Modern beauty standards dictate their conditions to women.
Watching the beautiful models on the covers of fashion magazines and admiring the elegant proportions of slender nymphs, every girl dreams of seeing a chiseled figure in a mirror.
But thus not everyone achieves success in the given question. Why can not lose those extra pounds and where to find the motivation?
Overweight psychology
Line weight - This is primarily a "complex relationship" with food.
The basis of obesity is eating disorder.
And it can be triggered by various psychological causes.
- Food as a reward. The habit of seizing stress, rewarding themselves with delicacies for each victory and treating food as the most accessible source of pleasure is a big mistake. A person teaches himself to see happiness in calories, sugar and other “satisfying joys”. With the help of additional servings of pasta or dumplings, he gets away from the problems, sprinkling disappointment with chocolate. And then positive emotions from eating food are replaced by remorse and dissatisfaction with oneself, one’s own figure and willpower.
- Fear of eating. When a girl wants to lose weight and limits herself to food, it will inevitably lead to a breakdown. The nervous system cannot always be in the state of a compressed spring.
Sooner or later, the shutter speed will let you down, and then the woman will not be able to control the psychological appetite.
It will attack the food and will absorb high-calorie foods until the body feels safe. Well, as a result, there will be fear of such breakdowns and a desire to punish yourself with debilitating diets. Thus, the girl “swings the swing” of her own psyche. She drops a few pounds, breaks off the diet and gains weight again.
- Food as entertainment. Why not eat a few sandwiches while watching a movie? A boring evening can be brightened up with a pack of chips. A meeting with friends can not do without fatty pizza and soda. Food becomes an addition to a pleasant pastime and a kind of bonus. Man perceives products not as fuel for the body, but as entertainment. Therefore, to control calorie intake becomes impossible.
Why it seems to me that I am fat?
If there are no objective reasons for dissatisfaction with the figure (standard or even slim physique), but the girl persistently searches for and finds folds on the sides, extra centimeters at the hips and fat pads under the armpits, then she suffers from imposed standards.
Indeed, in this case, the attitude to the figure is estimated. And the evaluation, in turn, is tied to some unattainable ideal.
Photoshop, a good angle, the right makeup or a good outfit on the beautiful "girls on the cover" distort reality in the eyes of real and lively girlswho begin to perceive their body as a set of shortcomings and shortcomings.
What if you are fat and ugly?
First of all, you need to work on your own self-esteem.
External changes will not help correct the situation. By eliminating one flaw, the woman immediately finds another.
All this will turn into windmill fight. But when a girl can really take on her body and appearance, assess her own individuality, she is ready for external changes.
You can change the style, work on the figure and even resort to the services of cosmetologists and plastic surgeons.
It is important to understand that any effort motivation for which acts aggression, devastate a woman and deprive her of motivation. Change cannot be the way to get away from self-loathing.
They should flow from the love of their own body and face. The desire to perfect and emphasize beauty is what underlies transformation.
How to accept yourself? Three simple tips of psychologists will help to do this:
- Find beautiful and successful women who have “flaws” similar to yours.. Do they have a big nose, lots of freckles, short legs or no waist? But while women do not suffer from attention deficit or lack of popularity. So, these features of appearance are in fact a highlight, and not a disadvantage.
- Try to find your “comfort zone” in beauty matters.. For any shape you can choose a good outfit, playing with the shape, texture and color. It is important to properly make a wardrobe and wear exactly those things every day that emphasize dignity and hide flaws. Then even a glance in the mirror will be fun.
- Get rid of friends criticizing you. Friends who point out flaws or try to prick self-esteem are not really friends. They slowly and persistently drive destructive attitudes about their appearance into your consciousness in order to feel better and more beautiful at the expense of your complexes.
I will never lose weight
Why can't I make myself lose weight? The problem lies in the wrong approach to the process of losing weight and lack of basic knowledge of the topic.
First you need to tune in to a gradual result. Lose weight in two hours or two days is simply impossible.
Next you need study the anatomy and principles of nutrition, to eliminate blunders backed by myths from the Internet. Often it is the myths (lack of information or false information on the topic) that cause the lack of results.
