Distance is one of common reasons parting in love relationships. The reasons for this situation can be many factors.
In some cases, couples can not only maintain relationships, but also restore them after the departure of the second half.
How to return a loved one who is at a distance? Particular attention should be paid psychological aspects and proper behavior.
With the implementation of some of the recommendations of psychologists a positive result becomes almost guaranteed.
How often and why do people part because of the distance?
Parted because of the distance?
Distance becomes one of the most frequent reasons for parting loving couples. Numerous factors can provoke a break in relations.
Some of them are specific actions or psychological aspects, but sometimes unknown motives become the cause of a sudden cooling of feelings.
A person literally waking up in the morning, suddenly realizes that he has no desire to communicate with your other half.
The most frequent factors provoking separation due to distance are:
- Communication difficulties (a couple gets used to personal contact, and when communicating at a distance, it is possible to use only telephones, correspondence on social networks and other applications, sometimes it becomes difficult to express feelings and emotions in the text, telephone conversations also cannot replace personal communication).
- Unknown Future (the question of the future sooner or later arises, both in a man and a woman, lovers begin to think about the prospects of their relationship, the fact of reunification causes doubts, against the background of such reflections there is some distrust towards the partner, which provokes errors in behavior and communication with him ).
- Treason or suspicion of them (thoughts of betraying a partner who is at a distance become one of the most common causes of quarrels and distrust, a changeer is guided by the idea that his other half does not know about this fact, and those who suspect of betrayal become obsessed with suspicions) .
Loss of trust (loss of trust can be provoked not only by real, but also by imaginary factors, previous partners' experience can play a special role, for example, if one of them has already had to go through a fraud after leaving the second half, in addition, the distance is an occasion for the emergence of fantasies about adultery , deception and fear of the unknown).- Price of communication (in this case, real material costs of communication are meant, if correspondence or telephone conversations imply financial expenses, then a question may arise about the need for more rare communication, the reduction of conversations and messages entails the appearance of negative psychological consequences).
- Progression of loneliness (despite the presence of relationships, the distance excludes the personal presence of a loved one nearby, the degree of feeling lonely depends largely on the psychological characteristics of partners, in some cases, lovers begin to suffer from a lack of communication even before the second half leaves).
- Lack of intimate life (This nuance can provoke not only psychological problems, but also cause adultery, the growing feeling of loneliness and the lack of intimate relationships practically guarantee separation from the distance, the only exceptions are couples who are serious about the test).
- The original "programming" to fail (a psychological mood for parting after departure may arise, as in both partners, and in one of them, a feeling of impending relationship will play a key role in real cooling of feelings).
Habit (the elementary addiction to constantly being with each other also becomes a frequent cause of parting due to the distance, the absence of a loved one next to it provokes negative feelings and sufferings).- Divergence of expectations (if a couple has distance expectations, then the harmony of their relationship will not be disturbed, if there are discrepancies - the separation becomes almost guaranteed, in the first case we mean the thinking model “this is just a long vacation”, in the second one person considers the distance to be a colossal tragedy, and the second does not attach much importance to it).
Loss of trust (loss of trust can be provoked not only by real, but also by imaginary factors, previous partners' experience can play a special role, for example, if one of them has already had to go through a fraud after leaving the second half, in addition, the distance is an occasion for the emergence of fantasies about adultery , deception and fear of the unknown).
Habit (the elementary addiction to constantly being with each other also becomes a frequent cause of parting due to the distance, the absence of a loved one next to it provokes negative feelings and sufferings).What kills love in the distance? Personal experience:
Is it possible to save feelings?
Relationship at a distance doomed to success in rare cases. For this, a certain attitude towards the current situation on the part of the two partners is necessary.
If one person sets himself up for parting, and the second one tries persistently to save love, then the preservation of love relationships will be extremely difficult.
It is important to talk in advance with the second half and find out psychological attitude to departure.
Relationship at a distance easier to keep in the presence of the following factors:
- the couple is planning certain events after the reunion;
- both partners relate to distance as a necessity and a specific life test;
- mutual love and confidence in each other eliminates the risk of betrayal and betrayal at a distance.
5 tips on how to keep relationships at a distance:
Psychology tips
If the distance was the cause of separation, then the likelihood of the resumption of relations, even being far from each other, is not excluded.
