Love is one of the important components of happiness. Having found a soul mate, a person feels differently: elated, necessary, protected, joyful. A new meaning of life appears. But where and how to find love? First you need to develop this feeling in yourself. The second step is the search for a worthy candidate.
Is there a second half?
It is completely wrong to assume that there is only one person in the world who is perfect for us. The story of the only "second half" - just a myth, invented by the ancient philosopher Plato.
In fact, there are many people with whom you can build a happy relationship. During the life of almost all of us, we repeatedly fall in love, create families, divorce, and again strive to search. Each time it seems that the second half - here it is near. But we all make mistakes that spoil the relationship. As a result, people move away and part. But then there is a new person, even better, more suitable and close.
Where does love begin?
We all want to love and be loved. We spend days, months and years waiting for someone to come and plunge us headlong into the world of love. But can we give something in return? Can this feeling? It often happens that no. Then no, even the most fateful meeting will be crowned with success. Two solitude will seek love, but if it was not in each initially, it will only warm up for a short while at the fire. Toss something in him nothing.
Love must begin with itself, come from within. As the commandment says, "Love your neighbor as yourself." If a person is filled with love, then the object where to send this feeling is sure to be found. Therefore, to find your person, first of all, you must learn to love. You must fully accept yourself, become kinder, more lenient towards mistakes and weaknesses.
Search for a candidate
We now turn to the most crucial moment. To find love, it is important not only to dream and desire, but to act - to get acquainted with men. For these purposes, all sorts of dating sites and specialized clubs are perfect.
Where to find love yet? You can meet your person anywhere - at a bus stop, in a shop, a park, in a gym class, etc. But in order to meet someone, you must be open and welcoming. Pay more attention to the surrounding men, smile, make sure that your appearance was attractive. If any man liked, do not hesitate to go to him and speak first. It will be enough to attract his attention with a standard question (for example, "what time is it?", "How to get to Gorky Park?").
Advice of the author. To find love, you need to close the past questions as much as possible - to let go of your outdated relationships, solve troubling problems (with work, health, etc.). Only by finding inner peace and happiness, you can open up to new people and events.
How to recognize your man?
You can feel sympathy for many, but how do you find a soul mate among many men? At first glance, this question seems intractable, because no one knows how the relationship will develop in the future, what will happen in a couple of years, 5, 10 years. But there are certain signs that will help determine how close a person is to you:
- Your feelings are mutual, and relationships develop easily.
- You speak the same language, misunderstandings happen very rarely.
- You have similar views on life, parenting, housekeeping.
- You have an equal level of wealth and education.
- Your age difference is not more than 5 years.
- You get along great with family and friends, and with yours
- You do not limit each other, accept such as it is.
- You are joking and rejoicing when you are together, always find something to do and talk about.
- You have a similar daily routine.
It will take time to understand how close you are to a person. It is necessary to see him in different situations - in difficulties, conflicts, work. It is also important to pay attention to how he treats his friends and parents, what is the way in his parental family. More likely in a few years you will find the same attitude.
Major mistakes
Very often we miss our train, we cannot meet or see our man because of the mistakes made. Indeed, it is fundamentally wrong to believe that not one of its inhabitants is suitable for us in a populous city. Therefore, to find love, it is important to reconsider their behavior and attitudes:
- Inconsistency of lifestyle and ideas about the elect. For example, you want to meet a quiet domestic man, but you yourself go to clubs and absolutely do not know how to run a household. What are your chances of meeting? That's right, they are practically zero. Therefore, in order to find love, one must either lead the way of life that, according to your ideas, is inherent in the ideal candidate, or reconsider the requirements for the chosen one. Simply put, you need to look for love from your surroundings, among people close in spirit.
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The influence of the media, girlfriends, family. It is very difficult to find your happiness if you are under the influence of others. From the TV screen you are told that the ideal man is a successful businessman, the family insists that the elect must be hard-working, and his friends represent him as the soul of the company, such a merry fellow. But what of this is important to you? After all, not the environment, but you build a relationship and family, live with this person. Therefore, in order to find love, you must be guided by your desires and ideas, to understand what really matters to you and what is secondary. - Compromise with conscience. Sometimes it is impossible to find love only because initially we are behaving incorrectly, not trying to overcome negative traits. For example, we shout and get annoyed for no reason or we are playing a double game, building relationships with several men at once. Could something worth growing on such a soil? No no and one more time no. Therefore, in order to find your love, you need to try to be sincere, honest, to develop the best features in yourself.
- Subconscious script. Another common reason why it is impossible to find love is a psychological trauma or an attitude from childhood. This may be the so-called scenario of the victim, where the woman subconsciously chooses a partner who offends and beats her. Another example is a woman from an incomplete family, where a single mother from childhood instilled distrust of men, excessive autonomy and self-reliance only. In order to find your love, it is important to realize and work out your psychological scenario, learn to choose the "right" men.
The influence of the media, girlfriends, family. It is very difficult to find your happiness if you are under the influence of others. From the TV screen you are told that the ideal man is a successful businessman, the family insists that the elect must be hard-working, and his friends represent him as the soul of the company, such a merry fellow. But what of this is important to you? After all, not the environment, but you build a relationship and family, live with this person. Therefore, in order to find love, you must be guided by your desires and ideas, to understand what really matters to you and what is secondary.In conclusion, it is worth noting that there is no general search algorithm for love. Sometimes we just buy onions, look up, and here it is, the closest and closest to us. Or another situation - every day we rush on business and briefly greet the neighbor on the landing, and then bang, and something flashes, and he suddenly becomes the love of all life. Love always comes unexpectedly and unexpectedly. All we can do is carefully prepare for this meeting. Keep love in your heart, be open to dating, and you will definitely find a soul mate!
