Love and self-respect is the very foundation on which a happy life is built. Even the Bible (the book is quite misanthropic) advises to love your neighbor as you love yourself. Indeed, if we do not love and respect ourselves, we will not be able to.
So, how to learn to love and respect yourself, if you have not yet been taught.
Learning to forgive
Well, how to start loving and respecting yourself, if you are not ready to forgive yourself and your loved ones? Why is it important? Just because such a ballast on the soul does not allow us to perceive ourselves as we are. Understand that everyone has the right to make mistakes and to destroy yourself for them is meaningless. Forgive and neighbors. Anger at them only hurts you. In addition, those who offended you, most likely, himself was offended.
In order to forgive, you can hold a session of meditation or just mentally let go of all the insults. It is also possible for some time to record all the insults in a notebook and burn it.
Engage in self-development
It is good if you attend personal growth trainings. But it is better if it will be long courses. Lead and independent work. In addition, try to constantly learn new and new things. Learn from those older and do not be afraid to contact a mentor.
Appreciate yourself
Examine all your talents and virtues. All of them are a reason to respect and love yourself.
- List and write down a few dozen of your talents and virtues. Think about what you value and respect yourself for, as well as what your strength is.
- Analyze your life and write down at least a dozen points, more precisely, stories, when you were able to overcome serious obstacles and solve very complex problems. You should respect yourself for them.
- Recall also all the peaks you conquered and all the goals that you were able to achieve.
- Remember all the weaknesses and weaknesses that you have managed to eradicate.
Try every day to record all your victories and recorded on them. By the way, this habit will help you live a full life.
You can even keep a diary of success.
Pamper yourself
Do not spare your favorite money. Buy only the best products and the best clothes, comfortable furniture ... Yes, all the best. So you will understand that they deserve only the best. Do not save on the person who will be next to the end of days, that is, on yourself. But it is definitely not necessary to steal money from yourself with the help of large loans.
Watch your body and health
First, you will learn how to appreciate the body as it is. Secondly, you can change what you don’t like with sports.
Change your social circle
If your friends are constantly being bullied, you obviously don’t care about loving yourself. Do not allow yourself to treat yourself badly and limit communication with those people who humiliate you. Even if it is your close friend. Yes, it is difficult, but those who really love themselves, do not allow into their lives those who mocks them. Do not communicate with the manipulators. Just do not mess with amateur self-affirmation at the expense of others.
It is best to surround yourself only with appreciative and loving people. You can even ask your loved ones what they respect and value you for, as well as what qualities they consider your best and most valuable. Record the person's opinion on the recorder, and then transfer it to your personal diary and re-read several times.
Pay attention to your cons
But not to practice samoing, but to realize what to accept, how to eat, and what to correct. Do not forget that our disadvantages are our resources, in addition, they can smoothly turn into advantages. And it is also important to understand that any quality can be good or bad only depending on your world perception: they are as they are.
Do not humiliate yourself
Especially in the presence of other people. You can laugh at yourself, but never speak about yourself negatively. This means that you allow the same to other people. It is better to write down all negative thoughts about yourself, rather than to pronounce.
Take it easy criticism
Again, you have the right to make mistakes, so criticism, especially constructive, can help you become even better. But learn to distinguish between healthy criticism and insult.
Be yourself
Even if you are not satisfied with much in yourself, for some reason you came to this world just such. So, you should not try on the role and wear masks. Just complete your mission. Individuality is priceless. You need to treat yourself as the best friend. Understand that you are alone and will not be there. Well, do you really enjoy being alone with someone you reject and accept? That is why it is necessary to appreciate and love yourself.
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