How to make yourself lose weight: where to start?
Need to start small.
A sharp rejection of junk food, an unreasonably abrupt introduction of large physical activity and a total restructuring of the regime will only lead to failures.
Well, the lack of instant results will depreciate titanic work in your own eyes. Therefore, the best tactic is to introduce two or three new “healthy” rules to life with a break of a couple of days.
The transition to a new lifestyle will be smooth and gentle. But small victories will strengthen faith in their own strength.
How to stop thinking about food?
You can not impose strict restrictions. Fully excluding chocolate from life, you doom the brain to thoughts of "forbidden pleasure."
It is better to eat a few pieces of sweets as you become willing, than to break in at one in the morning and destroy three tiles at once.
It is also necessary to diversify leisure. Contemplation of boring gears will lead to depression or a refrigerator. But active and interesting entertainment will occupy thoughts and will not allow even to remember about food.
How to eat less?
Due to the rejection of large plates in favor of small saucers, you can easily reduce the amount of food.
After all, if you fill small plate to the brim, the subconscious will perceive the portion as large and satisfying.
But in fact, the calories will be much less, because the food in a saucer will not fit too much.
Well, if you pull yourself together categorically does not work, you will have to limit the available sources of junk food. Do not store sweets, muffins, fast food and convenience foods at home..
Even the probability of the presence of such food in the kitchen should be excluded for at least two to three weeks.
In a few weeks the stomach will decrease. This means that the amount of food consumed will be reduced without additional effort on your part.
How to pull yourself together?
How to tackle yourself and lose weight? External motivation (beautiful photos of athletes and models, dresses of small sizes and the prospect of going to the beach in a month) has temporary and mild effect.
The desire to change is based on absolute resonance with the current state of affairs. You need to look at yourself from the outside (through photos and videos) and understand that motivation is not someone's abstract sports figure, but an imperfect body of its own, which can be perfect.
And it (the body) is here and now, and not just exists in your fantasy.
How to motivate a loved one to lose weight?
If a person is able to soberly assess their own appearance, you can simply offer him to work on the figure, promising to provide all possible assistance and fulfilling the promise.
It is necessary to refrain from direct / negative criticism and to focus on prospects (improving health, increasing self-esteem, chic appearance, the ability to prove one's superiority to friends and acquaintances, etc.).
People with painfully low or high self-esteem do not perceive criticism. Therefore, it is best to infect them with one’s own example, moving the focus to one’s own person and proposing to the person simply to form a company on the way to the goal.
By turning weight loss into an exciting game, you can not just achieve external changes in a person, but also change his attitude to his own body, health, as well as to sport and appearance standards.
Psychological help
If a person repeatedly tried to lose weight, broke off and started all over again, most likely he acquired eating disorder.
A clear sign of violations in the "man-food" plane is the fear of certain types of products, the division of food into "good" and "bad", as well as the incorrect prioritization of beauty and to the detriment of health.
You can try to cope with the problem yourself, while attacking the same rake. Can i seek psychological helpto get rid of destructive attitudes, phobias and false beliefs.
When working with a psychologist, you can reveal the true cause of excess weight (dissatisfaction with their lives, love disappointments, problems at work, children's emotional traumas, etc.) and declare war not only on the consequences in the form of excess weight, but also on the reasons for the appearance of hateful kilograms.
A psychologist can help avoid painful conditions like bulimia, anorexia, etc.
After all, a specialist will be able to correctly determine at what stage the “failure” occurs and a return to an undesirable pattern of behavior, an uncontrolled absorption of food and the appearance of hatred towards your body.
Psychotherapy also helps to work out the "traps of consciousness" and the cause of dependence on specific types of products (sweet, salty, flour, etc.).
No need to perceive your own body as hindrance to a happy life.
Extra pounds - this is just a variable characteristic of appearance, which does not affect your human qualities.
And if desired, the weight / figure can be corrected by proper nutrition and sports. But changing the internal content is much more difficultTherefore, first of all, you need to work on your own worldview, perception, character and attitude to the world.
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