Life is an unpredictable thing. You never guess in what situation you need this or that knowledge. For example, young ladies often have a question about what to talk about with a guy. And such a question may arise not only at the first meeting, but after several months of communication.
The first meeting is understandable, people do not yet know each other, they have a bad idea about the interests of the interlocutor. Yes, and hesitate to confide and discuss some very personal or intimate topics. Therefore, when they first meet, girls often face the problem of choosing a topic for conversation.
Although after several years of living together, when the senses have cooled down a bit, common topics for conversation may not increase. On the contrary, there is often a crisis in communication, when there is nothing to talk about. But you shouldn’t be afraid of this, it happens when all common themes have already been discussed, you know every letter of your biographies, all funny and funny stories have long been memorized.
First date: what to talk about with a guy.
Choosing the right topic for conversation at the first meeting is not so easy. After all, the interlocutors do not know each other. But there are some rules, adhering to which, the conversation will be interesting and exciting.
7 rules of communication for the first date.
- At the first meeting, try to be natural and feminine. Communicate openly and honestly answer all the questions posed by the interlocutor. Thus you will be able to arrange a partner to yourself.
- Be sure to look partner in the eye, in any case, do not look past. Do not be afraid to show your facial expressions, it is thanks to her that the guy will understand that you are really listening to him.
- When the interlocutor tells something, ask leading questions, show that this topic is interesting to you. If you are discussing an event, try to seem competent and express your opinion (it should not radically diverge from its position).
- All the guys want to take a leadership position, so give the choice of the topic and the beginning of the conversation to him. But in any case do not remain passive. So you show that you are not at all interested.
- Try to remember as much as possible from what the guy tells you. If you get some kind of attitude, then you will thank yourself for it.
- On the first date, try to learn more about the interests of the guy, then to learn the basics of a particular topic. This will help you get close.
- When communicating, try to avoid long pauses. Keep the conversation going, ask questions, be interested in the person of the guy.
What is better to be silent on the first date?
On the first date, of course, you will not be silent; you need to talk about something. But there are taboo topics that it is better not to raise at the first meeting:
- stories about relatives better leave for later;
- the history of your diseases from kindergarten is also better not to remember;
- you should not talk about all the former guys, and even more so do not criticize their habits and manners, although you can tell about the first kiss;
- it is also better to keep silent about your own failures;
- better not complain about life, so as not to seem a whiner.
Topics for talking with a guy at the first meeting.
If you can't talk about yourself, relatives and ex-boys, what should you talk about with a guy? In fact, it is not difficult to attract the attention of a man, and there are many interesting topics for discussion. For example, you can discuss these topics for a conversation with a guy:
- latest news;
- travels;
- films;
- books;
- hobby;
- entertainment;
- sports, etc.
In addition, all people, including men, consider themselves to be prominent experts in two topics, politics and personal relationships. And if it is better not to have a conversation on political topics at the first meeting, then various aspects of interpersonal relations can be discussed. Only desirable in theory, without being tied specifically to his personal past experience.
The crisis in communication: what to say to the guy.
As mentioned above, a crisis in communication can occur between people who communicate a long time ago. But as they say, there are no hopeless situations. From this seemingly serious problem, one can fight, it is enough to delve into male psychology.
What is better not to discuss.
If the conversation does not add up, it is better not to discuss the following topics:
- You shouldn't touch on a topic that is interesting only to a guy, because in time you will get bored and the guy will get you. Believe me, it won't lead to anything good. On the contrary, the beloved will be upset because you tried to "sacrifice yourself."
- Better not ask him about the past. Guys are very secretive. If he wants, he will tell.
What to talk about.
You can't, I don't know anything about it, so what is the guy to say? In general, many topics for discussion, there would be a desire.
- The surest option is to discuss the past day. Try to ask your loved one, how was his day, how was work, etc. Tell me about your day, but choose the most interesting moments for him.
- Discuss some common interests. If you both like to ski, dream about a vacation at some ski resort. If you both love hiking in the woods, plan your next weekend. And you can have a lot of such interests: from computer games to origami. Believe me, you both get a lot of pleasure from such communication.
- Talk about future plans. Ask your lover what he expects from life, what success he wants to achieve. Guys love to talk about future plans.
- Another win-win in any situation is a new book or movie. Start talking about the emotions that you have caused the new film, and you will not notice that the guy will pick up. And if this film is not impressed, you can find out why. Admit it, not a bad talking point.
But if a loved one does not want to keep up the conversation, he does not like the topics for a conversation with the guy, better not touch him, maybe he is not in the mood. In addition, let him think what questions to ask the girl to maintain the conversation.
Here are some topics that are better not to contact the guy:
- Do not ask why the guy is silent, and what he thinks about. Truth from him, you still will not wait, just force him to lie.
- Stop constantly asking him about your shortcomings. He can't always lie and say that you are beautiful. And on the truth you are still offended.
- Do not repeat that you are stupid. If you keep saying this all the time, the guy will take it, and believe in it.
- Do not complain to your boyfriend for life, feeling unwell, persistent illness, depression, etc. This can be heard once, well - two, but not every day. Constant complaints bother everyone. Put yourself in his place.
Chatting with a guy is very different from talking with a girlfriend. Those topics that seem very important to you can be empty talk for a guy. Therefore, listen to your beloved, be interested in his hobbies and you will succeed.
