Relations originated in the network, have long ceased to be a wonder.
Increasingly, lonely users find their half in social networks.
How to interest a guy or a girl by correspondence, experts in psychology know.
Benefits of online dating
Social networks - not just a place to chat with friends.
Sites help to find new friends. Quite possibly, among them will be the future half of the user.
Increasingly, the initial stages of relationships fall on the Internet correspondence. In this way there are a lot of advantages:
- Safe acquaintance. Social networks allow you to see photos of a person, learn about his hobbies and communication style.
- Rescue from shyness. Now it is not necessary to worry and blush on the first date. Chat conversations will help to find common topics that will be the foundation for the first real meetings.
- The origin of friendship. Heart-to-heart conversations that take place online bring users closer together.
Being in a familiar setting, the person speaks more sincerely.
According to a comic expression, the men came from Mars, and the girls - from Venus. Therefore, advice on finding the source should be divided into male and female.
Recommendations to guys
Before breaking into the life of a stranger, soul-thinkers advise carefully go through your own page. It is necessary to remove any compromising content from it.
Whether it's photos with classmates or tearful quotes about love. All this was relevant at the time of publication, but on the threshold of a new phase there will be inappropriate.
Delete photos indiscriminately is not advised. The more cards in the profile, the more attractive the boy will appear.
Priority photos:
- embracing pets (albeit neighbors);
- photos at home (you need to monitor the cleanliness of the background);
- sports chronicle - photos from football matches or footage from a workout in the gym.
Start dating
How to attract a girl? The first message is an exciting moment. For communication to last a long time, and the first messages did not push the interlocutor, it is important to avoid standard clichés.
Patterns like “How are you?” Or “Hello, beautiful!” Do not look attractive, no matter how charming their author is.
You can interest the young lady non-standard approach. The original greeting will highlight the guy from the crowd if the girl has a group of fans.
A win-win - a clue to any group in the social network. We are looking for publics that are subscribed to the lady and study the content of the page.
By the way, in the Vkontakte network, the most visited user groups are located at the top of the list. This will help to choose the most readable girl public.
The mention of joint groups dramatically brings together interlocutors. It is important to let the girl know that you have something in common.
What to write in the first message to the girl:
- "Hello. Saw you in the street yesterday. In life, you're even prettier than in the photo. " The way is effective, but the lady can start to find out where the mysterious stranger met her. We'll have to get out.
- "Hello. It may sound like a nonsense, but recently I saw you in a dream. And today I came across your page. I do not know whether to believe in chance. "
- "Hello. I need help. On a walk I lost my dog. In the photo, I guess you live in that area. Have you seen Spike? ” As proof send a photo of a dog.
It is important to avoid an abundance of patterns that are replete with the Internet. If one of the proposed tricks did not work, do not try the second one.
Another effective way to start a conversation - give her a compliment. Formulate it in your own words and in no case use Internet quatrains. And, of course, the compliment must be sincere and without the slightest sexual connotation.
Fish on the hook
So, the conversation began. Now it’s important not only to keep the interlocutor’s attention, but also cause her sincere interest.
A few simple rules how to cause interest:
- Humor. The trump card of any acquaintance. Joke gently, in moderation and be positive. Ease - the key to the continuation of the correspondence.
- Modesty. Do not talk about their victories. Self-promotion at the first meeting is inappropriate. If the girl is interested in the achievements of the guy, she will ask about them.
- Politeness. Ageless trick and the key to success.
- About personal - silent. Do not immediately rummage through the relationship of the girl and ask about her boyfriend.
- Media files. She can send interesting pictures or pleasant music.
A clear evidence of the interest of the girl will be your repeated correspondence. If she daily finds at least half an hour to talk with you, she probably got hooked.
Another trump card will be young lady's phone number. After a few conversations, ask her for a phone number.
How do you like the interlocutor?
Unfortunately, regular conversations do not mean that the girl liked the new acquaintance. Maybe she speaks out of common courtesy.
To please the lady, it is important to keep the topics interesting for her. Football and horror movies wait. Try to talk about things important to her. Information about this can be found on her page.
Watch that in conversation causes her revival. If yesterday you were talking about cats before midnight, today by chance touch on this topic. You can send a photo of a stray kitten that you will meet on your way home. Discuss his share and mention sharing lunch with him.
In any conversation, a period of awkward pause begins. The topic under discussion has exhausted itself, and a new one cannot be born. In this case, you can resort to questions that allow to revive the correspondence.
What questions to ask a girl:
- If you were a movie hero, what would be its name?
- What fairy tale reminds your life?
- What drives you: emotions or logic?
- Which of the watched films left an indelible impression?
- If you caught a goldfish, what would your wish be?
- What animal do you associate yourself with?
The list is endless. The main thing, show interest in personality girls and do not rush to express their own answer to the question.
If in the arsenal there is already a girl's phone number, you can slowly break out of the social networks. However, do not rush headlong into the attack. Start with polite SMS wishing good morning.
The first telephone conversation should be arranged in advance. Let the girl choose the time when it is convenient for her to talk. Do not impose, if for some reason she postpones the first conversation.
