Every day every person manipulated on the part of stronger personalities.
These individuals own NLP management techniques people and use their knowledge and skills for personal gain, more often it is a material goal.
If you know the basics of these techniques, you can resist manipulators, psychics and hypnotists.
Concept definition
The term "manipulation" is derived from two Latin words "hand" and "fill".
That is, the manipulator, using various techniques, tries to “fill his hand” - reach the goal.
From the point of view of psychology, manipulating people in communication means providing a socio-psychological impact on people in order to change their perception, thinking and consciousness.
This effect is carried out hidden by deception and pressure on the weaknesses of the opponent.
However, the manipulation not always negative. For example, the state with the help of social advertising convinces people to give up bad habits.
Secrets, methods and techniques
NLP stands for neuro-linguistic programming. It implies a hidden impact. for each person individually and for society as a whole.
This line of practical psychology was founded in the mid-20th century by California scientists Grinder and Bendler.
NLP is a set of psychotechnical techniques that, on the verbal and non-verbal level, lay in the mind of a person certain attitudes.
Using these techniques, the individual can influence opponents, achieve their goals in personal relationships, successfully negotiate, win over their boss, etc.
Some technicians are very complex, they are taught in special schools. But there are very simple manipulation techniques that each individual applies throughout life even not realizing it.
Basic techniques that use manipulators:
- Joining (adjustment). This technique is often used by fraudsters.
To win over the interlocutor, you need to start copying his behavior (facial expressions, gestures).
- Technique rapport. After establishing contact with the interlocutor, the manipulator creates a trusting atmosphere. For example, he says that he can solve a problem, suggest a way, etc.
- Reception "Three YES". After creating the trust space, the manipulator proceeds to the solution of the main problem. To do this, he asks three questions to which the interlocutor must answer positively. For example: "Do you live in this city?". After a series of such questions, he goes to the main point: “Could you borrow me money?” To this question, he usually also receives the answer “yes.”
- Pattern breaking technique. It implies doing the opposite of what your opponent expects. This technique works well in personal relationships. For example, on the first date a girl is invited not to a restaurant, but to some unusual place.
- Switching attention. This technique is based on the ability of human consciousness to focus only on one area. This technique is used by magicians and scammers.
- Technique of reference. After the complete mastery of human consciousness, the manipulator can do anything with it. For example, scammers on the street are asked to guard their things, while they themselves at this moment steal valuables and money from their interlocutor.
These techniques are owned by gypsies, this explains the fact that the deceived people do not understand how they gave them everything that they had.
Life examples
The above techniques are mainly used by fraudsters and illusionists. However, there are several techniques that people use in everyday life.
- Cheating. Often the child comes up with the fact that he was robbed by bullies to avoid punishment for the money spent. Also, parents and teachers often hear "fairy tales" about a terrible headache, temperature, which the child uses as an excuse for unrealized lessons.
- Excessive care. For example, my husband suddenly brought order to the apartment and bought food so that his wife would let him go fishing. The same technique is used in advertising when they say: "We care about your health," and mean: "Buy our products."
- Replay. Favorite welcome advertisers. If every day a person is told that this is the most useful milk, then you can increase sales.
The victims of this technique are often children whose parents have already programmed their future and say the same thing every day.
The grown-up child will see only one way in life and will be afraid to take a step to the side.
- Conclusion on the emotions. A person who is in a psyche or anger does not control his actions, so you can get anything from him. For example, the opponent consciously displays the interlocutor on emotions, and then begins to calm him down. At this point, you can convince him to make the right decision.
- Temptation. Excellent reception to undermine the reputation or shake the business. Millions of men lost their capital lost their careers because of the women who were sent to them by competitors. The same technique is used by marketers. Who will be able to resist the "last opportunity to buy with a 50% discount."
- Blackmailing. Very successfully used in personal relationships. For example, ex-wives are blackmailed by children to get material support from their husband.
- Formation of guilt feelings. The main thing is to make your opponent guilty, then you can achieve what you want from him. For example, the husband came home in the morning, and his wife "unwound" him for it on a new fur coat.
- Irony. The purpose of the manipulator is to saddle a man by ridicule. For example, adolescents are so tempted by classmates to drink alcohol, etc., making fun of a friend, because he is not like them.
- Flattery. "How many times have the world been told that flattery is vile, harmful ..." However, this method does not lose its effectiveness. It is enough to make a couple of compliments to the interlocutor, as he is already “ready.”
Especially flattery is suitable for people with high self-esteem and lack of attention.
- Provoking pity. This is the business of beggars, when they allegedly raise money for treatment. Wedding swindlers rely on the feeling of feminine pity. They ask women for money in order to pay off extortionists, pay a loan, and make an operation to their mother.
