How to become an interesting conversationalist
The sociable benevolent person, as a rule, is perceived by others as a good interlocutor to whom people are drawn and with whom there is always something to talk about. An interesting companion is always remembered. The ability to keep up the conversation, listen with interest and express your opinion correctly are very important qualities for everyone who wants to make a dizzying career or achieve success in society. A clever person intelligently builds a dialogue (in the right way), always finds the necessary and timely words in order to get out of any situation with dignity.
There are certain recommendations, adhering to which you can become an interesting conversationalist and gain a reputation as a pleasant person to communicate, in front of which many doors open.
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1.During a conversation with a group of people or with one person, try to ask a lot of specific questions regarding the subject you are interested in.
Such a simple dialogue will enable him to easily and harmoniously develop. No one is eager to listen to long monologues, and the questions you ask will give the opportunity to the interlocutors to express their own point of view, to share their painful.
In this case, you, as a true conductor, will be able to dominate and direct the conversation in any direction. Remember that asking a question and listening to a person’s point of view, you must respond to share your thoughts on this. The dialogue will look weird if it consists only of your questions and answers of the interlocutor, because this is not an interview.
2. This rule is perhaps the most important.
Never interrupt your opponent, be extremely attentive to the words of the person. Having learned not just to politely but to listen with interest (and to hear!) Another, you will achieve your goal to be a sociable and interesting conversationalist by 50%. The ability to listen to the opinion of a person tells the other person that you treat him with confidence and understanding. In the case when you do not agree with the stated theses, you will still show respect for the opinions of others (albeit radically different from yours). Carefully listening to the person, you show him your empathy. But after the interlocutor said everything, you can share your point of view on the subject under discussion.
3. You should learn to talk about yourself, about the events in which you participated.
After all, something funny and interesting happens to everyone. It is enough to be able to convey this to others in the form of a colorful and fascinating story. To study and practice, read or listen to interviews of famous people, pay attention to other people's stories about cases from your life. Perhaps this will inspire you and give impetus to new ideas.
4. Sense of humor - the key to success.
Without him, becoming a great companion will not work. It is so important at the right time to be able to discharge a sudden joke in the process of communication with a cheerful joke or phrase. Note that vulgarity is not allowed in any form! Humor should be, as they say "in the subject."
5. Commendations and compliments are an integral part of the ability to maintain a conversation.
Everyone knows that everyone loves to accept praise and approving comments. Speak compliments only sincerely - the falsity is almost always felt and from the side looks like a trivial sneak. You can praise any phrase expressed by a person, his taste or manner.
6. Engage in expanding your vocabulary, try to study completely different aspects of life.
In order to feel comfortable and confident in any conversation and in any company, you simply have to be a diversified person. Pay attention to the latest trends in the fashion world, be interested in sports news, be aware of changes in politics and economics, follow the events in cultural life, etc. After all, all this will pay off and will help you to be an interesting person with whom there is always something talk and what to discuss.
7. Your diction must be clear.
You should not mumble under your breath, so that the interlocutor listened to the words with tension. Speech should not be too quiet, but not loud, not sluggish and monotonous, but also to say the patter is undesirable. Follow this golden mean.
8. In relation to other people need to be benevolent.
Give up forever rudeness. It is highly undesirable to criticize a person, even if what he does seems to you to be wrong or he does the work worse than you do. Placing yourself above the other, fascinated by bragging and self-admiration, you will gain a negative reputation.
9. During a conversation, look into the eyes of a person.
Try to control facial expressions and your gestures. In order not to alienate the interlocutor and not to cause his irritation, do not take a bored look, do not pinch or do not fall into another extreme - do not show violent emotions, accompanied by waving his arms like a windmill.
And most importantly, it is your sincere desire and desire to become an interesting interlocutor, believe me, this is not at all difficult!
