Learn to accept and use your own experience.
Live consciously!
Mastering awareness consists of the formation of two skills: the adoption and use of experience.
When life, figuratively speaking, deals out cards, acceptance allows you to stay in the game. By accepting, you will not judge yourself, calling a good or bad player, but simply will play. And the one who "distributes cards" will be perceived by you calmly and neutrally, and not by all means as "bad" or "good."
And what does the use of experience imply? You will learn this skill when you stop wasting time complaining about past failures or worries about a future "game." If you get good cards, you play with pleasure. Having received the bad ones, just do everything you can, and do not throw your cards on the floor with annoyance and leave the game. You realize that next time luck will surely smile at you. And maybe not - who knows? But you are ready to accept any experience.
Learn to take a new experience.
Acceptance is the willingness to handle everything that comes into your life, including a certain amount of negativity. Acceptance is the opposite of resistance, avoidance, and removal. In order to master the skill of acceptance, you must abandon judgments and assessments of yourself, people around you, and life events. After all, evaluations and judgments inevitably lead to discontent and disappointment.
At first glance, the principle of acceptance may seem like a strange concept. Your mind may have been training for a long time and clearly succeeded in fighting and resisting everything that looks unpleasant. The opposite approach is perceived as illogical, harmful and even dangerous.
The concept of adoption developed by psychologists in the 20th century has been used by Buddhist monks for many millennia. Acceptance is the key to peace in the soul and harmony with society. The ability to take your present position and condition is of tremendous value.
Acceptance allows you to avoid unnecessary struggle.
Imagine that you and your depression are playing tug-of-war. You put all your strength to defeat the blues and depression, but the latter does not want to give up and also increases power. Yes, this imaginary game is not much different from reality. Depression is a huge monster. Between you lies the abyss, even the bottom can not see. Every time you pull your end of the rope harder, depression makes a return spurt. You are getting closer to the abyss. Feel that there is no hope. Let go of your end of the rope! The monster can hardly stand on its feet, and maybe it will fall into the abyss right there. You calmly retire.
Acceptance helps you discover a better way.
You will find a better way, only by fully realizing where you are. You may have to allow yourself some time to move in the opposite direction of the desired, in order to then be able to control the situation.
Below are two strategies with which you can master the adoption, bring it into your daily life.
Without judgment, without judgment ...
Begin with a non-judgmental acceptance of ... yourself! As soon as you feel that you intend to condemn or evaluate something in yourself, highlight the consequences of your actions and express your attitude towards them. By the way, psychologists often give this advice to parents of difficult children. They say: "You can condemn the behavior of the child, call it bad or undesirable, but do not put the label" bad "on the child himself!" If your own deed was wrong, take into account the experience you have gained, thank yourself for the lesson learned, recognize the undesirable consequences of your actions. But do not judge yourself!
Most likely, you do not judge others as cruelly as yourself. You value your friends and acquaintances, perceiving both their strengths and weaknesses. Try to treat yourself the same way.
If no one knows
Imagine that none of your relatives and friends will ever know about the important actions that you do in your life. No one will be amazed at your achievements, will not appreciate education, will not blame for the failures. Even you yourself.
Accepting this idea, ask yourself what you would like to do differently now, differently than you are used to (given that no one will know about your acquisitions, or about failures). Will you change your life? If the answer is positive, then you are to a certain extent, "played" to the music of the judgments of others. Try to live for yourself.
