I flew from work, cleaned, washed, made my hair, put on an elegant dress with heels, cooked a three-course dinner and met at the door with the whole parade - such stereotypes occur in my head when askedwhat men want from us women.
In fact, everything turns out to be completely different. First of all, the man is looking for spiritual comfort, and then after the outside. Understanding, participation and support can inspire the stronger sex stronger than bright lipstick and lacy underwear (although you shouldn’t forget about it, either).
Men want first of all:
Respect.
The key expectation of a man from the beautiful half of humanity is precisely respect, that is, acceptance with due respect for his experience and knowledge, value systems, family attitudes and everyday habits. A wise woman does not seek to change her partner in life, but carefully preserves what is dear to him and for what, in fact, she loved him. Even if it means to endure an unwashed mug at the monitor or an ashtray on the balcony.
Well, such an obvious thing, as respect for your man in public and showdown only in private, is not worth mentioning.
The trust.
Men rarely confide and, when this happens, they expect solidarity from us. His secrets are now yours and you need to be able to keep them even from friends.
Check mail and messages in the phone means to humiliate yourself with the possibility of suspicion of the address of your chosen one, moreover, think it would be nice for you to open all your correspondence on the Internet, on the phone and on the computer to your man? Is there no reason to worry? A word written by a friend in all hearts? And an innocent flirt with a childhood friend and an invitation to a cup of tea? You are planning to recall youth, but how can it look from the outside? That's it.
A man wants support from a woman.
There are days or even entire periods when everything falls out of the hands. Problems with friends and parents or difficulties at work, health problems or a favorite car can happen at the same time and deal a serious blow to the stamina of your partner. Needless to say that “well, as always,” and “think about it, the business” will not add to his self-confidence and positive emotions.
Tired, angry and desperate men are waiting to be warmed, petted and expressed their faith in their strength verbally. After all, they are often ashamed before us that the “defender” sometimes needs protection himself.
Understanding.
A man has the right to live a full life, whether fishing with friends or a conference in the neighboring town for the whole weekend, evening gatherings in the bath, and maybe round-the-clock outings to the garage for an old car or an hour at the computer for an exciting toy. All people tend to periodically seek solitude, so we restore mental strength after a particularly debilitating event. “Husband and wife are one Satan,” which does not mean at all to go everywhere as a couple. Two self-sufficient individuals have the right to get involved in various things and there is no need to force each other to participate in someone's affairs against their will. Would you be interested in spending the whole day in the garage raising heavy glands, smearing in oil? So your partner prefers not to go to the Swan Lake, but to relax in the sauna.
OK.
"A kind word and a cat is nice," and even more so for a man. It is not customary to ask for praise, so they are especially waiting for her. Notice and note caress the slightest changes, such as washed dishes or taken out garbage, because we all are pleased when our efforts remain rewarded.
Household comfort.
And just now we came to the notorious three-course dinners and starched shirts. Agree, it is convenient to relax among the heaps of things piled up in a mess. Namely, relaxation requires the male body and mind after a hard working day. Naturally, no one requires us to sort lentils from buckwheat, like Cinderella, from us, but in the slightest degree to clean up the living space, to provide a partner with clean clothes and tasty food is still worth it.
Charm.
And here dresses, heels and lace underwear appear on the scene. It is necessary to monitor your appearance, at least for yourself. A woman who feels beautiful, in the eyes of others, is such, therefore indulge yourself to the joy of the man of your dreams, beautiful things. It’s not worth spending all the money on it, but making a rule once a month to buy a new thing will be good.
Recoil.
All the talk about the fact that men do not need affection and foreplay, is nothing but a myth. A common misconception has deprived the strong sex of the pleasure of simple touches and a sense of significance. Meanwhile, to be desired for your woman. every man wants. Stroking on the back while he washes the dishes, or a kiss on his neck, bent over the monitor, will give your companion the joy of tenderness and a sense of self-worth. Do not be afraid to take the initiative and make it clear to the man that you love him and want.
