girlish appearance. Pride in posterity, a sense of usefulness, tenderness with a child gives strength to further conquer peaks or "battle with dragons." The main thing is to know that the houses are waiting, loving, respecting, and bored.
Friend
If the answer to the question whether there is a real female friendship is ambiguous, then everybody is aware of the fact that the male really exists. This sphere of life resembles a sacred territory, where outsiders (especially girls) are strictly forbidden to enter.
Having comrades with whom you can negotiate victories, share thoughts and just laugh - it means being a happy person. Communicating with friends, helping each other in trouble, talking over a beer is an integral part of a man's life.
Child
Psychologists have long been saying that in every adult "uncle" there is a naughty little boy hidden, who is just waiting for the opportunity to have some fun. That is why men do not deny themselves the purchase of new toys. Technique, all kinds of devices, cars make the eyes burn, and the heart - beat faster. Take away this opportunity to relax - and the accumulated negative emotions will trigger the onset of depression. But if the child is satisfied, played out, entertained, then success in "adult" serious matters is assured.
Philosopher
The stronger sex always has a life philosophy. Moreover, the majority comes up with it themselves, and do not look for it in the writings of ancient Greek thinkers. In the male word or action traditionally there are motive, meaning, position. This is a significant difference from women, who, on the contrary, are accustomed to trusting emotions, feelings, and intuition.
A man can devote himself to some kind of idea, the cause of his whole life, confirming one or another theory. Creating your own system of values is an important task for every philosopher. How successful this will be, how happy he can feel himself.
If you look at male happiness less globally, even small joys can bring it here and now.
17 little things that make a man happy:
- return home after work;
- embraces of native people;
- delicious cooked meal;
- hear compliments, words of encouragement or admiration;
- won bet;
- viewing an interesting match;
- a good joke;
- unexpected gift received;
- successful flirt;
- sports training, morning jog;
- sauna, massage;
- spending time with a pet;
- a small victory (something to fix, for example);
- journey;
- children's laughter;
- cooking "crown" dishes for the whole family;
- use of your favorite things: perfume, cup, pillow.
As you can see, everything is complicated and simple at the same time. On the one hand, male happiness is the maximum realization of oneself in each of the 8 guises, which requires effort, time, and perseverance. On the other hand, thanks to small things, for a few moments you can catch the feeling of comfort and euphoria at any moment. But this is life - a series of peaks, smooth roads and beautiful moments that you want to stop.