You can interest the girl, carefully dosing its presence in her life. Periodically disappear from online, later necessarily explaining his absence. The guy sitting on the network 24/7 seems at least a strange character.
How to understand that a girl is interested in:
- She herself gets in touch. Fortunately, the stereotype that girls do not write first, gradually loses its relevance.
- He asks about the guy's business. Sincere interest cannot be faked.
- She willingly agrees to talk on the phone.
No matter how pleasant the online communication is, it is advised to proceed to real meetings as soon as possible. Let the acquaintance pass in a public place and unobtrusive environment.
5 rules how to correspond with any girl:
Tips for girls
Methods of attracting men to your page are somewhat different from the recommendations for guys.
The rule about cleaning your own page relevant for girls.
In a virtual dating account plays the role of a business card, so it must be perfect.
How to make conversation?
If girls are used to knocking in "lichku", then guys more often wary of ladies immediately bursting in private. Do not start communicating with the same banal "How are you?".
Before the beginning of the correspondence is worth exploring the guy page The future conversation should have a strong base, catching the guy from the first messages.
Consider the places in which he visited. If you also visited them, the trump card is in your pocket. If not, study information about this region.
What to write to the guy who likes? Examples of how to chat with a guy:
- "Hello. Stumbled upon your page and was surprised. You have been in the Carpathians! I am just planning to go there on vacation. Tell me what's what? "
- "Hello. I saw your photos and as if plunged into the summer. Imagine, I also rested on this beach in July. ”
- "Hello. I saw on your page a post about my brother's favorite football club. Do not know how to buy tickets for their game? I want to give him a gift. ”
Kindle interest
Start a conversation let the guy be wise and strong.
Pretend to be a fool asking for help.
Beat the situation as if your “bag” had its pens off right on his page. Let be will feel like a hero and help you.
Do not rush to claim the title of "friends." It is advised to throw a friend request only after the conversation has passed for a dozen messages. By the way, the guy's instant answers will be a sure testimony to his interest.
So, the first conversation took place. But how to make it happen and follow? For this it is important to correctly complete the first dialogue.
Select another topic on his page. For example, a quote from your favorite movie. As if by chance, mention that they have long wanted to see this picture. After a day or two, you can safely appear and share your impressions.
In order not to be trapped, be sure to watch this movie. If the guy really disassembled the tape for quotations, then he would see a liar instantly.
Getting to like
The first rule of literate flirting is to be yourself. To please a guy, it is important to please yourself. Love yourself, engage in self-development and never pretend to be an interesting person. Be it!
Simple tips on how to please a guy:
- Joint interests. Carefully study his page and soon you will find your common interests. Use any clues: genres in music, books, photoresists, mutual friends.
- Unobtrusive. Do not break through the personal space of the guy every day, "good morning." Be unobtrusive and elusive. Today you wrote, and tomorrow expect the initiative from it.
- Literacy. Watch your speech. You should not go to extremes and turn to him "sire." It will be enough elementary rules of punctuation and lack of jargon.
- Humor. Universal remedy for both boys and girls.
- Do not flatter. Obsessive praise and flattery are the worst friends of an interested girl.
- Orient issues to the future, not the past.. It will be more pleasant to guy to share plans, rather than to dig in the past.
There are a few simple signs what you liked the other person:
- he writes to you first;
- is online more often than usual;
- agrees on the next virtual conversation;
- warns if he is going to leave;
- doesn't want to let you go.
If a guy willingly shares his thoughts and touches topics that are important to him - he is on a hook. Also an indicator will be the analysis of the past day and the revelations about his experiences. Not all guys want to share secrets, so push it with an unobtrusive question.
If the guy is concerned with the topics discussed in the previous conversation, it means that he repeatedly mentioned you.
Typical mistakes
Unfortunately, there are no universal tips on how to interest a guy or a girl by correspondence. Interlocutor may perceive the behavior of a new acquaintance in a wrong way.
Yes, and the initiators themselves dating often make mistakes. The most frequent "feil" commit both girls and boys.
Common dating errors:
- 24-hour duty in the network. Do not get hung up on a new friend. In addition to online life, you should have a real, no less interesting.
- Attack by pictures. An endless stream of photos, music and video tires. In addition, his value is lost, and along with it the interest of the interlocutor.
- Tirade. If the interlocutor does not respond, you do not need to overwhelm him with a machine-gun burst of messages. Even worse - to besiege him “on all fronts”, attacking the social page, telephone and other means of communication.
- Intimate topics. Even adults should refrain from frank topics during the first conversations.
- Likes indiscriminately. Do not mindlessly press the heart under all the records vis-à-vis. It is more like an obsession than an interest.
- Exposure. This reception was chosen by the girls. Wait an hour or two before responding to an incoming message. Such a move is more likely to play with a waiting joke.
- Permanent presence. Dozens of messages per day - brute force even for the most interested character.
Do not rub his attention, like a pebble in the shoe. It is much nicer to wait for the evening to go online.
Online dating - A great way to find not only new friends, but also a soul mate. To succeed, it is important to follow the simple rules of online conversations.