Manipulation of society
Manipulation of the mass consciousness of society or the opinion of the people is a vast and rather complex process. This is usually done through the media. The main effective methods of exposure:
- Divert attention. Public attention is switched from important issues to others that either do not concern them or are of little significance. For example, to twist on all television channels a plot about an earthquake of some African country, and at this moment to approve unpopular bills.
- Create a problem and suggest a solution. For example, to allow illegal construction, and then pass a law that would allegedly protect the rights of co-investors, and in fact increase the cost of housing.
- Gradual implementation. To take an unpopular measure, you need to implement it immediately. An example is the adoption of a law on resort collection. Now they offer to collect 10-30 rubles, then the amount will be increased.
- Communication with people, as with small children. Most propaganda speeches are written as if they were addressed to children or mentally disabled people.
The manipulator explains everything “on the fingers”, this allows you to avoid critical evaluation of his performance.
- Challenge of emotions. People under the influence of emotions are blocked in their ability to think critically. In addition, it is easier to act on the subconscious of the people.
- Block people from accessing true information, praise ignorance. This is reflected in the broadcasting of stupid broadcasts on TV, the propaganda of vulgarity and bad manners.
- The degradation of the mental abilities of the people. A person who feels stupid and uneducated, will never decide to resist or strike.
How to learn to manipulate?
In fact, learning to manipulate people is not so difficult. The art of manipulation is based on the feelings of the opponent. Not always manipulation is bad.
Sometimes with the help of the influence on the human psyche, you can help him get out of depression or set on the right path. In order to achieve your goal and not be exposed, you should study the algorithm of human exposure:
- To study the interlocutor. His weaknesses and the mistakes he made are important. This will make it possible to understand how he behaves and thinks in a certain situation. For example, some people make mistakes when they are angry, others succumb to female charms, etc. When using NLP techniques, they rely on a person’s greed, fear, temper or pity.
- To begin the impact through emotions. This is the shortest and surest way to achieve the goal. First, the interlocutor should cause the emotion to which he is most susceptible. For example, all gambling, pyramids and lotteries rely on human greed and love for freebies. It is enough to promise a person that he will win a million, as he is already carrying his hard earned money to the manipulator.
- Another emotion for manipulation is anger. In business and politics they often use the technique of putting people together. For the formation of aggression only a minor excuse is needed and it is already possible to direct the opponent’s anger in the right direction. Manipulation through envy is common everywhere. People polls get loans to buy the same car or phone as their neighbor. Parents give the last money so that the child does not look worse than other schoolchildren.
A more reliable method is through mind exposure. At the same time, this method is more complicated and longer. People tend to think logically, they successfully form a causal relationship.
In this situation it is important create the initial link of the logical chainso that the opponent himself built the necessary connection. Then, in the consciousness of the individual, a certain pattern of life is formed, according to which he follows.
For example, people were convinced that initial capital is needed to start a business. If it is not, then you need to take a loan from a bank.
Many would-be entrepreneurs do that, and then remain at the broken trough. And no one will tell you that there are many alternative ways to open a business without attracting credit funds.
The basics of art
A manipulator is an ordinary person who studied simple methods of influence on people's minds and successfully use them.
How to manipulate people? The basic principles of manipulation:
- Appealing to the other person with the help of emotions.
- Use simple, accessible arguments.
- All judgments must be expressed in a dogmatic form that cannot be challenged.
- Repeated repetition of the main idea that should be conveyed to the interlocutor.
- Profitable thoughts for the speaker are consecrated in detail, unfavorable thoughts are fluently.
- Application of sensational information.
Impact with words
Word manipulation refers to methods verbal exposure.
The greatest success is achieved by people who can speak intelligently and beautifully.
To achieve your goal need to learn a few simple rules:
- Always in the conversation to mention the name of the opponent.
- Use flattery. The fine flattery, flavored with emotions, works smoothly.
- Apply a repetition technique. Repeat the phrase said by the interlocutor, changing it somewhat. Then the person will feel in the interlocutor "soul mate".
How to stop manipulating people?
Often a person is so fond of manipulation that applies it unconsciously in relationships with loved ones.
Sometimes, it is very harmful to personal and social relationships.
To get rid of addiction should stop playing the role of the victim, put pressure on pity. For the victim is characteristic blame everyone in their troubles: spouse, boss, children, state.
Such people try to achieve goals in different ways:
- through scandal;
- with tears;
- using threats;
- staging a disease.
Sometimes the individual is so intertwined with the role of the victim that he can not remove this mask. He should take responsibility for actions on himself, then the events of life will begin to take shape differently.
Manipulating people - simple science. In order not to become a victim of rough manipulation, it is necessary to disconnect emotions and connect the mind in communication with people. The less a person will know about the life of his opponent, the more difficult it will be to apply the effect.
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