Have you ever seen in a circle of friends such destinies that attract a variety of failures and troubles? For good reason about some people, we say: "Thirty-three misfortunes." Others, on the contrary, seem to be programmed for success. Good luck seems to be floating in your hands: the right person meets at the same time when he and only he can solve the problem, the prize suddenly suddenly falls from the sky onto his head ... So, Her Majesty Destiny rules us, or we ourselves to tame us?
Do you notice at the moment of danger or just in a difficult situation, what are you saying to yourself, predicting the outcome of events? Do you pay attention to what words and how you scold yourself at the time of failures and missteps? After all, everyone has failures regardless of our successful or unsuccessful career, study, income and material miscalculations.
This is where the fun begins. After all, a successful person is different from a loser is not at the peak of fame and "in the prime of life." It is the reaction to failure in any activity or some undertaking that distinguishes a radically successful person from an eternally unfortunate “martyr”.
It shows the most important and fundamental, which in general is the basis of personal behavior. This is a life position. The position of the winner or the position of the victim. To be or not to be a victim of circumstances - at 99.9% the choice is ours.
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The “sacrifice” in its behavior necessarily rolls into certain stereotypes, which ultimately lead to its failure.
Let's try to highlight several such stereotypes:
• The habit of blaming the people around and all around for their misfortunes. Weather, traffic, traffic jams, an evil boss, etc., - everything turns out to be hostile, everything interferes and torments the poor "victim."
• Passivity and inaction at the time of danger and failure. Instead of finding a solution and a creative approach to one’s own life and one’s destiny, a person shows activity only in one direction: he doesn’t actively want to resolve the issue that has arisen.
• Conviction in own inability to solve anything, confidence in the failure of any idea.
• Finding ways ... no, not solutions, but ways to avoid a problem. The desire to hide, turn away from the situation.
In the depths of his soul, a person who has taken such a position has, in most cases, low self-esteem. The roots of this - in the distant past, they are "come from childhood."
When we scold a child for an error and at the same time also compare it with those around us, we are already forming in it embryos of a low estimate of ourselves and our actions. Moreover, the child gets used to being afraid of his own mistakes, he is afraid to make mistakes. But it’s not for nothing that they say: "Only the one who does nothing is not mistaken."
In order not to kill the creative potential that each of our mistakes carries, it is worth thinking about how, with what words and actions we react to it. After all, in fact, a person is a self-regulating and self-learning system, an error for such a system is a gift from above. Yes, yes, do not be surprised. At one time, we were able to learn how to walk only because we were not afraid of several very unpleasant and painful falls.
We didn’t say to ourselves in that distant tender age, still not knowing how to doubt our own abilities: “I cannot”, but they asked: “How can I?”. Even then, the moment of creativity, translating the passive position of a loser into the active installation of the winner, was available to each of us. Does not this thought lead you into holy trepidation: we all, absolutely everything, are programmed for success, without any exceptions!
Many years ago, psychologists together with criminologists and sociologists conducted a study, the results of which are very, very instructive. A large group of subjects were asked by a large crowd to leave the large store. They were photographed. Then this photo was proposed to a group of psychologists who tried to make a conclusion about the characteristics of each person’s personality and to reveal a kind of “risk group” - people who are especially prone to various troubles, accidental injuries, robbery attacks, etc.
On the other hand, the same photo was offered to those whom it is customary to isolate from society in “places not so remote”, that is, representatives of the criminal environment. Pickpockets, all sorts of crooks, maniacs and criminals of all categories had to intuitively identify a potential victim. Something amazing happened here:
• first, both lists almost coincided with each other;
• secondly, the group of people under investigation was under observation for some time, and the events of their lives confirmed the “predicted fate” at such a high percentage that almost no chance was excluded.
The conclusion suggests itself: our body, our thoughts, our decisions and, as a result, all our actions in a well-known Universe language send invisible but very powerful signals. These signals, being reflected, come back to us in the form of real results and events, which we take as gifts or blows of fate. Whenever complaining about bad weather or other "random" troubles, do not forget: the Universe hears you and is ready to answer your every word. What word will it be: grumpily dissatisfied or bright and creative?
The choice is always yours!
