Here and now - the only time that a person has. The lived minute quickly becomes the past, and the future never comes, it is only in our head. According to psychologists, there are very few people who know how to live in the present, mostly everyone is busy with plans or memories. Having learned to appreciate and fully live every moment of the present, you will find harmony with yourself, become happier, succeed in life.
What is "here and now"?
There is only a moment between the past and the future, it is called life. The words from the song best describe the moment of the present and how important it is to appreciate and notice. Imagine yourself at 70, sitting among children and grandchildren, flipping through an album and telling you about happy moments. This will be possible only if you begin to live now. It was at this moment that the foundation of the future was laid, a reason for nostalgia appeared.
No one remembers the days spent aimlessly. Minutes, when you just dreamed of, drank tea in the kitchen, sat on social networks you will not remember. But tea drinking with friends and a fun game of charades, buying tickets and family planning a vacation, an interesting acquaintance that will result in relationships or friendship will be more pleasant.
Doing what you like, a person fills life with joyful moments of the present. It is their combination that allows to make the diagnosis "Happy!".
How to recognize that you can not live here and now?
Frequent nostalgia
Good memories from the past - a sign that once a man knew how to enjoy the moment. He lived for some time so happily that it was reflected in his memory and now comes up, replacing real thoughts. Sometimes it is pleasant to recall joyful events, but if this happens often, it means the person is not happy with his current situation. In this case, nostalgia is the first bell that it's time to change something.
Permanent dreams of the future
There is nothing wrong with dreaming or making a plan. But people hide behind their imagination, escape into the world of dreams, just to not live here and now, where they feel so bad. Real emotions are much brighter than imaginary ones; in order to experience them, you need to start making your dreams come true today.
Postponement
People used to go on a diet from Monday, start a new life from January, go to university next year. The plan is great, but isn't it better to start implementing it right now? If you do not at least take a small step towards the fulfillment of your desires momentarily, they will hang somewhere in the space “later”.
Anxiety, panic, fear
There is a wise aphorism: "If you can change something - change, if you can not change - accept it." Anxiety occurs either after a negative event and anxiety about it, or because of fear of the future. The best solution is to understand what can be influenced in the situation. If there is an opportunity to change something right now, you should do it. If it is impossible to solve anything momentarily, you need to try to calm down and understand that you are safe now.
Low self-esteem
A person who does not believe in himself easily finds the reasons why he cannot be here and now. My head is constantly teeming with the idea that if he were more beautiful, smarter, richer, more successful, everything would be different. This is counterproductive. Can someone become more beautiful? Cosmetics, clothes, good mood work wonders. Reading books, learning will help in the development of intelligence. Success and wealth come to those who know how to catch the present moment.
How to learn to live in the present?
Give in to the momentary impulse.
If something came to mind, you need to start doing it right there. Thinking about repair, tear wallpaper. Wanted to change the image, forward for the paint. There was a thought about vacation, immediately buy tickets. Although reckless actions are not always appropriate, they can be useful.
To divide the difficult goal into parts.
Many postpone important things for later, because they seem too big. If you plan a venture, allocating a little time in each day, it turns out that it’s not so difficult to fulfill the cherished dream. The faster this happens, the sooner you can enjoy the fruits.
To appreciate big and small happiness.
The person thinks that he will become happier when he earns a lot of money, will get married / marry, go to Rome. But you can not always wait for some mythical moment when the white line begins. Turn joy into a habit, then every day will be happy.
Be here and now.
Living the moment in which you like everything, you need to try to stay in it as long as possible. It should be savored as a tasty dish. People tend to hurry somewhere, to develop, to reach. Treat life as a walk in the woods. After all, the goal is not to run through the grove, it is important to hear the birds chirping, inhale the fir-tree scent, see the blooming glade, lie quietly on the thick grass.
Abandon what oppresses.
The main reason for escaping from reality is antipathy towards one’s life. Unloved work, negative environment, lack of time for yourself are forced to drown in dreams of future changes. If you start doing what you like, every minute will be more valuable.
Pay attention to fear.
People try to get rid of the anxious feeling mentally repeating: "I do not panic." It will not help! It is much more effective to focus on the problem, to speak it out, to consider it from all sides. If you pay close attention to her, she may seem stupid and causeless. You can also try asking yourself how real the disturbing situation is. What can be done to prevent it from happening?
Express methods of returning to here and now
To enjoy the present moment you need to be able to stop. To do this, the following simple methods will help:
• Deep breaths. You just need to concentrate on each breath and exhale, do it slowly.
• Music. Many people think that only relaxing tracks help. They can be combined with breathing exercises to enhance the effect. But sometimes energetic music is better, under which you can also dance. Moreover, the more stupid the dance is, the more fun it is, which means that the moment of presence will be guaranteed.
• Animals. If you pet a dog, a cat, the animal will reciprocate. The cat will begin to purr, the dog curls its tail. Proved that it causes positive emotions. Man does not want to leave a being responding to his affection.
• Walks in the open air. An aimless promenade will help slow down time. It is important not to combine it with shopping and not to think at this time that unwashed dishes await at home. The purpose of the walk is to free up thoughts, even if only for half an hour.
The best time is here and now. It is worth living. Using simple techniques of "slowing down", you can learn to appreciate every moment, to quickly achieve goals, find a way to yourself.
