Above a sense of confidence is constantly "shaman" in all sorts of trainings, groups of personal growth, and even in the family circle. A confident man succeeds in professional growth, in seducing the weaker sex, and even in conflicts with stronger competitors.
A confident woman easily makes dreams come true, creates a family and is respected among envious friends. It happens that confidence grows into self-confidence, when the eyes become clouded, pride pushes ordinary people away and habitual activity does not give the previous results. When does this dysfunctional transition occur? First, it is necessary to "break" the person in half and "consider" the stuffing.
Confident person
Adequate confidence is formed on the basis of experience and knowledge. A man who has repeatedly repaired his car, knows which part has failed and how to replace it. A woman who brought up more than one child develops her own parenting strategy and knows how to cultivate a silly kid. The path to confident actions lies through mistakes, bumps, successes and failures. It is impossible to be confident in everything. Each new situation provokes a lot of doubts and uncertainties.
A person unconsciously feels himself as a novice who does not know how to act, but wants to gain new experience. After mastering the theory (knowledge) and studying it in practice (experience), a feeling of confidence arises, which is supported by competence. The wider the area of knowledge and experience, the more confident the individual looks in general. Such a person is respected in his circle and masters new branches of knowledge.
Self confident person
Self-confident actions often resemble the steps of a confident person. There are no doubts at all, the result is achieved and "the people applaud" for brave deeds. What is the difference then? The answer is pretty banal. A man who can fix a certain brand of car, believes that he can repair any car. A woman who raised her child thinks that she can raise any child as well as her own. The scale of the experience gained is so great that a person does not notice the uniqueness and uniqueness of the world.
Self confident man unconsciously trying to jump all the steps of the stairs and instantly reach the top. These actions can cause admiration, but the situation changes dramatically when confronted with real obstacles. Then there is a depreciation of the whole experience and a cardinal change of activity or glasses are put on (pink or black) and the person continues to break his head against the wall. The cause of self-confidence is the fear of new experiences. In any new situation, a person is forced to take the position of a student, which beats the self-assessment of a self-confident person. As a result, life flows in the illusions of omnipotence.
When is the transformation of confidence in self-confidence?
Self-confidence arises on the basis of negative experience, when mistakes made were over-criticized in childhood. One child will experience shame and become insecure, the other will close their eyes to the words of adults and become self-confident. Confidence is cultivated with reasoned criticism with practical advice. Any inexperienced student hopes that the teacher believes in him.
