How to love the world around, if I do not like anyone?

Loneliness is not necessarily a sign of sociopathy.

Sometimes it's just figure of maturity of the person and respect for their inner worldwhere to let in, just anyone - always more expensive.

therefore do not rush to reproach yourself and form complexes: first, figure out why people are wary and confident that you should not communicate with many of them on a short leg.

Reasons for lack of sympathy

To people in general

Why do I not like any of the people?

It is possible that you are pure introvert and do not really want to expand the boundaries of the circle of communication or you have a mature consciousness, which allows, after a little contact with someone, to quickly understand what a person is.

And to establish friendly relations with a man who, even at his first acquaintance repels its features, this is, you see, pathology. For the development of sympathy there must be certain conditions and some period of easy idealization of another.

Only after that can one turn a blind eye to the shortcomings of someone and continue to maintain relations with him, without experiencing any particular discomfort from the fad and personal "cockroaches" person

It may be that in your environment, unfortunately, there are no people with similar views on life and interests. Therefore, it is difficult for you to choose a company for yourself or even just make a pair of bosom buddies.

Or you do not have the desire to let someone close to you at an “intimate” distance, because more than once "burned with milk", and now even "on some water duet."

To the opposite sex

Why I don't like anyone from the opposite sex:

You are faithful to the first love that is not already free, has ceased to be interested in you, or even has already passed into another world, and you are a monotony by nature.
Passionate about hobbies or workor, worse, exhausting yourself so hard that attention and strength, respectively, are not enough for outsiders.
You do not want a relationship, because you recently observed the suffering of a loved one who conflicts with her half or themselves have experienced a painful break with a partner and now you are afraid to plunge into similar relationships again.
There is actually no one to choose because of living in a small place where there are few people with whom it would be interesting to communicate on exciting topics.
You so much comfortably settled down in this lifethat you do not want a close relationship with someone and just enjoy every single day you enjoy.
Because attracted to members of his gender.
Because hate such people due to childhood injuriesbrought by loved ones.

All of the above, basically, describes a situation where a person does not particularly suffer from the absence of bosom buddies.

Yes, there are some loners who no one is needed for close communicationBecause some people are still there, at work or in an educational institution, and they make it possible to fully satisfy the existing need to sometimes come into contact with society.

Bye for now man himself does not suffer, but only relativeswho consider that friends, husband-wife - an obligatory component of a normal person, the problem of lack of sympathy is contrived.

And any attempts by others to rectify the situation are, at least, tactless.

The last item on the list concerns unresolved issues with a father or mother.

They, even if we deny their role in our own upbringing, leave a mark on him even in the absence of as a real subject.

Parental influencescausing difficulties with the opposite sex:

Setting that all the opposite sex vile, unworthy individuals, bringing some problems.
The reason: the second parent did not take part in the upbringing, because he left the family, was addicted to alcohol, drugs.
People of the opposite sex are the source of pain. Reason: domineering and despotic parent or both of them.
Giving up personal happiness because of insecurity. Reason: humiliation in the family.
Duty to parents. Reason: the need to care for a sick relative, jealously protecting the child from the thoughts of personal happiness.

If life is eventful, then sympathy is conditionally intimate. may simply not have time.

So, for you, the world is still full of unknown secrets and you don’t want to waste your time on someone else.

Communicating with “accessible” people - we understand how it is in the environment - realize that everything that everyone of the opposite sex you want is something to equip your own life at the expense of you.

In such circumstances, it is difficult to make a choice. And is it really necessary for you, and not for your relatives, who apparently set themselves the goal of helping to expand the circle of contacts?

Why I don't like guys and men:

career employment;
I do not want to enter into a relationship because of the reluctance to restrict freedom;
low self-esteem (someone like me fat, small, thin, stupid, etc.);
overestimated self-esteem (where are they up to me or why do I need a load of problems);
despotic father;
unfortunate romance in the past;
Electra complex;
confidence in the fact that men are seducers, lazy, and so on - depending on which installation comes from childhood or what was the experience of communication in the past.

Why I do not like any of the girls:

Career aspirations.
The current status of a bachelor looks comfortable and does not cause concern.
The reluctance to turn into a “cash cow”, since all previous connections were oversaturated with the requests of the material plan, while the ladies themselves were concerned with “cutting the facade”.
Problems with self-esteem, because of which worthy seem to be inaccessible heavenly beings, and living here - in the stairwell, house, street, city - not worth attention.
Mother in childhood enough.
Inability to communicate (therefore, all byaki, like a fox, for which "green and sour grapes, and not I am not able to reach him).
In the past, there is an experience of relations with an unpleasant ending, and I would like to avoid this later.
There is a setup to search for the ideal and while not yet one girl has not “withstood the criticism.”
Trite once. There is no time or opportunity to get acquainted with those who are interested, and those who stick themselves are of no interest to you.
Men look more attractive than women.
Mom is against, and her opinion - the law.
Suffer from the Oedipus complex.

The last two factors are necessary. eliminate with the help of a psychologist, because there is a risk of unknowingly depriving yourself of a full life.

After all, there is an unconscious ban on privacy, but at the same time, usually, a person is deeply unhappy because of his loneliness and would very much like to start a relationship with someone.

What may not really like people?

Traits that do not suit themselves, but are carefully protected by their own psyche from awareness and are immersed by it in the deepest layers of the subconscious.

it very interesting feature of the human psyche and to deal with this behavior can be either after an independent study of the course of psychology or a good specialist.

And the more his client is hidden by nature, the longer it takes to stop the problem.

What can cause hostility to people:

a clear, and even worse, hidden alien interest in protected events from his personal life;
inability to keep trusted in secret;
tactlessness;
divergence in religious, political views;
unacceptable behavior towards someone;
emotional coldness or indifference at the moment when you needed support, but people around you ignored it or didn’t even realize the problem;
mercantile spirit;
not far away.

Psychology tips

What if no one likes?

Start worrying and solve a problem if the situation causes discomfort and a sense of inferiority.

First you need to clearly realize where the legs of this very discomfort grow from. If the source is close, then try to convince them that at the moment you are completely satisfied with loneliness.

If it became you, then start correcting the situation:

Do not consider yourself an outcast: we are all different and must communicate in a format that is convenient for everyone. Naturally, the civilized level and humanity of contacts, their consequences by default.
Complete the correction course a good psychologist, if in childhood had big problems with his parents. In the absence of the possibility of meeting with a competent specialist, engage in self-education and try to redraw your view of the opposite sex in a normal format.
Looking for a partner among people with similar interests.
During holidays or vacations be sure to travel (trips to the cottage does not count).
It is possible that there you will meet people closer in spirit and interests.
Let yourself be happyif in the past you have an anchor in the form of unrequited love or betrayal.
Realize that new relationship is not always a pain. Difficulties, perhaps, but not torture and hell.
Understand that acceptance, that is awareness of a different world view - this is not a betrayal of oneself, but an expansion of the horizon.

Do not transgress through your installations for the sake of someone’s spiritual comfort. If relatives want contact with children and they require grandchildren, ask your mom and grandmother to get a job in a kindergarten. But marry headlong for the sake of the children. Yes, some luck and in the future after such an act they are all satisfied. But where is the guarantee that you will be among the lucky ones?