Fears of work, are widespread and are especially common in young people with no experience, characterized by isolation, anxiety, preferring loneliness.
They are afraid that their colleagues will react negatively to them, that the new work will quickly get tired, will take a lot of time and effort, but will not bring stability and comfort.
On the first day of a new job it is important to show your best, the likelihood of encountering problems that many are worried about was lower.
How not to be afraid of a new place?
Fear of a new job may have different intensity, even to be a full-fledged phobia with which one cannot cope without an experienced psychotherapist.
Its occurrence has many causes, including:
- Lack of work experience. Anxious, sensitive person is easily afraid of what he has no particular idea about. Even mentally stable young people may be worried about the thought of going to work for the first time.
- Unsuccessful experience. Fear may arise if at the previous place of work a person was subjected to pressure, harassment by colleagues or superiors.
- Having a similar traumatic experience. People who were victims of bullying in school or other institutions often experience panic at the thought that they will need to join a team.
- Social phobia and other violations that prevent the formation of healthy social connections.
People with a social phobia, with autism spectrum disorders, hardly adapt to groups.
- Uncertainty in their abilities. Those who have low self-esteem, it is difficult to present themselves as a successful employee who copes with everything.
- The unwillingness to do something that does not like too much. It is difficult to want to spend a lot of time and effort on something that does not cause positive feelings.
Experiences associated with work are also characteristic of young people who are the bulk of life is overly custody.
Therefore, before working with the fear of work, it is important to determine what caused it.
If you do not understand why you are experiencing, try to analyze your feelings in a calm atmosphere. It will help determine the cause of the alarm.
Key recommendations:
- Go through yourself. It will work if your fear is not panic, does not pull on a phobia. It happens that people who are afraid of something, overly wind themselves, as a result, the object of their anxiety begins to seem much more terrible than it actually is.
Crush anxiety, find a job and go for it: there is a high probability that it will turn out to be far less terrible than you imagined.
- Address to the psychotherapist (or to the psychologist). If you feel that the fear is extremely strong, you notice that it takes away your sleep, forces you to adapt, ruin your life, you need the help of a psychotherapist: most likely you have ergofobia. If the fear is not panic, but it still interferes, and you do not know what to do with it, it is useful to discuss it with a psychologist. Also, the psychologist will give advice on finding a job and explain how to best submit yourself.
- Try to take work as a source of money, and nothing more. A useful approach if you have to work in an area that does not cause any positive emotions, and there is no opportunity to change something in the near future.
- Try to penetrate the knowledge and skills required for the qualitative performance of duties, love them. Suitable for people who are afraid to work because the profession does not arouse interest, they feel disgust for it. Try to read non-fiction literature on the topic, watch videos, movies, showing the profession from the best side, get new skills.
- Look for work carefully. Read reviews about each place of work, ask friends and acquaintances about where they worked and continue to work, find out what the situation is, whether there were any problems. Find a few options and try to get there.
- Prepare for the first day. Put your clothes in order, collect the documentation and everything else you need. If necessary, do something that will help you calm down (for example, you can take a bath with herbs the day before, and in the morning - take a sedative).
It is useful for specialists to turn to if fear is associated with communicative difficulties, with social phobia, autism, or traumatic experience, since it will be difficult to cope with it yourself in such a case.
How to behave?
Key recommendations:
- Watch for appearance. Try to look neat, clean and not provocative (except in cases where a bright, even informal appearance is the norm for the chosen field of activity). If there are recommendations regarding the appearance of which the management spoke, it is worth considering them.
- Communicate with colleagues, but do not be too frank. Maintain social contacts, say hello, discuss working moments, give opinions, but avoid talking too much about yourself until you realize that you can trust this to your colleagues.
- Do not ignore social events. And always throw off on them. A person who deliberately avoids others is often negative for most people.
If for some reason they decided to refuse, think up some weighty reason.
- Do not brag. It is difficult to love arrogant boasters, in addition to boasting you will raise the bar for those around you who believe you. If you make a mistake, prove yourself not well enough, they will pay attention to it.
- Watch. Try to look at all colleagues, to the authorities, form an opinion about them, determine what the worldview of the majority of colleagues. This will help create a harmonious relationship with them.
- Be polite to everyone. At the same time, it is important to divide politeness and courtesy: the latter should be exercised moderately, otherwise you will begin to be pushed around. Do not be afraid to say no.
- Be interested in the opinion of the authorities. For example, if you were taken for a temporary period, when it comes to an end, ask the manager how he evaluates your work, what disadvantages and advantages he can single out.
