People of a creative nature are subject to hobbies and are able to fall in love several times in a short period of time.
More balanced individuals are less prone to outbreaks of new likes, but they may experience difficulties in overcoming obsession on someone.
How do move to a new stage of life, leaving in the past the shadows and images of people, because of which the heart treacherously trembled, and at night dreamed disturbing and sweet dreams?
Why do you need to forget?
Why not to think about the person who likes?
In some cases, obsession with a person is formed not even because of real sympathy for a given subject, but because of difficult life circumstances that force the traumatized psyche, look for a suitable point to shift attention.
Finding out on your own the true reason for your enthusiasm for others in this case is quite difficult and the course of correction by the psychotherapist is the best way out.
Why try free up memory from nicely disturbing image:
- relationship was abnormal, because the half had negative hobbies, or changed, used, tried to enslave or something like that;
- realize that passionate about purely beautiful "candy wrapper"hiding only emptiness and moral inferiority;
- different social statuses and there is no possibility, strength or desire to overcome differences;
- there is a long separation, and the close relationship was too short and meaningless hope for their continuation;
- managed to get carried away by a man who completely different plans for life and you have no place in them.
Sweetheart trying to forget, and if the prospect to create a temporary or permanent pair absolutely zero.
Aware of the insuperability of the obstacle in the form of, for example, complete ignorance of the object of sympathy, a healthy person seeks to get rid of the heart’s feeling, because it brings pain, irritation, and makes it difficult to focus on the performance of duties exhausting around the clock.
Effects
What can threaten unrequited enthusiasm:
- Remembering someone for a long time and suffering because of the knowledge that there are no conditions for full communication and close relationships, a person depletes own energy supply and upsets the nervous system.
This is fraught with the development of real and serious diseases, including oncology.
- Obsession with one person can turn into mania or cause depression. And obsessive behavior and states are already pathology and a psychiatric clinic in perspective. Who "smiles" to be reborn as parochial ridicule with a clear mental disorder?
- Exists the threat of living a long period of time wasted, ceasing to pay attention to things that previously brought pleasure and filled life with meaning.
- Daily torments can undermine moral principles and push for abuse of alcohol or other substances, allowing to mist the consciousness and reduce discomfort in the soul.
- Longing for suicide.
Is it possible to get out of my head?
With a healthy mind and a great desire - always. Of course, complete “amnesia” is difficult to achieve. But bring back memories and fantasies on this subject to the farthest nooks of memory completely.
Yes, some methods may seem almost blasphemous. How can you allow such thoughts about the object of groans? But it is such bitter “pills” that treat unwanted sympathies.
"Shameless" manipulations and other tricks for the good of the soul and protection from obsessive images:
- Since each person has his own “set” of various taboos, which cannot be broken from the word at all, try to represent the person who likes the situation in a situation where he violates these prohibitions. And with visible pleasure. If you think that in reality this may be true - after all, what we know about the personal life of another stranger, then it is easier to erase the tormenting image from the heart.
- Loading yourself work to the level when in the free minutes you simply disconnect to sleep, many times helped many to part with pleasantly unpleasant memories of someone.
- Deleting contacts and other reminder helps to get a person out of sight.
It is necessary to change the route to work-study, if it helps to avoid meetings, erase the phone, remove the account from friends or stop using the network with common “pots”.
- Pick yourself recreation optionWhen in the process of learning adrenaline bursts every minute, especially for beginners, this is normal. Climbing, kayaks, skydiving, training the inhabitants of the serpentarium is the fact that the new controlled stress will help interrupt the discomfort of emotional experiences.
- Actively participate in the entertainment of friends for a week or two.
- Volunteer. Which institution? It depends on what preferences: someone is closer to taking care of animals, and someone feels in his place, communicating with the elderly or sick.
- Repairs rooms or even the whole dwelling is able to block most tragedies of the world.
If there is no order in the house and there is no desire to change it, but there is a craving for painting and plastering, they are ordered to help renovate the interior of the apartment, at home with friends.
- Change of residence. An extreme measure for those desperate to regain calm conditions of life: worries about settling in a new place, changing the general entourage and social circle, will gradually push the image of a nice person into the far corners of memory.
How to stop communicating?
How to force yourself to stop talking to someone who likes?
- Sure to get involved in an interesting caseso that it takes away not only all free time, but also does not leave time for thoughts about the object of sympathies.
