It’s not easy to preserve initial emotions in a marriage that were literally overwhelming at first, and it never seemed to cool down. And often women are faced with a situation where the husband is no longer so gentle and attentive, and they want to return to their old feelings and make the husband fall in love again.
A woman, faced with such a situation, begins to look for help in various sources. As a rule, it is advice of girlfriends, mothers, information on the Internet. However, often such recommendations do not give a positive result, at least because no one else can penetrate your specific history and does not know all the nuances.
Bad “Classic” Tips
One of these recommendations is to cause jealousy to your spouse. Is it worth doing? First, jealousy is a negative feeling. Even if it arises, it will be some short-term manifestation. If your goal is a scandal asking “Where was it?” Or “Who called?”, Then you can try to linger at work and hide during telephone conversations. But do you want this? Secondly, jealousy is by no means synonymous with love.
I would like to say at once that any “harsh” actions on the part of a woman can end in failure of the entire mission. Therefore, you need to act smoothly and with the mind. When your husband sees that other men pay attention to you, that you are desired, he will look at you with different eyes. To do this, you do not need to act straight and flirt with every counter. It is enough to look good, smile, with self-esteem to communicate with other men, while respecting the distance.
Many women choose the strategy “I am offended” or “well, I really need to talk and find out everything”. From the point of view of the female half of humanity - they are ideal, even though they almost never give the desired result. It should be taken as an axiom that a man is not able to read minds and does not like to talk about feelings when he is asked to do so. So just do not use these “methods”.
Another piece of advice that can be found is to devote more time to yourself and your hobbies. It is difficult to argue with him, but it must also be considered from two sides. A woman should not be boring and she should not be bored herself (otherwise she just starts to “cut” a man from nothing to do). On the other hand, a man may not have enough attention of a woman, and she, being sure that she spends enough time at home, cleaning, preparing food, raising children, does not take into account his need for personal communication.
Tips that may be helpful
Recall what connected you at the beginning of a relationship, something you both enjoyed. What were you like? Probably, you trusted your spouse more, you treated his opinion with great respect.
Do not try to occupy all the space of a man. Do not call every hour, do not force to adhere to the schedule you created, plan joint free time, taking into account the interests of the spouse.
The financial issue also often becomes a stumbling block in clarifying relationships within the family. Some women try to fully control the expenses of the husband, which is wrong. Agree, there can not be a pleasant situation when you make money, but you can not take any part in deciding how they will be spent.
To fall in love with her husband again is not an easy task. Over time, people get used to each other, and communication begins to be. There is a fine line here - a woman needs to learn how to capture the mood of a man, and if he needs to be alone, have a rest - give him that opportunity. It is important to learn to develop family relationships, while maintaining each other’s personal space.
All girls know that men love with their eyes. And, nevertheless, after what time, having lived under the same roof, having given birth to a child, many of the women allow themselves to meet their husband in an untidy way, justifying it with fatigue or some other reason. Of course, at first he will love you like that, but would he like to see you in that image? Homewear should be comfortable, but even a tracksuit can be chosen so that it emphasizes your sexuality.
Never tell your husband that you are not happy with yourself. Women love to complain about excess weight, wrinkles, stretch marks - anything. A man might not have noticed these flaws, but every day you eagerly remind of them. Be confident, keep your bar. Age-related changes are a natural process that cannot prevent you from feeling like a queen.
Sex is an integral part of family life. However, sometimes, despite the fact that love making, by definition, should be enjoyable, it turns into routine duties. If you do not want the husband to look at the side in search of a way to satisfy their sexual needs, make sure that this need does not arise. Make a variety, try new poses, role-playing games. Only it is better to do it gradually, so as not to put the spouse in a state of shock - if after a quarrel you meet him in a latex suit, he may be “a little surprised”.
After the birth of children, spouses rarely find time to communicate together. More often, all conversations are reduced to the discussion of current problems and issues. Therefore, it may seem that apart from problems in life, there is nothing. Find time to walk together, talk about pleasant things, dream together. Such confidence moments will bring you closer.
Tactile contacts, touches, hugs also help maintain intimacy.
In any case, all these tips may be relevant for someone, not for someone. Never forget that there is a huge difference in the perception of the situation, its analysis, feelings in the understanding of men and women. You, knowing your man, his habits, outlook on life, using your own intuition, will much faster understand how to act. The best advice in such a situation may be the wish to let strangers into their family life as little as possible with their recommendations. And also - to keep calm, because scandals and hysteria will never give the opportunity to preserve or restore relationships.