The key role is played by the correct behavior of a partner who does not want to lose his other half.
The psychology of men and women has some differences.. This nuance must be taken into account. Experts in the matter of returning the second half at a distance recommend using several techniques.
Psychologists recommendations:
- How to get a guy back in the distance (men are conquerors by nature, a woman should not use the method of becoming a sacrifice, on the contrary, by her behavior she should show her partner the maximum amount of her merits, the man should be willing to communicate only with her, do not show jealousy, bother with calls and messages, we must tactfully be interested in the life of a guy, pay attention to trifles, relationships should be like “start from scratch”).
How to return a girl from a distance (women need a sense of reliability and protection from a man, a boy needs to show maximum attention to the girl’s life, but this must be done tactfully and unobtrusively, the woman should feel caring and not control or interference in her life, besides, most girls are romantic and not resist the warm words of support and beautiful declarations of love).
How to return a girl from a distance (women need a sense of reliability and protection from a man, a boy needs to show maximum attention to the girl’s life, but this must be done tactfully and unobtrusively, the woman should feel caring and not control or interference in her life, besides, most girls are romantic and not resist the warm words of support and beautiful declarations of love).How to return a girl from a distance and change everything in your relationship:
Practical recommendations how to make up
The hardest thing to try to build relationships with the second half, if a loved one is far away. If there is a need for reconciliation, then special attention should be paid to the recommendations of psychologists.
The peculiar practical advice of experts will not only help to make peace with the chosen one or the chosen one, but also Bring love relationships to a whole new level..
Some councils should become a life rule even if lovers are always next to each other and there are no obstacles in their lives in the form of distance.
Practical recommendations:
Communication should be frequent, but not intrusive. (wishes of each other good morning and good night, regular expression of interest in the life of a loved one).- Talk about trivia (it is not necessary to focus on the problem that has arisen, the discussion of small things will help restore communication)
- You should not talk about the problems that provokes distance (negative coloring of conversations will have a destructive effect on love relationships).
- Not worth it feel embarrassed or afraid to express your feelings (it is important to show maximum joy in a call or message from a loved one, and you should not miss the opportunity to say something nice to your second half).
- Performing joint actions will help bring together lovers (elementary reading of one book or watching a movie, as well as their further discussion will not only become a topic for communication, but also bring the couple closer, creating the feeling of shortening the distance).
- Eliminate partner control at a distance (in conversations and correspondence there should be no mutual reproaches, suspicions or hints of lies on the part of the partner, the experiences provoked by such actions can have a very negative effect on the emotional state of the couple).
- Meetings on neutral territory or visit (regular meetings will not allow to cool the relationship).
Exception of lies (a person who loves is able to recognize a lie even at a distance, deceptions will provoke mistrust).- Maintain a positive attitude (this rule should be followed regardless of the mode of communication with the second half, the positive tone should be in the voice, in the messages, the pessimistic mood can be easily communicated on an emotional level and can create even greater difficulties in the relationship).
- You can not show suffering and jealousy (pessimistic attitude or persistent suspicions of treason will destroy relationships in a short period of time and eliminate possible reconciliation).
- Mandatory discussion of future plans (Uncertainty of the total distance in most cases provokes a cooling of the relationship, if you try to think together about the future or make joint plans, the waiting process will be much easier).
- It is necessary to remember and mention in the correspondence as many positive points as possible. from living together (such memories can play a key role in reconciliation).
- Creating harmony in relationships (it is difficult to fulfill such a recommendation, but if it is followed, it is possible not to worry about possible separation from your loved one because of the distance, the key point is to create an atmosphere of communication, as if the lovers are still next to each other).
Communication should be frequent, but not intrusive. (wishes of each other good morning and good night, regular expression of interest in the life of a loved one).
Exception of lies (a person who loves is able to recognize a lie even at a distance, deceptions will provoke mistrust).
The distance can cause not only separation, but also the reunion of the couple.
Do not treat this factor too tragic.
In some cases, the distance allows you to remember a lot of positive moments in a relationship, to assess the degree of importance of a person in life and realize their mistakes.
It is necessary to treat departure as a trial. If it turns out to pass, then reward for waiting fully compensates for the experience.
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