How to improve family relationships: the best ways

There is no more desired happiness than family harmony. Unfortunately, not everyone knows how to achieve it. Difference of morals often leads to discord between spouses. Life in an atmosphere of conflict becomes unbearable, and you have to look for ways to improve relations in the family. Then you will learn what to do in order for happiness and love to re-settle in the house.

How to make a married life?

Because of their nature, it is women who are most often concerned about family relationships. They react acutely to lack of attention, conflicts, "wrong" behavior of the husband. But to change another person is impossible (especially when he does not want himself). Therefore, all that a wife can do is to change herself, her character, demeanor and perception of the situation as a whole. So, how to improve family relationships with her husband:

Recognize for your spouse the right to mistakes, fatigue, bad mood. Be more lenient. Accept its shortcomings as an integral part. There are no perfect people.
Become less demanding. Do not put conditions on your husband, do not demand, do not blackmail. Life in the atmosphere "you must" for any normal person is unbearable. If you need something, ask your husband, and then thank.
Do not scandal. Try to resolve all conflicts calmly. The cry causes a feeling of rejection. If you criticize, do it constructively ("you could do this and that").
Communicate most of the time in a positive way. Try to smile more, joke, enjoy spending time together. From the house, where they constantly discuss problems and swear, I want to escape
Get involved in a common cause. Joint activity brings together. You can go fishing together, cook interesting dishes, travel, do charity work, start your own business, etc.
Show care and tenderness. Prepare your husband a favorite dish, kiss him, hug. Do the first what you expect from him. Soon the principle of reciprocity will work.
Become happy. Your happiness depends not only on family relationships. Perhaps you are dissatisfied with your work, appearance, something else. Solve these problems, and your family life will change too.

Attention! In some cases, even with a great desire, to maintain family relationships should not be. First, you should not live with your husband, who is unloved and does not love you, for the sake of children. The atmosphere of happiness will not be useful, even if it can be created. Let the children see their parents apart, but happy and loving. The second case is domestic violence, alcoholism, drug addiction. If you systematically fall victim to psychological attacks, beatings, insults, betrayals, you live with a deranged person, the only way out is to run as soon as possible.

The secret of family happiness

The family of a man and a woman is, first of all, a marriage union. Spouses must clearly understand who is responsible for what and how to act in the interests of the family. It is precisely from the reluctance to fulfill the key family role that all serious conflicts arise. Therefore, in order to improve relations with the husband, jointly distribute responsibility in the following points:

family support;
housekeeping;
care for a small child;
parenting children;
initiative and diversity in sex;
leisure activities;
keeping in touch with relatives;
psychological support.

In order to properly distribute family roles and not to quarrel, the path of each will mark their willingness to take responsibility as a percentage. Spouses can perform the same task, the main thing is to come to a common denominator. For example, family support can be distributed between spouses 50 by 50, raising children by 70 by 30. The only condition is that all roles must be taken.

Advice of the author. It is difficult to change your character and established style of communication, but you need to start with something. Try the following: take a little vacation and spend it alone with your spouse. Give preference to active rest, where you will share your impressions and help each other, temporarily forgetting about mutual complaints and offenses.

Save the relationship after treason

Cheating is quite common, as many studies suggest. Here is one of the most recent data: 76% of men and 21% of women have at least one extramarital affair during their marriage. Is it possible to save a family after such a painful incident? Yes, but under certain conditions. So, how to maintain family relationships after treason:

A cheater must sincerely repent and apologize. This is the most important condition for the preservation of the family.
Next you need to throw out all the negative emotions. This can be done in different ways: write an accusatory letter to the husband, break dishes, draw a picture, write a verse, etc. This stage should not last too long (up to a month at most).
Then you need to discuss the situation calmly and take a lesson. Why did this happen? How to make cheating no longer repeated? What is missing in the relationship of her husband and what is his wife? How to make a family stronger?
At the final stage, the stage of "new" relations should be designated. It is very good to organize the second honeymoon. Relationships should be filled with romance, courtship, and attentiveness to each other. A woman should drive anxious thoughts, concentrate on the positive, no matter how difficult.

In fact, many couples go through treason. If such a situation happens once, the family, having drawn the right conclusions, becomes only stronger.

"Happiness is not a life without worries and sorrows, happiness is a state of mind" F. Dzerzhinsky. For family life to be happy, you must learn to maintain emotional balance and concentrate on the positive aspects of your husband or situation. It depends on your mood how today will pass, a week, a month, a year. Remember, perfection consists of trifles!

Olga, Ryazan