If you have a headache, you can take a pill. And what if the soul hurts? What is the reason for such a moral state and how to return peace and joy in your life?
What is heartache and its causes
Even skeptics who do not acknowledge the existence of the soul experience feelings of affection, love, compassion. In the case of the loss of a loved one or at the sight of someone else's misfortune, there is a feeling of heaviness in the area of the solar plexus. Often, heartache manifests itself in the form of sadness, bitterness, regret. A person literally doesn’t find a place for himself from sufferings that he cannot describe in words and convey to others.
Why does the soul hurt a person? The reasons for this may be:
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Pangs of conscience.
Pangs of conscience.When we act unfairly with other people, we offend loved ones, sooner or later comes repentance to the deed. Pangs of conscience often cause quite severe heartache. The best way to get rid of her is to ask for forgiveness from the one who has been offended and make amends.
If for some reason this is not possible, we advise you to turn to God, to put a candle in the church for the health of the person who has been hurt. If you are an atheist, write a letter with sincere apologies and burn it. Promise yourself that this will not happen again.
- Death of a loved one.
In each life there is a special circle of dear people. When a mother, father, daughter, sister, or other half leaves the life, everything loses its meaning. Mental pain literally fills every cell of the body and borders on the physical. The brain constantly brings us back memories of happy days. The realization that not returning anything literally kills physically.
It takes time for the pain of losing a loved one to go away. Give yourself the opportunity to cry, you have the right to grief. Take a vacation at work and leave all non-urgent business. Distribute the clothes and personal belongings of the deceased, mentally release him.
A close person wished you happiness and did not want to hurt you. Write him a letter, tell me what you love him, but let go. And promise that you will live the allotted time on Earth happily and keep in your heart only fond memories of the days spent together.
- Loving suffering.
Non-reciprocal love often causes heartache, which is not accepted to share with others. Those who have not experienced such feelings are unlikely to understand the torments of unrequited affection. One of the best medicines for this pain is to switch your attention to something else, to carry away yourself with work, study, physical exertion.
Plan your every day so that there is no time left to be alone with yourself. Do you feel like an unhealed wound inside? So do not try to make it even more daily torments that everything could be different. Give her time to "heal", chase away bad thoughts.
- Compassion.
Hypersensitivity to someone else's grief keeps you awake at night. You feel sorry for all those who are somehow deprived of their fate, - the elderly, the disabled, homeless animals, abandoned children. After watching the evening news, you are upset about how much injustice in our world. Compassion is a wonderful feeling that makes us human. But if it interferes with living, you need to lower the threshold of sensitivity a little.
"Increase your armor." It is not necessary to be cynical in order not to suffer from the pain of others. It is enough to realize the fact that even Mother Teresa and the Dalai Lama could not help everyone in this world. If you can support another in trouble, do a good deed, but if it is impossible, do not torment yourself. Moreover, in our world there is more good than injustice. Pay more attention to the good than to the bad.
Relationship with a loved one
People who experience mutual love feelings, have a family or spiritual relationship with each other, may experience heartache if a loved one is in trouble. This is an interesting phenomenon, not fully studied by science. If you have noticed such a thing, appreciate this gift.
But this phenomenon has a downside. Very often, feelings about loved ones who are far away are far-fetched. If your imagination often draws pictures of horrible events that can happen to children, a spouse, mother or you, then this should be fought. The reasons for this may be:
- excessive susceptibility;
- the desire to keep everything under control;
- thyroid disease;
- fear of loss or death;
- fear of the future;
- nervousness and exhaustion;
- "black stripe" in life.
In your power to deal with such states. First, try to determine for yourself why you have such thoughts. How often does this happen? Do you have panic attacks? If necessary, consult a psychologist, hand over the necessary tests. Hormonal imbalance is one of the most common causes of increased anxiety threshold.
Sometimes it is enough to set up a daily schedule, get enough sleep, devote enough time to physical exertion, eat right. Contact a general practitioner to prescribe vitamins that strengthen the nervous system. Practice relaxing breathing techniques. And get rid of the habit of controlling everything!
Depression and heartache
Moral suffering can lead to depression. In this case, it is worth sounding the alarm. We recommend contacting a psychologist. Long-term depressive states cannot be started. They can be fatal. Heart attack, stroke, suicidal behavior, refusal to eat, water, and contact with other people are just some of the “side effects” of mental pain.
Often, close people notice that a person literally fades away, but they do not take any measures. It is considered indecent to interfere in other people's personal sufferings, as we say - "to climb into the soul." But sometimes excessive tact may cost a human life.
If you notice signs of depression in a loved one or at home, consult a psychotherapist. Do not postpone the visit to the doctor. The sooner you start treatment, the sooner you will return to normal life!
Fall illusions
Mental pain is often a companion of personal growth. Stages of changing their ideological views can not pass without loss. Often the events themselves, which served as a catalyst for such changes, entail frustration, a sense of longing, pain from the fall of illusions.
The main culprit of mental anguish is often self-deception, which sooner or later can no longer completely turn a blind eye to what brings discomfort in life. A woman who justifies her husband’s inaction and alcoholism suddenly begins to realize that not everyone lives that way, and she can no longer put up with it. A man “sees his sight” one day and realizes that his other half has not loved him for a long time and is interested only in the financial side of cohabitation.
Suddenly, a student may admit to himself that he has chosen the wrong profession, and the family man to realize that by and large he is a bad father. Mother understands that her son went "on a curve path". A careerist with horror admits that his passion for work is nothing more than the fear of admitting to himself that he has nothing more to fill his life with.
Such sudden insights often entail emotional pain, but in this case it is a wonderful pain. She is the harbinger of a new stage. It remains only to draw conclusions from their mistakes and take a step forward. Do not be afraid to say goodbye to your past and your own illusions. Life is a journey. Enjoy the changes and every new twist of fate!
Elena, Moscow
