Often, partners talk about the freedom of their relationship without fully understanding what a free relationship is.
Exist certain signs of a similar union.
Concept and Psychology
How to understand open relationships?
Free relations are a union of two people, in which the parties enjoy their time together without mutual obligations.
The participants in such relations do not put forward each other any claims and demands, they are free in their actions and decisions.
True free relationships can only arise between two self-sufficient, open personalities, not having strong feelings for each other. The union of such people usually has the character of partnership, friendship, supplemented by intimacy.
Lack of strong feelings and mutual affections allows partners calmly meet other peoplewithout facing the problems of jealousy and resentment in a pair.
Typically, partners in such relationships respect each other, they are interesting and fun together, but there is no great intimacy between them.
A truly open relationship in which both partners feel happy and contented, rare.
Usually one partner feels the need for an alliance that does not burden him with any obligations, and the second partner, fearing to lose a loved one, agrees to such conditions.
In most cases, the initiators of free relations are young people who do not want to limit themselves to promises of loyalty in relation to one partner.
The reasons
The reasons for each member of such a union may be their own. Much depends on the "experience" of the couple.
Dating
A person is initially looking for dating for a free relationship for the following reasons:
- Fear of liability. Serious psychological problems that prevent a person from building a deep relationship can be externally manifested in the burden of a free union.
The absence of obligations in such relationships eliminates the source of fear.
- Unwillingness to serious alliance. By virtue of age, character, or recently transferred separation, a person may not be tempted to enter into a new serious relationship. At the same time, the possibility of communicating in a free format with a pleasant partner can be viewed quite positively.
- Inability to deny yourself pleasure. The tendency to polygamy, the inability to remain faithful to one partner is the main reason for a positive attitude towards a free union. In such a relationship, betrayal is not so because there is no prohibition on communicating with other people.
Married
Free relationships in marriage, as a rule, ultimately lead to divorce. But often this decision is way to save the family. The reason for the emergence of such relations between spouses:
- Tired of family life. Spouses no longer have a desire for each other, interest. Habit comes in place of feelings. The desire to somehow diversify your life can lead a husband and wife to thoughts of a free relationship.
In this case, joint life, raising children and solving everyday issues are combined with a complete lack of mutual obligations and claims.
Such a union is possible only in pairs for which the intellectual side of communication is more important than the spiritual. A husband and wife perceive each other as friends or relatives. In the presence of jealousy and a sense of ownership, at least one of the partners can not save the family with a free relationship
- Dissatisfaction with intimate life. The great "experience" of marriage almost always leads to the loss of the former interest of the spouses to each other as lovers. For some couples, deciding on a free relationship becomes an attempt to preserve the family at the expense of loyalty to each other in the intimate sphere.
Advantages and disadvantages
The benefits of a free relationship:
- They are not burdensome. Partners to each other do not have to, respectively, in their communication there are no concepts of duties, requirements and claims.
Often, such freedom makes such alliances truly strong and stable.
- Easy parting. The absence of mutual requirements guarantees the ease of parting partners.
- No dependency. Where there are no demands and obligations, there are no expectations, insults, betrayals, jealousy and pain.
Disadvantages of such a union:
- Possible discrepancy between the views of partners. Full satisfaction of one partner with similar relationships does not guarantee the presence of the same approach in the second partner. Often, the second side only depicts a positive attitude towards the situation, fearing to lose a loved one.
- The need for moral preparation. In humans, a sense of ownership is genetically inherent, generating jealousy. Fighting your instincts is very difficult and from a psychological point of view is not entirely correct.
- Condemnation from loved ones. Parents or other close people can condemn such a union, considering it immoral.
- Distortion of the right ideas about relationships. Long-term presence in such a union may adversely affect the future ability of a person to create a strong union.
The habit of not denying yourself the pleasures and not be held responsible for anything can be sustainable.
- Short life. It is highly likely that one of the partners will meet a person who will be the reason for ending the free relationship with the former partner.
Who are they for?
Such relationships are beneficial to those who feel comfortable in them.
Such a union is often joined by men and women who have already taken place in life. They have a career, home, children.
They do not want to take on new commitments and experience new problems in building relationships.
Rare meetings for the purpose of communication, exchange of news and intimate closeness for them are much more attractive than being in serious relationships requiring work.
It should be noted that sometimes free relationships become a way to save the family. Tired of life, taking care of children and solving material problems lead spouses into a state of apathy and depression.
Appearance in their lives new impressions, vivid sensations can significantly change the attitude of the husband and wife. Often, as a result of such a non-standard decision, spouses awaken new feelings for each other, and there is an attraction and interest.
Should I agree?
Agree on such a relationship should be only if there is a desire on its part.
If, in response to a partner’s proposal to make the relationship free, internal protest, the solution should be only negative.
Being in a free relationship that completely contradicts the principles and attitudes of the individual, always will lead to serious psychological problems, loss of confidence.
A constant feeling of jealousy and lack of attention from a partner can cause severe depression.
Effects
For men
Men, as a rule, are the initiators of a free relationship. Lack of commitment gives them complete freedom of action. However, there is a possibility of the following consequences:
- Lack of respect for the partner. By nature, man is an owner. His woman should belong only to him. In a free relationship, a man may unconsciously lose respect for his partner, realizing that she has other partners besides him.
- Appearance requirements. A feeling of jealousy can provoke a natural reaction - the emergence of claims and demands. This will indicate that in fact a man is not ready for a free form of relationship and wants to be in a standard relationship with a partner.
- Licentiousness. Constant satisfaction of their desires without any restrictions and requirements on the part of a woman can lead to the formation of a habitual style of behavior in a man in which moral standards have no meaning.
Such life attitudes will not allow the creation of serious relationships in the future.
For women
Women tend to a free relationship is less common than men, for the following reasons:
- Omission of time. A woman can unwittingly stay stuck in a hopeless free relationship for a long time. After several years, she will understand that all her peers have long had husbands and children, and she is still in an alliance that has no prospects. It will be impossible to return the lost time, and to start a family and have children at an early age is much easier.
- The appearance of the requirements for a man. Most women are not able to be in free union and not think about their irregular situation. Gradually, the situation ceases to satisfy them, there are requirements for a man, the clarification of relationships begins.
- Loss of confidence. The unwillingness of a partner to remain faithful to his woman and his constant communication with other women of the fair sex will immediately lead to doubts about her own attractiveness. A woman will think that if her partner is not satisfied with communicating only with her, then she is not good enough for him.
Thus, open relationships are one of the options for union between a man and a woman. Entering into similar relationships it is important to clearly understand all their possible shortcomings and consequences..
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