Also remember that in many teams beginners pressed, but after a while the pressure should stop if the novice did not cause a negative reaction.
What to do to cope with stress?
Psychological advice:
- Learn to relieve stress after work. This is a very important skill, which largely determines how a person will feel. It is useful to walk after work, take time for a hobby, take a bath or shower, do a warm-up, read books, watch movies, chat with nice people.
- Do not take on a huge amount of responsibilities at first. It is important to take on only what you definitely can handle and systematically perform your duties. Otherwise, overwork can not be avoided.
- Eliminate minor stress factors. Every working person encounters them from time to time. These include, for example, situations where quite a bit of time is left before work, and during this period you need to have time to cook something, find clothes and put it on, collect things.
To reduce the stress associated with these moments, it is worth preparing everything in advance: choose clothes and collect documentation from the evening, prepare food, lie down early.
It is also important to determine optimal day regimen and follow it: chronic lack of sleep will aggravate fatigue and stress.
How to get used to new activities?
Main recommendations:
- Learn to cope with stress. Minimize the impact of major stressors, small and large, get enough rest after work, spend time on what is expensive.
- Equip your workplace so that you feel comfortable and cozy. Get a few little things that will warm you and will lift your spirits. Perhaps it makes sense to bring something from home: it will help you feel calmer and more confident.
- Maintain friendly relations with colleagues. It is difficult to get used to work if relations with colleagues are strained or not at all. It is also useful to start gradually building up friendly, friendly relations with those colleagues who you like.
- Be patient. Habituation, adaptation, first of all, take time. Gradually, everything will become a habit, and the level of stress will decrease. It is important to take care of yourself, not to close your colleagues and bosses, and do your job well.
It is also necessary to find time for rest. Do not forget to take breaks in the process of performing work duties: you can easily overwork if you work without timeouts.
Tips to quickly grasp
Tips:
- often ask questions to colleagues, especially if you see that your relationship can be called sustainable;
- regularly study material related to your profession in order to be aware of what is happening;
- get new skills and valuables for work;
- communicate with colleagues more often, watch what they discuss;
- Listen carefully to the authorities, especially at meetings, if necessary, take a notebook with you and write down what you think is most important.
- analyze your work, highlight priority skills, knowledge and skills, work with them.
It is useful to keep a diary: some things may be forgotten, because at first you will receive a lot of information.
How to prove yourself?
Recommendations:
- Prove your competence by deeds, not words. With the help of bragging alone, it is impossible to create a positive impression of yourself. Qualitatively fulfill your duties, find unconventional approaches, think constructively.
- Take on as many responsibilities as you can perform. If you take on an unbearable burden, it will end sadly for your nervous system and reputation. Assess your strength sensibly and do not forget to say "no", if you know for sure that you do not want to do what they are trying to charge you.
- Do not let delays in the performance of duties. Do not do everything at the last moment: it will give others the impression that you are an irresponsible person. Perform tasks gradually over the allotted time. It is useful to keep plans.
- Give your colleagues all possible help, but don’t let them make you into someone who can be blamed for everything. If you help others, and your help will be sensible, it will improve their attitude towards you and create the impression that you are a knowledgeable and capable person who can give valuable advice. The most important thing is not to overdo it. Do only what you want to do, for other cases there is a great word "no."
Also it is important to come to work on time.
Punctuality is the quality of successful people, and those who are chronically late are irresponsible in the eyes of other employees, especially if the majority of colleagues try not to be late.
Create a daily routine that meets your needs and follow it.
What if nothing happens?
Tips:
- If your boss is open to working communication, ask his opinion. Ask to list the negative and positive aspects, ask questions, be polite to him, listen to the recommendations. If communication with management is difficult, you can try to consult with someone from colleagues who looks friendly.
- There is a possibility that your feelings are wrong. Perhaps, in fact, you work better than most people, just stress and overwork make you think about your own activities worse.
- Discuss your difficulties with a psychologist. A competent specialist will be able to give you tips that will help you better understand the situation and improve it.
- Perhaps you simply lack experience. If you are a recent student, the feeling that nothing is working out is normal. Over time, everything will turn out better and faster. It is useful in your free time to study materials related to the profession and to hone your skills.
- This feeling may be associated with mobbing. Are your colleagues and bosses under pressure? Belittling ability? Claim that you are useless?
Take a closer look at the situation: it’s possible that their words are not related to reality, and employees working at your level do not receive the same negative as you.
If over time nothing has changed, sense of helplessness it has not disappeared anywhere, and the work is alarming and disgust, it makes sense to think about dismissal.
Tips NLP trainer before the first day of work:
