Woman-hater: who it is and how to resist such a man

It is necessary for a man to carelessly drop the phrase “I hate women,” as he will be immediately included in the ranks of women-haters. But quite often, in a far-fetched way, there is a completely normal man, offended by the former. A real woman-hater, first of all, reveals himself to be deeds - active oppression of women's rights, humiliation and even physical abuse.

Definition of misogynist

A woman-hater is a man who shows hostility, contempt and hatred towards women, discriminates them on the basis of sex, rapes or uses them exclusively to satisfy sexual needs. Misogyny has another term - misogyny (from ancient Greek "μῖσος" - hate and "γυνή" - woman). Accordingly, a man is called a misogynist.

Some mistakenly believe that a chauvinist is also a woman-hater. But this concept rather means hostility in political and public life. In dictionaries, chauvinism is interpreted as an extreme form of nationalism, opposing the interests of one nation to the interests of all others. Although we can not exclude the possibility that the chauvinist may well be a misogynist.

13 characteristic signs

Rare mizoginist expresses his beliefs openly. Often, he does not scream out loud "I hate women," but he does everything against them. Some even hold back for a while to charm the person they like, and then use them for sexual pleasures (nobody canceled the breeding instinct). Therefore, many women at first may not know who they are dealing with. So, how to recognize a woman ghost, symptoms:

He deliberately humiliates and insults a woman.
From his mouth often heard unflattering remarks about women. For example: "The chicken is not a bird, the woman is not a man," and others.
Sympathy for a woman is alien to him, he always believes that she herself is to blame.
He is deeply convinced that a woman should serve a man: wash, cook, clean, serve, bring up his children.
For him it is humiliating to help a woman.
He more than others hates women who have achieved success in any business. He is ready to do everything to level her merits.
They never apologize to a woman, do not repent of the wrongful deed or harsh words against her.
He is prone to hypocrisy. It costs nothing for him to twist the situation, lie, "put on a mask" for his own benefit (for example, evidence that a woman is an empty space).
In sex, only his own satisfaction is important to him.
In family life, he first of all will limit the woman in contacts with friends and relatives. She should not have potential advocates.
He easily manipulates people.
He has flashes of aggression, he is irritable, often in a bad mood.
He is unable to learn from his mistakes, is not inclined to introspection and self-criticism.

The main difference between a mizoginist and an aggressive person is hatred only for women. With men, he usually gets along fine, has many friends, is considered a respected person at work.

Causes of misogyny

The roots of the problem grow from childhood. Subsequent traumatic events can only strengthen or weaken the beliefs of the woman-hater. So, what makes a man hate women:

genetic predisposition (hereditary defect or burdened heredity).
parenting mistakes or lack of it (for example, in a dysfunctional family);
parental example (the father humiliates the mother or vice versa, the mother suppresses the father);
problems in the social sphere (ridicule of girls, lack of friends, tightness, etc.);
desire to imitate a person with similar convictions (for example, a famous actor, a successful businessman or a family friend).

Treason or betrayal of the woman, excessive control of the mother in adulthood only convince the man in his own right. Moreover, he begins to closely monitor the behavior of the weaker sex, to notice the slightest flaws. Each offense convinces a man that all women are the same (the collective antiideal image is then represented).

How to resist such a man?

A misogynist, a misogynist is a man who hates women. In general, the name of such a man is not so important. Much more important to be able to resist him. Many women do it quite difficult. First, a mizoginist often hides his nature at first. Everything becomes clear when a woman is already in love and is ready to forgive much, to justify her chosen one. Secondly, such a man is always sure of his rightness, which is confusing and drives into the complexes of insecure women. They meekly accept the role of the victim, cry, but continue to suffer bullying.

To put a woman hater in place, a woman needs to gather all the strength of will into a fist. To justify and prove something stupid. Need to act differently:

Enlist the support of loved ones, friends, acquaintances.
Write a statement to the police if physical or sexual abuse occurs. Remove the beatings. Start the divorce process if it is a husband. Move, change the lock and phone number, if the partner.
If the impact is only psychological, all contact should cease. With a misoginist, the boss needs to change jobs. When living together - disperse as quickly as possible.
Turn to a psychologist. A woman who has been in the victim role for a long time begins to feel sick attachment to the torturer. Breaking this connection on your own is extremely difficult. You need to carefully work out the situation, literally become a different person.

Advice of the author. To calm the woman-hater, it is necessary to attract men. Talking like a man can convince him to keep up with you. Especially if you communicate with him the one whose opinion he respects.

How to get on with the woman-hater?

A woman hater is a synonym for a sadist, a tyrant, a domestic torturer. Such a person is sociopathic, that is, does not understand and does not accept social norms of morality. Empathy (sympathy, empathy) is alien to the misogynist. Therefore, to appeal to prudence, conscience is meaningless here. Do not change the situation and physical punishment. It is impossible to re-educate or cure such a person. Sooner or later, the woman will be convinced of this.

How to live with a woman-hater? Extremely difficult. Such a life resembles the existence of a powder keg. The misogynist does not need reasons for aggression, because hatred of a woman is his enduring personal conviction. Therefore, please and endure the wrong option. The only thing that can help is family cognitive behavioral therapy. In some cases, you may additionally need to take antidepressants. In general, efforts will need to be done a lot, especially at the stage of persuasion and requests to contact a psychologist.

In conclusion, it is worth reminding women once again that a man is told about his actions, not words. The phrase "I hate women" is like "all men are goats." Neither one nor the other does not characterize a person. It can be a simple generalization, said in the hearts. To recognize a woman hater, you need to look at his attitude and actions towards all women around him, as well as for comparison, towards men. If there are certain suspicions, you need to ask more knowledgeable women about him, and after making sure that the man is a misogynist, run as quickly as possible.