Today we will talk about the person closest to us - about ourselves. It is often possible to find a situation where we are kind of pulling in different directions, and we cannot decide what we want. Rather, we want different things that mutually exclude each other - and these our desires are pulling us in different directions, not letting us focus on something concrete. Let's see why this happens.
Either God created us this way, or in the process of evolution, but the human brain is designed in such a way that makes us want completely different things at different times in our lives. This is often associated with our age, but not always. No wonder they say that there are people who, even at 60, behave like children. Throughout our life, we are accompanied by our subpersonalities - which are conventionally called: child, adult and parent. They are in each of us at any age, and it is precisely which of the subpersonalities that dominates at this particular moment and determines our basic behavior in society.
What does each sub-personality, of personality types, want?
Baby wants first and foremost have fun and entertainment. He wants to be loved, to buy him toys, he does not take responsibility for the lives of other people, he does not even lead his life. All our dreams, the fulfillment of which is not directly connected with oneself, is the desire of the child.
Adult desires, of course, different. First of all, this is the desire to prove to those around you that you are a necessary part of society. The desire to climb higher on the social scale, career growth, wealth, to be in demand from the opposite sex, to be necessary for other people - this is the desire of an adult. When this subpersonality dominates, a person begins to take responsibility for his life, for what he does.
Parent priorities are changing. The main thing is security, material security (as opposed to wealth), respect. Willingness to take responsibility for the life of not only yourself, but also other people - is the main feature of the parent. And it does not have to be children, there may be other relatives or completely strangers - it does not matter.
Let's take an example to see how the same goal will sound for different people, in which different subpersonalities dominate. A child can imagine her so - "I want to live in a good house." In an adult, it may sound like this: "I want to earn and buy a good house." In this case, the responsibility that they place on themselves for the realization of their dreams is traced. But at the parent, it can be something like this: "I want to build a good house for my family."
Why do we need all this? First of all, to understand what your desires for one or another subpersonal. Try to abstract from others and determine what each of them wants separately - their desires will be exactly different, and often opposite to each other. And all you have to do is make them agree among themselves, but do not lie to themselves. Determine which of the subpersonalities is the main one at the moment - and focus on those goals that suit her better. This means that the fulfillment of such desires will be more comfortable and efficient for you at a given point in time. Then everything can change, when this happens, you will understand for yourself.
And now go and arrange a meeting for three - with your three. I, you are guaranteed an interesting conversation.
And which one personality types Do you dominate now?
Personality Type Test: Child, Adult, Parent
