Loving what you do is a new trend. Choose a work of your heart, stop fading in the office space and do what you've been dreaming about all your life. Hurry up! You have only one (you hear! Carefully!) ONE life. But you don’t want to wake up at 50 and realize that all the time has passed for nothing? Then start today and your path to your dream job will be a step shorter!
Our ancestors were more fortunate - the pyramid of their needs was the same, but only a small percentage of people had the opportunity to reach the very top of the triangle. Today we have everything to survive, there is not only one useful skill - to want. Hear yourself. Want not a chocolate bar or a car, but want to create or at least do.
In this article there will be no motivation and kicks to change jobs. There will not even be obvious facts that you don’t like something in your life (bingo!). In this article, Our site invites you to take a step towards your inner emptiness and say to her "Hello, have not seen each other for a long time!".
Emptiness?
Since childhood, the road was straight and clear. Of course, with dangerous slopes, where you could safely roll down to the bottom, getting a top three, or by contacting the "bad company." Wipers ruled at the bottom, and there was no way back.
Good children walked carefully and obeyed adults. Adults did not advise the bad, but actively imposed and controlled desires. And their hearts increasingly expressed love for the right choice.
Depression begins to form in this place. This depression did not come to you at work, at the institute or marriage, it came to you in early childhood.
From a certain point in life, the child knows that there is a behavior that leads to success, acceptance and love, and there is another. Unhelpful. Usually this “unhelpful” and “stupid” is the creative part of the child that is responsible for dreams, creativity and creativity. The individual and unique part of the personality. Refusing this part of yourself, a child grows up into an adult who does not know how to dream, want and does not experience deep joy from satisfying his needs. There is a feeling that something good has happened, but inside is emptiness. And an adult is doomed to try to fill this emptiness with his whole life (hello to dependencies, sex and rock-and-roll!) Until he returns his abandoned part, which is responsible for this awareness of happiness and pleasure from life.
What does work have to do with it?
Before a person goes to work, he is usually very serious and busy. Finish school, graduate university, build a career. It will take a long time before a person can become aware of the presence of inner emptiness. The household and working life of a young man is 100% full, there is no way to think about your own well-being in a psychological context. But the moment always comes.
Time seems to freeze. The desire to do something goes away. It becomes unbearable for a person to think that you need to go somewhere, talk with someone and live as a whole. There is no resource and no source to replenish it.
What happened?
Depression has come.
Top 3 causes of depression:
- heavy event in life (death, illness, crisis)
- accumulated stress and fatigue
- biochemical hormonal metabolic disturbances in the brain
Any person can get sick with depression, the fundamental difference is the duration and intensity of the disease, each one is individual.
We recommend to read the articles:
- Depression: what to do?
- Symptoms of depression
- How to get out of depression?
One of the reasons for the exacerbation of the disease is the feeling of inner emptiness. The realization that work and family do not fill the void. Break in the soul of a person is the absence of exactly that child "I". As if everything that happens in life falls into a hole without a bottom.
What to do?
What to do?The first thing a person who can realize that he is depressed can do is turn to a psychotherapist.
The editors strongly recommend to contact a psychotherapist! Self-treatment is dangerous to life and others!
If you do not have the strength and desire to select a specialist - ask for help from family and friends, this is a very important stage of treatment.
Awareness of the existence of an abandoned "I" is a painful ordeal. Often at such a moment, even on the physical level, anxiety and nausea are felt. Body manifestations are natural. In the process of awareness of such manifestations will be a lot. Working with a psychotherapist on depression and the restoration of his lost child’s "I" you will have to wait a lot of interesting, much traumatic.
Maybe I'm just tired?
Yes, maybe you are just tired. If rest for a long time returns you to a state of psychological rest - all is well. But if from rest you only get a little better and you feel that you are still not ready to return to your former life - you will see a specialist. Do not worry, psychotherapy can improve your life as much as you are even afraid to imagine.
What's next? Dependence on the psychotherapist?
Imagine that you broke your leg. You find it difficult and you cannot walk. The doctor put a cast on you and while the cast on your leg, life has changed. You have become more dependent on the help of others, you save your foot. After you remove the cast - you will not run. You will be carefully re-learning to walk on two legs. You will not run soon. So with psychotherapy. Our psyche is also an organ. And he, too, can break.
Your psychotherapist will heal your soul, your psyche. You will gain knowledge and skills to take care of your state of mind and learn to value yourself and your life. Dependence on psychotherapy is a horror story of the old-format society, visiting the doctor only when it is impossible to endure the pain.
Dependence on the psychotherapist is often confused with the desire of a person to continue therapy from year to year, increasing the intervals between sessions. But this is not an addiction, it is the desire to maintain your mental health and improve your life.
Results
If you feel that external changes in life do not give any result and you still feel bad, try to look inside and look for a frightened little man who was abandoned many, many years ago to live a “normal” life. He will be glad to you! Find your psychotherapist and step by step go towards yourself. Remember, in depression from changing places of the components (work, family, etc.) - the amount will not change!
