One of the conditions for the fulfillment of a dream is the ability to let it go. And this is the most difficult. Many people do not understand how to let go of the desire and at the same time visualize its execution. There are several simple techniques that will help make the dream a reality, not fixing on it.
Why is it important to let go of desire?
It often happens that a person puts a lot of effort to make his dream come true, but this does not happen for a long time. He is too attached to her, because he interferes with its execution. A balloon can fly, but we will never know about it unless we let it go. So with the dream, she can come true, but if you open your hands and let her do it.
The main mistake is giving desire too much importance. If it does not come true, then happiness will have to be forgotten. It usually happens. This happens for two reasons:
- What the brain focuses on. The more anxious a person is, the more negative his dream becomes. It's like a visualization with a piece of "not", if you specify the phrase "I want not to hurt", in the subconsciousness, the disease will first flash. When desire does not come true for a long time, the brain focuses on failure, and not on the dream itself.
- The desire, "poisoned" by the negative, is rejected by the brain. The person has a function of self-preservation. If the dream, even the most positive, causes fear, anxiety and negativity, then the brain tries to abstract itself from it and prevent its fulfillment. And constantly making hellish efforts, a person loses pleasure from the process.
Letting go does not mean doing nothing to make a wish come true. But sometimes a person is so obsessed with the goal and with the plan to achieve it, that he does not see that he is doing everything wrong. And the efforts that have been put in the wrong place will not give results anyway.
Receives the one who does not require anything and does not wait. Desire should not lead life to put pressure on a person and turn into a need.
6 techniques that will help to let go of desire
Engage the Universe
Remember the feeling of relief when you were entrusted with something important, and you have the opportunity to pass it on to someone else. The same principle works in this method. You must write a letter to the Universe or draw up a formal agreement with it. To remember that from time to time you still need to take some actions to make your dreams come true, you can write down what you need to do, for example, appear in public places once a week to meet a dream guy or view job offers with higher salary on Thursdays . Removing responsibility, you can reduce the level of anxiety.
From head to paper
This technique will help in the literal sense to free the head. A man always carries desires in himself. If you add to this daily visualization, then the energy of an unrealized dream can take a lot. Need to write all your wishes on paper. This can be done in the form of a list or in the form of a whole story, in which the details will be spelled out, including sensations, emotions. To do this, a diary or a separate sheet.
You can also hold a kind of ritual. For example, after all desires are written out, you need to read them and say: "I am free from my desires, I am worthy of their fulfillment, I let go of my dreams so that they can be easily fulfilled." You can re-read the list once a week.
And what will happen if the desire does not come true?
This is a technique of talking to yourself. You need to imagine what will happen if the desire does not come true. First you need to imagine the worst, and then look at it in a positive way. Depending on the dream, it may be a little strange, but this is the only way to let go of desire. For example, a woman really wants to become a mother, but she does not get pregnant. She can come to the conclusion that the absence of children will give her freedom, protect her from sleepless nights, she will have more time for her husband, their family budget will not suffer. Even if the benefits of not fulfilling the wishes are incomparable with the minuses, you still need to find them.
Not a moment's rest
There is no time to think about not fulfilling desires, if the schedule is packed with pleasant things. Meeting friends, traveling, fun hobbies - all this is a cool distraction. In addition, the more interesting a person is, the more he has hobbies, the easier it is for him to arrange a personal life, to establish communication with other people and build a career.
If free time, even more than enough, you need to find what to do with it. This may be reading, walking, fitness.
Preparing for the fulfillment of desire
It happens that the dream does not come true, because the person himself is not ready for this. For example, a girl wants to build a relationship, but nothing comes out of her, and all because of the installation, that she first needs to graduate from college, and then start a serious relationship. Internal contradiction does not make her dream come true. To learn to let go of desire, you can not get rid of this belief, but turn it in a positive direction. For example, to repeat "you need to study well, and then by 24 I will be for my husband." And you need to believe in it.
Another option, you need to think about the conditions under which the desire could theoretically be fulfilled. For example, you can get a travel company, if you learn English. It is logical that even if all the forces of the Universe are directed to fulfill only this dream, this will not happen until a person goes to language courses. But while enrolling in English classes, you need to give yourself the installation that even if a travel company does not work, knowledge of a foreign language is a useful skill.
Time-out
You need to give yourself the opportunity to relax. For a while, stop rowing in the direction of desire, and put down the oars and calmly sway on the waves. The installation in the head should be the following: “I didn’t give up, I just rest temporarily” or “at this stage I did everything possible, I’m open to opportunities and as soon as they appear, I will use them.”
Knowing how to let go of desire will help in its execution no less than visualization. A man free from desires gets everything.
