Envy - bad feeling, which everyone at least once felt for sure.
And if our emotions can still be controlled, then, alas, we cannot influence the feelings of other people.
In view of this important to be able to identifywho specifically envies you, and try to minimize contact with this person.
Why is it important to recognize the envious?
The people that surround us in many ways affect us.
The more negative emotions they direct towards us, the more negative becomes in our life.
If someone close only pretends that rejoices at your successes and achievements, but in fact just jealous, it is better to exclude such a person from your life or at least minimize communication with him.
The ability to recognize the envious will help prevent a number of unpleasant situations and reconsider your surroundings.
How does envy manifest?
How to find out what they envy you? There are common signs of envy. However, in how it is tested men and womenThere are some differences.
Men are more likely to envy career achievements and financial well-being. They are less emotional, so recognizing their envy is not so easy.
A jealous male can exclude communication with the object of his envy and do everything to not get any information about him.
He can also provoke this person, joke evil jokes, and can openly provoke him to physical conflict - this is determined by the character and temperament.
Women are not so straightforward, and their envy is expressed differently.
It may be different: gossip, caustic remarks, feigned indifference, and sometimes, on the contrary, subservience to the object of female envy. They also tend to weave intrigue.
How to understand that a person envies you?
How to recognize envy? Envy is manifested in all differently. Its main features are as follows:
- False joy. The envious person will strive to congratulate you on any achievement first. He can pour compliments that will immediately seem sincere.
But when you leave the room, his tone will immediately change. Quite often, such individuals pretend and divert attention from their true feelings.
The most effective method is to respond to them in the same way. Try to praise them and admire them. So they, probably, will raise a little a self-rating, and will begin to envy less.
- Depreciation. Regardless of the heights achieved themselves and the efforts made to this end, the envier will try to belittle all this. He can prove that all you have is just an accident or favorable circumstances. This is a very unpleasant manifestation of envy, and the higher your success, the more negative will be from the side of the envious. Therefore, it is better to remain modest, but in no case do not lose confidence that you deserve what you have.
- Exaggerating your success. Tormented by envy, a person will try to exalt his own success, which is especially pronounced when a stranger is celebrated. The explanation for this is simple - complexes.
He is not confident enough and feels worse than others, and therefore he tries to measure himself with successes.
- Imitation of your behavior. Envious wants to be better than the object of envy. Or at least like him. He can imitate this person, for example, in speech or clothing. In this case, you can try to give him inspiration with your own example, and not just provoke envy.
- Competition. Envious people tend to compete, as they constantly want to feel superior. In this case, you can either accept the fight or abandon it. The second option, of course, is better. It is worth showing that you are not competing with them, and competition is inappropriate.
- The joy of failure. The envious person will be incredibly happy if you make the slightest mistake. He may not demonstrate it in any way, but at the same time he secretly feels joy at your failures. Your task in this case is to transfer failures correctly. Remind them that mistakes are a normal part of life and development. If you do not be upset, you will deprive them of pleasure.
- Gossip behind. Envious people will always find a reason and method to gossip behind your back, which, of course, can harm your reputation. In this case, it is better to directly confront them. Since they are not inclined to demonstrate willingness to conflict directly, you can seriously talk with them - this will disarm them, and this may be enough for them to think about their behavior or stop messing with them.
- Hatred. If a person in your environment hates you, without particularly hiding it, then know that the matter may be in simple envy. To fight this hard. It hardly makes sense to immediately try to build relationships.
Optimally delete such a person from life, or at least minimize the conflict with him.
You can also recognize the envious person, if you learn a little sign language. The following manifestations speak about this bad feeling:
- Stretched feigned smile. With a sincere smile from a person, it involves not only the lips, but also the eyes. If the person smiles only with his mouth, one can speak of insincerity. Lips may be stretched, the corners of the mouth overly stretched. Also a pretended smile is often crooked, on one side.
- Pay attention to the eyes. The envious person can hide his eyes in every possible way: to squint them, cover them up, just take them to the side.
- Arms A person who is insincere with you may be around his mouth, as if he is subconsciously trying to cover him.
- Head often tilted to the side - it says about the curvature of thoughts.
- Suspicious "symptom" - closed posture with arms crossed on his chest. Even more openly about insincerity and the desire to hide something is indicated by a gesture when a man puts his hands in his pockets or behind his back.
Another way to hide your hands is to clasp the elbow or the wrist of the second hand behind your back. This suggests that the person is trying in every way to control their emotions.
- You can pay attention to body slope. When a person is pleasant, we try to be as close as possible to him. If a person deviates from you, he is insincere in his attitude.
- It is possible to appreciate sincerity how a person changes the amplitude of movements and their freedom. If he is too constrained, he may be hiding his thoughts from you. Sudden changes are vividly visible in gestures and movements, therefore it is better to notice it in dynamics.
Of course, finding a gesture, you should not immediately see in the interlocutor of the fierce envious. But if you constantly notice several of them, then you can talk about a certain degree of insincerity.
Signs of
Sometimes envious are the closest. How to recognize it, and what are the signs?
Envious eyes
Eyes much make it clear about feelings and sincerity person
Envious eyes are piercing piercing, and a person can try to hide it, covering them for centuries.
He can look down, blink often, poluprykryvat them. But more often envious narrows his eyes.
This look gives him the opportunity to simultaneously monitor you and hide his facial expression.
It is quite difficult to recognize what kind of expression a person has in his eyes, if in fact only one pupil is visible, and there is a smile on his face.
And yet, looking into your eyes, you can understand sincerity level persons.
Have a friend
Female envy, even in relation to a close friend - not uncommon. It can be “white” when your loved ones rejoice at your success without harming you or yourself, and use your achievements as their motivation.
However, there is “black” envy, which tends to cause negative energy transmitted by others. Its extreme degree is revenge for others' successes.
This feeling is usually difficult for a person to hide, and it can be expressed as follows:
- discontent and irritation at your attempts to talk about your success or positive feelings;
- imitation of you;
- after you talked to your friend, you feel guilty about what you have;
- a friend can stop you in solving important steps that can lead to something good later on;
- she can ignore your positive emotions, but show a clear interest in negative ones;
- can openly compare you with each other, emphasizing your superiority;
- she can also sincerely and very faithfully express love and respect for you.
In a circle of common friends the envy will not miss the opportunity put you in the worst light. Noticing even a couple of these signs, you have every right to assume that your friend is jealous of you.
Husband to wife
Envy is possible even between spouses. Men are extremely hard to bear if a woman is more successful than them. And if for someone this is motivation, then the other will envy and be angry.
It manifests itself in the same way: by devaluing the success of his wife, with jabbing jokes in the style of "The Place of Woman in the Kitchen", with an emphasis on defeat.
If someone is not too close, you can just say goodbye, then marriage is still worth trying to save.
Spouse task - talk to her husband, show him your love and motivate him to his own achievements. In marriage, people should be members of the same team, not competitors.
Relatives
Relatives are also those still fruits.
Mostly they have two objects of envy - personal life and financial success.
So, coming to your good home, they can begin to look for flaws in the repair and furnishing.
If you are good in material terms, they can ask for debt, and if you refuse to be offended and say not very good things about you.
They also tend to depreciate and say that you are just lucky, they can pretend that they treat you very well, and they can openly show negative things.
Envy is very destructive., but first of all for the one who tests it. Finding envier in your environment, you yourself have the right to decide what to do with it. But for your mental health, it is still better to at least minimize contact with him.
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