According to the experiments of Duncan McDougall, the human soul weighs only 21 grams. If we assume that this is true, then how much sadness takes away from inner joy? While the answer is unknown. It remains only to strive to ensure that the emptiness in the soul does not linger for a long time. Depression, pain, heaviness, fatigue and indifference are not worth spending your life on. How to make the soul “black hole” tightened once and for all? How to completely, without deprivation, save 21 grams of your own soul?
How to cope with the emptiness in the soul
Empathize with the heroes
This option is an attempt to fill yourself with new emotions. You can experience the feelings of book heroes, actors in the cinema or theater, loved ones or even strangers bystanders. The main thing is to feel the atmosphere, the situation, the experiences of others. Why do this? Such actions will help:
- dilute internal calm, get rid of the routine;
- to give new, perhaps previously not experienced emotions;
- identify the main problems, since the moments of the highest emotional upheavals are the problematic topics hidden in the subconscious;
- get rid of boredom, tiredness, lethargy;
- learn to find ways out of difficult situations in which heroes fall;
- it is better to study the psychology of others, the features of their behavior;
- to develop the inner world;
- draw conclusions, find the moral, the idea, learn from the mistakes of others.
Depending on the genre of the book, film, performance, you can fill your spiritual, emotional or intellectual bowl to the brim. After that, the emptiness inside will disappear by itself. Such advice will be interesting even for those who do not suffer from internal wounds, but really want to warn them.
Remember childhood
Daily duties, vanity, great responsibility, a very rigid framework make a person too adult. What does this mean and who are “adults”? According to many, these are people who:
- keep your emotions under strict control;
- they don't dream, they look at the world realistically, soberly;
- they do not believe in miracles, show themselves as skeptics, cynics in relation to them;
- in all situations, without exception, they forget about their “want” in favor of “must”;
- they set the main goals of the family and work, in their thoughts there is no place for poorly paid creativity, self-realization without profit;
- always put logic higher than the heart;
- never risk, go on adventures, adhere to the golden mean, do not go to extremes.
And everything would seem to be good and right, but somehow too “grown-up”. Boring, gray, smooth, without prospects, growth, development.
Sometimes it is better to remember your inner child and pamper him a little. 35-year-old lawyer wants to jump on a trampoline - yes please. Someone's grandmother wished to play snowballs with her spouse, to make a snow angel - why not? The father of four children remembered the childhood dream of becoming a star warrior, and he bought a toy space gun - so what?
The maximum that the people around will do is to throw a couple of looks, the work will not run away anywhere, the relatives will understand, the emptiness will disappear. But the resulting joy, fun, positive enough for a long time.
Add small pebbles
It can be assumed that the soul is a large vase. To fill it, the largest gems are put into it. The latter are family, career, friends, money, and more. However, firstly, such treasures are not lying on the road, they are difficult to find, there are many fakes. Secondly, they leave huge gaps between themselves, and the vase only looks filled, remaining essentially half empty. What to do?
To pour into the vessel smaller, but also expensive pebbles, filling the distance between large cobblestones with them. It can be:
- games with a pet;
- small short-term hobbies;
- pleasant shopping;
- tasty food, drinks;
- minor victories - getting a discount, winning replenishment of the mobile in the lottery, morning rise instead of sleeping before lunch, etc .;
- charity;
- watching a good movie, reading a useful book;
- walking barefoot;
- driving by car or by train.
Little things seem insignificant, but it is from them consists of all life. They accumulate, create something big, bright, joyful. That is why these little surprises are desirable to notice, appreciate.
Get to know yourself
A deep and hollow emptiness settles in the souls of those who ignore themselves of the present. Everybody has been taught since childhood to take care of others, to give in to them, to make compromises, to help. Why don't schools tell you that it is also important to love, understand, and know yourself? Why does no one say that a person who does not respect, does not value himself, is rarely able to show good in relation to others?
What does it mean to “get to know yourself”? This is an opportunity to easily answer even small questions about your own tastes, interests, desires. For example:
- which salad “Olivier” tastes better - with meat or sausage;
- what music is more pleasant - blues, latino, rap, classical or rock;
- where better to go on vacation - in a quiet house on the edge of the forest or in a noisy metropolis with lots of entertainment;
- which female, male names seem more beautiful, and which are already outdated;
- what is more interesting - to read a book or watch its adaptation;
- what smell is fragrant - floral, citrus, woody or oriental;
- whether the dress of the bride must be white;
- What is the ideal number of children in a middle-income family?
These are just a few rough questions to help you know yourself better. However, it is not enough to give an unequivocal answer consisting of one or three words. It is also important to learn to understand, explain why the choice was made in favor of a particular option.
To talk
Empty hard inside? Better to share it with someone. How many problems in the world can be solved if you just talk about them. Sometimes it is necessary for the soul to simply speak out about the painful one, sometimes to apologize in order to throw off the cargo, to make peace with a close one. In other cases, there is not enough support, which cannot be obtained without frankness.
There is also a separate category of situations in which you need to talk not with family or friends. These are circumstances requiring the intervention of a psychotherapist. To be able to help, you also need openness, a little courage to be honest. But isn't that happy, soaring soul worth it?
Leave a mark
Sooner or later, all people begin to think about what achievements they have made, how they were realized in life. Not everyone likes the answers. Most often, such questions arise for those who are experiencing the notorious midlife crisis. However, such thoughts may also occur to people who have not yet crossed the threshold of the 30th anniversary. To achieve all goals, to realize dreams, to become successful in a couple of days is unlikely to succeed. How to be?
Council one - try to leave your mark. Which one? Remembering yourself can become:
- child birth, raising children or grandchildren;
- volunteering, something good, useful for a particular person, society, animals, nature in general;
- works of art - paintings, books, films, music videos, musical compositions, choreographic productions;
- inventions - even the smallest, in the form of useful objects or theoretical methods;
- construction of a house, utility room, gazebo, playground;
- implementation in some kind of sport, in work so that it is appreciated (to win a tender in a competition between different companies, to win in a regional or urban sports competition);
- surround yourself with loving people who will appreciate good deeds.
If the feeling that the soul is bad was due to dissatisfaction with the years that have passed, this is a sure sign that it is time to use such advice.
Buy mainland
There is a theory that a person needs to aim at more than he wants or expects. There is a desire to get a salary increase of 10% - it is desirable to ask for 20%. I want to win the city competition - to prepare myself for the international one. Plans to make money on a one-room apartment - to work, as for a two-room apartment. Once one goal is achieved, you can immediately set a second one. The mainland, of course, is unlikely to buy, but just say goodbye to heartache will work out.
The void in the soul has a taste of bitterness and loneliness. With such a set of happiness does not build. If you endure, do nothing for a long time, then the internal “vacuum” will begin to expand, filling more and more of the spiritual space. Fortunately, these tips can save you from this problem, return a sense of harmony. Whether to fight for your own happy future is a choice that a person makes himself. However, without change, action, struggle, life stops, noticeably fades.
