In all the troubles and failures, in everything bad that happens (lack of money, own housing, car, good food, happiness) someone is to blame. Blame strangers, relatives, government, circumstances, the weather ... But not me! So think people who have not yet understood that everything in this life depends only on them. Putting the blame on other people or circumstances only dooms new disappointments. Your personality is the real key to success in all conditions. Perhaps 6 principles will help her to fully open up, about which you did not know before or simply did not notice their influence on your life.
1. Your value does not depend on the opinions of others.
You should not dwell on what outsiders think of you. It is possible, occasionally, to listen to their opinion, making adequate objective conclusions for oneself, is necessary. But you should not change the direction of its movement just because the wind blows in your face. What others think or say about you will not make you smarter or smarter, prettier, smarter, or vice versa. You will remain as you are, until you decide to change. So, the influence of the opinions of others on your behavior is not completely justified.
2. The best answer is your accomplishments.
Hatred, ridicule and insult of those who wish you evil should not be a burden for you and pull to the bottom. Turn them into an incentive. Succeed. Let those who foretold your defeat understand how wrong they are and admit it if they have enough spirit.
3. Necessary conditions for growth - challenges and difficulties.
Without them, many people simply will not have an incentive to do something. Why, if a delicious dinner is brought to you on a plate with a gold border ?! But if there is nothing to eat, then you begin to think about how to make money on food. And you begin to act. This is a figurative comparison, suitable for almost any example from life. Due to difficulties, we change: we study, we develop, we become better.
4. Aggression on aggression is useless to answer.
If you are insulted, screaming at you or trying to unbalance - do not give in. I want to answer one. But here you need to clearly understand that either a person provokes you specifically, which means he needs to ensure that you answer the same, or he is not quite adequate, then he has no need to prove something or try to establish a dialogue. Just step aside. By responding with aggression, you will only increase the flow of negative energy, which will exacerbate the conflict. Be smarter than your offender. Let him feel that he won. And the fact that this is actually a defeat, he will understand himself, in time.
5. Supporting loved ones is an important component of success. Parents who love their child and believe in him do a great job, forming confidence in him. Family and children who, under any circumstances, support and help, deprive a person of excessive fear of suffering defeat, thus encouraging him to take action.
6. Always choose happiness only. Other options for you should not exist. Do not hesitate.