- To there was no temptation to chat online, change the password for your account to a new and very complex, but do not save the combination anywhere and disable binding to the phone.
Psychology tips
It is better to separate from attachments correctly, so that the gap, even if one-sided, is a typical phenomenon with an unresponsive passion, does not conducive to future relationship problems.
To girls
How to forget a guy who likes unrequited? Stop idealizing man.
Most likely, the reason for which it is difficult to “otlipnut” from him was formed because of your own problems, received in childhood.
Determine why you are afraid of real relationships and specifically unconsciously joined in those that have no future.
It is possible that the matter is:
- infantilism. Therefore, choose objects with which relations are impossible by default;
- feeling your rejection by all. Having not received enough love in childhood, what it looks like, you imagine it badly, therefore you form attachment especially in your head;
- fear your own shortcomings. Being confident in their ugliness, stupidity, and that there is further on the list, do not decide on the relationship with the guys who are close and open to contact with you.
If all of the above seems to be true, try to seek advice. to a good psychologistto further understand how normal relationships and healthy attachments are formed.
What else can you do:
- Realize that all the pleasant moments spent in mental meetings are a figment of your imagination.
- Distance yourself from the guy in the shower: do not try to live his perceived emotions in relation to you, do not find out if he has someone at the moment, do not look for communication in the network.
- Do not blame anyone for what happened.: a guy has a different path in life, you have a lesson and freedom of choice in which direction to go next and with whom.
Believe me, there are so many options and there is not one among them that the present little one cannot even hold a candle.
- Do not become a nun: cry once or twice to get rid of the accumulated stress, in a hurry to live on.
- Look at the new men in your life in a new way: Do not make guilty for the sins of others, do not throw on the neck, as a savior, perceive it as it is.
- Allow yourself to be shamelessly happy. today, and heartless to the past heartfelt affections - once the paths diverged, albeit without intersection, then each has its own worldly paths.
- Be sure to get engaged cleaning virtual and real space: delete photos, videos related to the period of unhappy love, try for at least a couple of subsequent months not to listen to musical compositions reminiscent of a young man.
- Change the image: shopping trip or sewing-knitting new outfits will help to distract and tune in to a new wave.
- Take care of intellectual drill: learn a new language or a couple of difficult disciplines.
This will not only distract, but also help to form additional neural connections and facilitate the overall physical condition.
How to stop thinking about a guy? Tips:
Guys
How to stop thinking about the girl you like? Young people do not particularly like to delve into the advice of psychologists and their problems, stretching from deep childhood. Firstly, it is good to philosophize at the fire and about the meaning of life, and not about ladies.
Secondly, adolescence was left behind, so why remember about him and his problems? Therefore, with the above voiced complexity in life it’s better to go straight to real action:
- When doing sports increase the number of workouts to the limits of reasonable, but not crippling the body - it is not to blame that the relationship does not add up.
- Return to the circle of friendsif they are lovers of sensible entertainment: fishing, hiking, descending from the mountains and at the same time not addicted to alcohol. Remember, alcohol does not solve problems, but only helps to form new ones.
- Clean cookies in real and online: delete contacts on your phone, skype, etc., go out from among the girl’s friends or don’t go to a particular network yourself, and if you want to communicate with other people, you can also change the acc.
But it is not necessary in the status of invisibility to follow the changes in the life of the lady: it is bad for your soul and image. You are not a grandmother from the bazaar who lives in gossip, but a man.
- Do not enter into a new relationship with another girluntil the heart cools down, but it does not clear up in the head. Otherwise, there is a great risk of becoming entangled, spoiling the life of an innocent person and being guilty of all the sins of the world.
- If your heart is boiling, you want to tell the lady what she is, even if she didn't know anything about your feelings, then better to write all the hurt on paperwithout forgetting a fad, then re-read everything and burn. Everything, now the negative is thrown out, and this is important. Live telling a real girl about your heart problems is not worth it: she can share what she heard with her friends, and they will carry information around the world like magpies. Why do you look like a clown. On this basis, not one serious conflict flared up with unpleasant consequences. Therefore, be wiser and part like a man.
Subconscious - a strange thing, but very sensitive. Therefore, if somewhere and with something you feel that the person you like is not yours, try to exclude not only him, but also memories of him from your life, in order to receive from her only pleasant presents and pleasing relationships. Believe me in the future they will definitely appear for you!
