This problem is as old as the world: an intimate relationship with a married man is far from uncommon. There are plenty of reasons for the emergence of such connections: single women always want love, and, alas, there are always not enough normal, unemployed men.
Due to their natural polygamy, the stronger sex is often unable to be faithful only to his wife, so almost every second girl receives the status of “married man's mistress”.
The content of the article:
Story One: "The Second Family"
The second story "A friend - the husband's lover"
Why is it bad to be a married man's mistress
Psychologist's comment
If a woman wants to maintain the joy of life, being in such a relationship, she needs to observe the main rule of communication with a married man - not to fall in love.
However, not everyone succeeds in this, and therefore there are intractable love triangles that poison not only the deceived wife and unhappy mistress, but also the “hero of the occasion” who is forced to rush between two fires.
There are several options for the development of the situation, examples of which are many in real life. Perhaps, having read these two stories, you can take a different look at your relationships and draw the right conclusions.
Jealous daddy
Marina met Nicholas at the age of 22, when she had just graduated from the university. Full of bright hopes for the future, she was looking for work in her specialty, but so far nothing worthwhile has come across. The money sent by her mother for the first time in the city gradually melted away, and she already began to worry about how she would live.
It was then that Nikolai appeared in her life. A solid, held man, older than her by 10 years, he seemed to her a savior and protector. His beautiful courtship favorably distinguished him against the background of inept attempts by former fellow students to please her. Marina fell in love with all her heart, so she did not immediately realize that there was another woman in his life. And not one, but with two small children.
When he told her about his wife and children, it was already too late: Marina was in the second month of pregnancy. Abortion was out of the question: problems in the female part threatened her further possibility of being a mother again, so she decided to give birth. Moreover, Nicholas cared for her, like a dad: he rented an apartment, put it on head to head, regularly brought food and money so that she did not need anything. It was then that she began to call him "daddy."
Of course, Marina was glad that she would soon become a mother, but she was not at all happy to have the status of “married man's mistress”. Soon after the daughter went to the kindergarten, Marina got a job at the hairdresser. It was arguing: clients began to go to her house, and soon Marina began to work independently and earn good money.
Nikolai continued to visit her and in every possible way to take care of her, carefully watched so that she did not go anywhere without him, was jealous of "every post." Marina's feelings began to fade away: Nikolay never left his wife, and she wanted to have a man next to him who would not go to another family, but completely belonged to her. But she never met another: the influential Nicholas stopped all her attempts to meet another man, even hired a private detective who followed her every step.
Now Marina is 48. My daughter learned and moved to Moscow. Nikolai still lives with his wife, justifying it by the fact that she has cancer and he cannot leave a sick woman. And Marina continues to take clients and gossip with them about their personal life, about their novels. About what she never had in her life: about freedom of choice, about the vicissitudes of love relationships, about joint trips abroad. And in the evenings she sits alone in her rented apartment and is sad that she is just the mistress of a married man, that she never had and will no longer have a real family.
Punishment for passion
Karina was never an obedient girl: in her childhood she was a storm of yard boys, a ringleader and a hooligan. Her character has not changed with age: she always sought what she wanted, regardless of circumstances and other people's feelings.
It happened with Oleg. Both of them were students of the Moscow university when their feelings were born, and Oleg was engaged to another girl, but Karina took him almost out of the crown. Dizzy novel was the beginning of a happy family life. Soon Karina became pregnant, and together they moved to a quiet small town to raise their first child there.
Sluggish life in the province bored Karine very quickly. Despite the fact that she and Oleg started a family business, and things were quite enough, Karina felt bored. She wanted some kind of extreme sports. Soon they got acquainted with a married couple, with their peers, and friendship began between them. They began to go on nature together, to visit each other. Karina fell in love with Sergey, the spouse of her friend Nastya, and set herself a goal to seduce him.
After a couple of months, she succeeded, and Karina became the mistress of a married man. Their relationship lasted for almost half a year, until Nastya found out about everything. Being passionate in nature, Nastya came to Karina's home and pounced on her with her fists. Oleg was at home, and immediately found out about everything. When Nastya managed to calm her down, he took her home and returned to Karina. After a serious conversation, they decided to save the family and no longer recall it. But it was not there.
Nastya's family has broken up, and she wholeheartedly wanted to punish the separated girl. Without thinking twice, she went to a local fortune-teller, who was rumored to be defiling. Giving the last money, Nastya asked the witch to make Karina unhappy for the rest of her life.
It is likely that what happened soon in Karina’s life was a coincidence, but Nastya soon received news that Karina’s husband, Oleg, had crashed in a car accident with their son. After burying both her husband and son, Karina started to drink from a terrible depression and started the whole business. Of course, Nastya did not want death for Karina’s husband or son, but she was happy about the collapse of her ex-girlfriend’s happy family life.
The pain and suffering of mistresses
When it comes to the relationship of girls with married men, it is customary to pity the deceived wife and curse the mean rupture women who break families. Although it would be right to first understand the situation, because one person cannot be guilty.
Many girls become mistresses by chance, not knowing that their elect has a family. Men who want to have an affair on the side, rarely talk about their status at the first meeting: they understand that a rare woman will agree to start a relationship with a married man. Of course, there are exceptions, but for the most part, women do not want to build their happiness in another's grief.
For married men, a love affair with another often does not go beyond the framework of an affair, while young ladies who find themselves in the status of a mistress hope for more: that he will leave the family in order to create a new one with her. But this happens very rarely: why should a man leave his old nest and his wife, tested in difficult life situations, the mother of his children, the co-owner of family business and real estate? It is likely that he may not love her, but besides the love of a married man there are other, in fact, more serious obligations.
Therefore, before continuing relations with a married man, 90% pre-doomed to failure, it is worthwhile to think carefully: is it necessary to spend several years of your life on fruitless expectations? And whether it will be sweet - happiness, built on other people's tears?
Olga, Kaluga
