When a loved one appears, life acquires a new meaning, is colored with all the colors of the rainbow, and the feeling of happiness does not leave. But what to do if the feeling was unresponsive, or the relationship ended not on your initiative? It seems impossible to forget the one you love, but you need to continue to live on.
The content of the article:
How to say goodbye to the past
How to live without a loved one
Psychologist's comment
Say goodbye to the past
For a girl it is very important to learn to understand that a person who could not appreciate her is simply not her man. Patience and fantasy in the aggregate with the hope of the best very often play a cruel joke - by embellishing the reality, women cease to live in the present, hoping that the man will change.
If the guy is gone, you need to realize that the relationship is in the past, do not try to return it, you need to boldly look into the future. You can often hear the advice that is to be destroyed, burned, torn all things that are associated with this person. You should not do this - it is part of your life, and sooner or later you will be able to quietly indulge in memories. Of course, it is recommended to remove joint photos from the eyes, let them lie in the far corner of the cabinet, waiting for the moment when you smile away dust from them with a smile.
It is very difficult to control emotions and understand that the past will not happen again. I would like to wander through the streets by the hand with my beloved, review the film you like with him, fall asleep, with your nose buried in the shoulder. But this will not happen. Try to introduce instead of him another man - beautiful, loving you and confident in the joint future. Perhaps you are just afraid of loneliness? Allow yourself to start a new happy relationship - and everything will be fine.
Be sure to express your emotions, do not keep them to yourself. Weep, beat the dishes, shout (but not at the loved ones) - let the unnecessary energy come out, freeing up space for new feelings.
How to live without a loved one?
Any person has advantages and disadvantages. While we love, we notice only positive qualities. Sometimes, in order to stop loving you, it is enough to soberly assess the situation: if a person has repeatedly failed to fulfill his promises, behaved disrespectfully towards you, changed, these are serious reasons for not being upset about the end of a relationship. If there are none, you can always find others: snoring, throwing socks, watching TV shows - remember everything, even the most insignificant trifles.
It would be better if you try to exclude the possibility of seeing this man. Get to work or school by another route, change your favorite cafe. If you are forced to communicate with him, keep this communication to a minimum and do not express unnecessary emotions.
Love yourself under any circumstances. Take care of yourself and watch your appearance. No wonder they say that a new dress for a woman is the best medicine. And if you add to it beautiful high heels, then this is a serious bid for the beginning of a new life. Remember that stretched sweater, old jeans, unkempt hair will not attract attention to you. What will you do if you meet your Prince in this form? And for this meeting you should always be ready.
Most likely, many of those who know about your experiences, say that life does not end there. You, of course, resist, insisting that a continued existence without a loved one is meaningless. Let's say! There is a great solution: make a list of what you would like to do in your life. Pat the giraffe, write a song, climb to the top of the mountain? Write into it everything that comes to mind - the more points, the better. Now start to implement everything. This is really the best method. It will allow not only to distract from sad thoughts, but also to feel how interesting life is.
Sport is a great way to throw out negative energy and offense that has accumulated. Appeared cubes press raise self-esteem, and the beautiful and muscle-playing guys in the gym quickly dispel melancholy.
A romantic date can also lift your spirits. It is not necessary to go there with the thought that after it some kind of relationship should start. But for a woman it is extremely important to see that she is of interest to the opposite sex. Just enjoy the pleasant company, and then - who knows, maybe in a week you will have a new love. This method helps to understand that all the positive emotions that have been experienced with your beloved boyfriend can be repeated.
Feel the beauty of independent living. Now you don’t have to make excuses if the meeting with the girlfriends has dragged on, to explain why you brought a kitten from the store instead of bread, to watch action films. Now you can afford to do whatever you want, which is great.
There is always the possibility that a person who has experienced a difficult period in his life decides to return. But before you make a decision, consider whether you are ready to take the risk and whether a man is worth, because of which so many tears have been shed, one more chance.
Yaroslav, Vidnoye
