Sometimes we ourselves do not notice how life troubles change our character not for the better. It seems that recently he was happy about life and did not pay attention to unpleasant trifles, but today he is angry at the whole world. Sellers in stores do not work well, the director demands a lot, the neighbors have become arrogant, etc. Familiar with such thoughts? But it’s difficult to live with them and be happy. How to become kinder, if it seems that everything around just conspired against you?
Rules to help become kinder
Everything in the world is interconnected - we receive from the Universe what we give it ourselves. Try to apply the following principles in your life, and you will be surprised how it will change:
- Do not blame.
Do not look for those responsible for your troubles. Confluence of circumstances and your personal actions lead to positive results or negative. You accept your achievements and are you proud of them? Learn to accept your mistakes and not blame others.
- Do not be jealous.
In fact, they envy everyone, but in different ways. Someone's desire to have the same machine as a neighbor motivates to work even more. Another will say that the neighbor - “stole”, “takes bribes”. In this case, in the latter case, the person will continue to envy, accumulate anger, but will not do anything in order for him to have such a machine. This kind of envy is very dangerous! He does not give a person responsibility for his life. And most importantly - destroys the personality, spoils the character.
- Be able to forgive.
The ability to forgive and forget insults will greatly facilitate your life. This applies not only to betrayals and serious insults from other people, but also minor conflicts, situations, everyday moments. You will become kinder if you learn to close your eyes to someone else's pettiness and ignorance.
- Get rid of a keen sense of justice.
"Justice" is a subjective concept. In any controversial, conflict situation, there are only opposing opinions, but there is no one who is right or wrong. It is much easier to look at the world from this angle. The same applies to any other situations, no one should be consistent with your ideas about life. As soon as you understand this and accept it, many internal contradictions will disappear by themselves!
- Manage negative emotions.
Be able to dismiss anger, resentment, envy at the very moment they came to you. Learn composure in stressful situations. Do not provoke negative emotions with your thoughts. Do not think a few situations that annoy you, troubles, problems from the past.
- Do good deeds.
It is not necessary to help mankind on a global scale - to donate to funds to help refugees or save nature. But everyone can afford to feed a stray kitten or treat a colleague with cakes and coffee. Remember! Your sincere smile can make someone's day better! And this, too, is a good deed.
- Do not refuse to help other people.
At this point there is one reservation: if this assistance is not to the detriment of your interests. For example, you should not borrow money if you yourself will remain aground after this. Or agree to give a colleague a lift if you are not on the way. No need to be reliable. But, if a person is really in a difficult situation and asks you for support, lend him a helping hand.
- Let yourself enjoy life.
Good people are happy people. Therefore, you need to remove a little rationality and add a drop of levity in your life. Do not deny yourself walks, spontaneous decisions, unplanned purchases, new impressions. Always remember that life passes quickly, its meaning is not in the daily routine, but in happy moments!
- Keep a friendly attitude towards other people.
There are always two ways to communicate with random people - sellers, neighbors, waiters in coffee shops. In the first version, you grumble your slurred "hello-please-thank you." In the second - you will say hello with a smile, ask how your neighbor is doing, wish a good day to the seller, have a nice chat with the waiter. The main thing is to do everything sincerely. Believe me, if you learn how to share a good mood with other people, then you will receive in return the same, in double volume!
- Do good deeds sincerely, not expecting anything in return.
Unfortunately, in our time, it is customary to be friends only with those with whom it is beneficial to maintain relationships, to help only those who can give something in return. Be above it! Pettiness and self-interest are rubbish from which you need to clear your life. To become kinder, learn generosity.
Want to be kinder to other people? Put yourself in their place more often. You will begin to better understand what they feel, why they do it and say it. Do not expect from others in response to your help a special attitude towards yourself or gratitude. After all, you are a kind, generous, strong person. And only so.
To be kind is to be strong and wise.
What does it mean to be kind? And how to become? First, I would like to note that "good" and "good" are different concepts. The first is the property of the person, the second is only a subjective opinion. A good man will not be good for everyone, because he does not try to please everyone.
Kindness is in the strength of the spirit, the ability to maintain humanity, patience and love for people, regardless of life circumstances. Remember, like Yesenin?
"... In thunderstorms, in storms,
In everyday life,
With heavy losses
And when you feel sad
Seem smiling and simple -
The highest art in the world. "
A good man will not take out the nervous tension after a hard day at the seller from the grocery store, at family members, occasional people in public transport. He finds in himself the strength of the spirit to accept life as it is with all the difficulties and troubles.
To be kind is to find in yourself enough wisdom to forgive others, not to blame, to see the bright side in people and circumstances. To be kind is to be strong enough not to change your attitude towards the world and principles because of temporary troubles. Work on yourself, on your weaknesses! Strong to be easier and more enjoyable!
Polina, Moscow
