Why are positive feelings and emotions so important? Without them, a person begins to slowly but surely fade away, he gets the feeling that everything is fed up. Why do people suddenly stop responding to happiness? What are the symptoms and effects of this condition? And most importantly: how to return the joy of life after an emotional burnout? Read more in this article.
Why is the feeling “all tired”
Emotional burnout is a syndrome of increasing devastation of all experiences, feelings, emotions. It is accompanied by apathy (indifference, loss of strength), social alienation, decline in productivity. Most often, a psychological problem arises on the basis of professional fatigue. The main reasons for its occurrence are:
- intense routine work, which is accompanied by stress;
- lack of remuneration for work and, as a result, - a sense of their own worthlessness, uselessness;
- frequent interaction with other people's negative emotions. Doctors, teachers, even psychologists often encounter such situations;
- drinking alcohol as a way to avoid problems instead of solving them.
I'm sick of living like that
What threatens to ignore the syndrome? In advanced cases, there are disorders of the neurotic type, as well as diseases associated with psychosomatics. As a result of a long lasting depressed state, thoughts arise “I kind of want to live, but I am tired of living.” Such a phrase is a road leading to suicidal tendencies.
No, this does not mean that every emotionally devastated person is doomed to death. But the fact that the syndrome delivers a lot of inconvenience, spoils life a lot, is a fact. 100 out of 100 patients are exposed to negative thoughts and feelings affecting health.
In order to enjoy life, with emotional burnout it is better to start fighting at the first manifestations of it.
What to do when all tired
Search yourself in different cultures
Of course, we are talking about travel. But hotels with a few stars, casinos, beaches, swimming pools are not the only locations where you can go abroad. So that tourism combines business with pleasure, it is good to visit:
- national parks, gardens;
- art museums;
- significant architectural structures;
- inconspicuous antique souvenir shops on the outskirts of the city;
- unique national holidays - German Oktoberfest, Venice Carnival, Hindu Festival of Colors (Holi), etc .;
- palaces, castles;
- natural wastelands - jungles, deserts, steppes, mountains - along with experienced guides.
Some sites will be free of charge, others will require a small amount. As a result, it turns out that the tour will cost much less than a hotel room or a trip to a good cafe.
We should also mention the temples of different religions and cults. The possibility of visiting them is better to ask guides or locals. For the majority of spiritual shrines it is unacceptable that a non-Jewish person cross their threshold. Some, on the contrary, welcome strangers, share all sorts of secrets, techniques for a symbolic donation to the needs of the temple. For individual institutions will require specific knowledge of ritual clothing, method of greeting, behavior in general.
Lead a furry friend
Studies show that dog owners live longer. Charming four-legged friends really make life longer, filled with meaning. It is much nicer to come home, knowing that there is already someone waiting. If the search for the halves or friends has not yet been crowned with success, this is a good excuse to look into a dog shelter or buy a puppy on the market. Happy dog lovers say that with the advent of their furry friends, they have become:
- responsible, independent;
- active, sociable;
- self-confident;
- less susceptible to colds, some allergic reactions;
- optimists got rid of depression, neurosis.
As for cats, they are considered to be real stress healers. Rumbling cats soothes, relieves insomnia and ... strengthens the immune system. However, it is worth remembering that the pet breed plays a huge role. Some pets will easily get rid of unnecessary worries, others - will bring even more trouble.
Turtles, fish, birds, and other animals that can be kept at home can also calm the nervous system. But their influence is not as strong as the energy that a person receives from a dog or cat.
Say goodbye to the network
The Internet creates the illusion of popularity, active communication. Conversation in real conditions is filled with emotions, their manifestation. Correspondence in the chat provokes the development of isolation, complexes, social exclusion.
A typical picture: a teenager sits at a computer, scrolls through the news feed and sends interesting posts to a friend. What does an ordinary person do when he likes something or seems funny? He smiles or laughs. What is this teen doing at the computer? Sends a cheerful smile, while sitting with a detached or bored facial expression. In fact, he traded his emotions, their expression into simple pictures.
Conclusion: if a person does not react visually to good events or things, he ceases to feel joy from them and internally. And then - hello, depression, fatigue, indifference to life. Conversations in social networks can be useful only when they serve as an addition to real communication, and not as a substitute.
Use the day differently
The vicious circle “home - work” does not bode well. Even if the profession brings pleasure, it serves both as a way of earning and a hobby, it is still desirable to change activities periodically. To diversify your day, get rid of the routine, you can:
- change the way of life and sleep schedule according to your biorhythm (owl, lark, pigeon);
- set aside hours or minutes for regular walks, visits to clubs or entertainment;
- reduce the amount of time allocated to the Internet, watching TV, or replace it with something more useful;
- find the most convenient watch for food, try to eat at the same time;
- insert into the schedule half an hour, which will be spent solely on yourself;
- to get to work not by car or public transport, but on foot or by bicycle;
- in advance to consider purchases in the daily routine.
The point is to add more effective rest and reduce negativity. Creating a schedule, you can also count on saving money. The refusal of frequent visits to Internet sites, chaotic snacks will already make time and money that can be spent on something more useful.
If a couple of points go against the working time, it’s real to find a compromise. However, in cases where the work does not allow organizing at least half of the indicated changes, this is a serious reason to think about changing vacancies.
Try to get rid of stress factors.
Fully say goodbye to them is unlikely to succeed. But you can reduce the amount of negativity. Work, relationships with family, partner, friends, self-realization - the areas where stress occurs most often. Finding the main source of negativity, it is better to eliminate it immediately.
Changes are not an easy step, but they develop, temper, shape character. New job does not bring so much money? But she does not take away the nerves. To part with your loved one is hard? But at night it will be possible to sleep without thinking about adultery, about other unsolvable problems in the relationship. Scary to move from their parents? On the other hand, constant comparisons with older children, humiliation in the form of passive aggression and so on will cease.
The burnout syndrome is accompanied by a breakdown, unwillingness to do anything, so the changes for people with this symptom will be difficult. However, they are worth it.
Become a different person for a day
And again about the “reforms”. Virtually every person has intrinsic qualities that few people show or are completely ignored. The reasons may be:
- fear of convictions, non-compliance with other people's expectations;
- fear of loneliness, failure of loved ones;
- indecision;
- low level of self-knowledge;
- laziness, infantile dependence on outside help (responsibilities, responsibility for life is shifted onto the shoulders of other people, more often - parents or spouses).
The first three options are decided by discarding doubts, stepping through their fears. Native people will try to understand and accept any changes. As for the rest, the opinion of society is now given too much importance. The main thing is not to go against the laws of morality and jurisdiction, the rest is possible.
The fourth reason is eliminated with the help of a detailed analysis of their desires, goals, and ambitions. It is possible to do it yourself, but if the task seems difficult, it is better to contact a psychologist.
And finally, the fifth point is an occasion to take on yourself. Sooner or later, those who perform duties instead of an infantile person will leave, will be engaged in something else. Then such a person will be defenseless in front of life circumstances, unable to cope with basic things. It is not surprising that the forces will be at zero, and the desire to cope with everything will not increase. So close to depression. That is why parents' over-trust is so much condemned by psychologists.
In general, the advice “to become another person” means “to become true to you”. To those who play someone else's role, happiness does not come.
If everything is tired, burnout syndrome takes away the last joy, it is better to look for ways out right away. Years of happiness are worth fighting for.
