Men are hunters and owners by nature. As long as a woman is a coveted “booty” for them, they are ready to do anything to get it. But after some time after the wedding, the man calms down, having decided that now he can devote less time to his wife. This leads to the fact that the woman is offended by developing a plan for the return of past feelings and emotions. Often it starts with the point “how to make a husband jealous and afraid to lose.”
The content of the article:
When jealousy works
Steps to take
Psychologist's comment
Is it worth trying?
Jealousy works only in cases where the partner has feelings for you. If he has lost all interest in communication, then all attempts to cause jealousy can only cause a grin and irritation.
On the other hand, having felt the spirit of rivalry again, some men begin to re-evaluate their wife, and feelings return. Therefore, it is worth a try, but with the full knowledge that all efforts may not bring the desired results, and further alienate you from each other.
What steps to take?
A woman who wants a man to pay more attention to her, in every way tries to attract him: she is always there, creates the most comfortable conditions for the man, expecting him to appreciate it.
The first thing you can do is spend more time on yourself and your interests. Well, if you sign up for courses that have long dreamed of. Now you will become happier because you are doing what you are interested in. And also - you will spend less time at home. Your husband must understand that around him your whole life does not turn.
This also applies to appearance. After the wedding comes a happy period of motherhood, when a woman does not always have enough opportunities to monitor her beauty. In this case, it is necessary first of all to address this issue. Firstly, the husband will be wondering where such changes come from, secondly, now he will begin to understand that you are attractive, which means that other men can appreciate it. Thirdly, you will become more self-confident - and this is always a plus.
Do not forget about the wardrobe. And it should include not only beautiful dresses, but also expensive linen and stockings. Do not forget about exciting fragrances.
One more point to which it is necessary to make adjustments is your behavior and responses. In fact, this is the first thing to start with. Smile more, do not whine, do not pay attention if the husband came late from work. In the case when the husband is constantly practicing late returns - show him that you, too, do not miss him. The casual shoes and a frank dress casually thrown onto the bed, left at the door by the door, will inform your spouse that the evening was a success.
Phone calls
The telephone is a skillful tool for calling jealousy in skilled hands. First, stop answering all calls with your spouse. Instead of picking up the phone when a friend rings, drop the call and disconnect the phone so that he can see it.
You should talk in the next room and quietly, so that he thinks that you have something to hide. Do not forget that this is only a way to cause jealousy, and if you really need to keep your actions secret, you need to act much more elegantly.
But with his calls you should not stand on ceremony - start skipping his calls, calling back a few hours later with the surprised question “Did something happen? I did not hear (I could not pick up the phone, I was very busy ...) ”.
Communication with men
If you go somewhere together, do not avoid communicating with other men. Let the husband see that the male pays attention to you. Keep up the conversation, smile, be sweet to everyone. You should feel like a star, then everyone else will feel it.
It is good if you have male colleagues at work with whom you can discuss work issues. Ask them to call you back in the evening to talk about new customers, suppliers, or discuss prospects for a new project. The husband must understand that there are men in your life, and if today they call you for work, then tomorrow the tone of communication may change.
Periodically tell me how a nice guy wanted to meet you, or a neighbor from the house opposite (no need to specify which one) gave you a compliment and helped bring the bags from the store to the car.
Make yourself small but pleasant surprises - a box of chocolate in beautiful packaging or flowers. If by themselves they may not cause a reaction, then in conjunction with all other methods work uniquely. You can say that they were presented to you by a familiar man, but even this is not necessary, you can just be silent, but then you should be prepared for the real scandal and the fact that the flowers will be in the trash. Another option is to say that this friend decided to cheer you up. The husband, of course, will not believe, but he will not be able to say anything.
These techniques must be handled with care. If your man is a person who has difficulty holding back emotions, is able to show aggression, perhaps these are not the methods you should use.
Julia, Moscow
