How many articles have been written about positive thinking. How many trainings, online seminars and books on this topic can be found in the global network! Do you really need to read and understand a mountain of information in order to understand how to become an optimist? Not at all! We have identified the most important and offer you the basic recommendations and advice of psychologists.
To be an optimist is good, and a pessimist is bad?
"The little son came to his father, and asked the crumb what is good, what is bad?" Who does not know this wonderful work of V. Mayakovsky? For some reason in the world of adults it is considered that it is bad to be a pessimist, a little better to be a realist. But to be an optimist is generally wonderful. Is this true, and is it possible to experience positive emotions in any situation? Let's figure it out!
For some reason, it is believed that an optimist is such an unruffled guy who doesn't care about anything. In any situation, he enjoys life, finds solid advantages and is ready to joke about the failures and life shocks. In fact, it is impossible not to experience negative emotions, it is dangerous to suppress them. Anger, resentment, disappointment, resentment - these are normal manifestations for a mentally healthy person. But at the same time, the pessimist will sink into the abyss of negativity, which will drag him to the bottom of the depression. And the optimist will find the strength to boldly look into the future and tell himself that all is not lost.
The realist just calmly accepts both good and bad. He has no particular emotions about what is happening. Such a condition can be characterized by the inscription on the ring of the biblical King Solomon: "Everything passes. It will also pass." Realists are usually very balanced people, but they do not always have enough motivation to achieve global goals.
We conclude that an optimist is a strong-willed person who never admits the thought that confusion can ruin his life and hinder the achievement of goals. He also experiences negative emotions, like other people, but can dismiss them as if annoying flies.
Is it possible to learn optimism?
Actually, if the answer to this question was “no,” you would not have read this article. Anyone can change their view of the world from a minus sign to a plus. The following guidelines will help you become more positive:
- Exclude from your social circle whines, offended and always dissatisfied.
You must admit that it is difficult to concentrate on the good when the moans of the suffering are heard only around.
- Forget politics and see news less often.
Do you know why there is more bad news on television and in newspapers than good news? Because they attract a large audience. Remember how many were the "doomsday" and what the hype was about this. And regular reports about the third world war, which began almost immediately after the second? And what an explosion of negative emotions cause political news! This all has a negative effect on the general psychological state and creates unnecessary background noise that distracts from real life and personal goals.
- Get rid of the habit of taking other people's sufferings to heart.
If at the sight of a weak old woman or a sick kitten, your heart squeezes, think about the fact that there are millions of old women, kittens, puppies and sick children in the world who you cannot help. And that's fine. Everyone lives their own fate. You can not save everyone, and not necessary. If you can help - help, there is no such possibility - pass by without remorse. Do not torment yourself with other people's suffering.
- Stop seeing personal failures as the end of the world.
The fact that you did not cope with an important project at work or that a girl abandoned you does not mean that all subsequent projects will be “covered with a copper basin” and a black stripe has begun in your personal life. Realize this simple truth, and life will become much easier.
- Do not think badly of yourself.
Never say to yourself: "I am a loser", "I am a worthless creature," "I just am stupid, freak, mediocrity." Because it is not. Do not associate negative events in life with your personality. If you fail, it is not related to your individual qualities, the stars just came together. Let it not happen today, yesterday, the day before yesterday - tomorrow everything will be different!
Never give up! Leave a future day a chance to become better than yesterday. Every evening, remind yourself that you cannot change what happened today, but tomorrow will be a new day and if it is filled with joy or disappointment, it depends on you.
How can a girl learn positive thinking
The mistake of many to consider pessimism is something of a well-established personality trait that cannot be changed. Especially often this problem of girls. Due to the psychological constitution and physiology, the beautiful half of humanity is more likely to be overcome by depression and neurosis. Moreover, many girls like to make diagnoses of this kind themselves, guided by information from thematic publics on social networks.
Mood swings? Yes, I have obsessive compulsive disorder, not otherwise. I do not see the ultimate goal and meaning in life, apathy, nothing pleases? This is definitely a depression caused by a lack of serotonin in the brain. If you suspect you have a certain disease, contact a specialist immediately! Perhaps you are right, but starting an independent anti-depressant treatment or letting the situation go by itself, only exacerbates the situation.
How to become an optimist and start noticing good? Start your journey with the following recommendations:
- Do not look for problems where there are none.
Often, girls tend to deeply analyze what is happening, to think about what would happen if ... Get rid of this habit. Take everything as given.
- Track negative thoughts.
As soon as you start to see everything in the "black light", turn your attention to anything. Turn on cheerful music at full volume and dance, watch the series of your favorite series, jump on one leg - in general, send a negative thought to where it came from. You can even send it loud to the same place!
- Do not put yourself diagnoses yourself.
Most often, mood swings are associated simply with the natural hormonal changes that occur in the girl's life every month. And if you do not see the purpose of your life, it means that you have not yet found it at this stage. Apathy is also in the order of the norm, if this condition does not last more than a month without a special reason. It is normal to overeat, to be sad, dissatisfied, and even cry. Depression is a serious illness. Do not put yourself diagnoses, based on information on the Internet. So you harm yourself! Considering yourself hopeless, you do not leave yourself a chance to foster a more optimistic outlook on life and become happy.
- Get rid of dissatisfaction with their appearance.
Since childhood, we are brought up by stereotypes. One of them: "The girl should be beautiful, and the boy - strong." Hence the roots of the perpetual dissatisfaction with their appearance in girls. Even the most gorgeous beauty will see in the mirror a couple of extra centimeters at the waist, split ends of hair, irregular eyebrows, too thin lips, a crooked nose, not big and elastic breasts ... Dear ladies, stop! All are beautiful! Men perceive the image as a whole, no one disassembles your appearance in parts, like a puzzle. And if the envious sees a pair of broken hairs, then the guy will pay attention only to the luxurious shock of hair. Pay more attention not to work on your appearance, but on psychological work on accepting yourself as you are.
- Say goodbye to the complexes.
Internal clips and complexes often interfere with optimism. We are used to intently, as if under a microscope to examine our shortcomings, and this poisons our life. Understand that the concept of strengths and weaknesses is subjective. Do not let the artificial complexes prevent you from enjoying life!
How to become an optimist if life develops not the way you want? Remember the old Soviet movie "Queen of the gas station." When the main character was asked: "What have you changed the dream?" She replied: "No, I just changed the dream!" The fact that you live, breathe and have the opportunity to enjoy life is already a great gift! So take advantage of it and let yourself be happy in any circumstances!
