What can advise women who have decided to enter into relations with a divorced man? Let's see what feelings men most often experience after a divorce.
Self-pity, waiting for care
In the representatives of the stronger sex, who just survived a divorce, suddenly weaknesses awaken: self-pity, loneliness, confusion. A man wants to be supported and comforted. Often complains about his ex-wife - regardless of who was responsible for the break. 
Complaints of a purely domestic nature can join this: he has no place to live, since the apartment remained the second half, there is not enough money due to the payment of alimony, the wife does not allow to see the children and much more.
But who knows, maybe the problems with work, housing and finances just became the cause of the divorce, and not its consequence? Just the husband did not show the desire to solve them, and his wife's patience snapped. It is not necessary, but quite real.
Advice to the woman: do not rush to show excessive pity and care, otherwise you risk switching to the category of "mummies" instead of the woman you love. Do not charge yourself with his problems, you just have to sympathize with restraint. In the end, you do not know exactly who is to blame for the collapse of his family. Maybe he? Try to figure it out.
The desire to take revenge on his ex-wife, to hurt her
It often happens that a man, from whom his wife has left, is angry with the “former”, the desire to take revenge, to show how he lives well without her. This is a dangerous condition, both for the man himself and for his chosen one. Indeed, in the desire to take revenge, he enters into a relationship with a woman, without feeling any feelings for her, just wanting to demonstrate to his former half that he is in demand and does not need her anymore.
In this case, the woman who has associated herself with this “avenger” will have a hard time. A divorced man can take out on her anger at the woman who has thrown him and at all women in general. Such a relationship is heavy on both sides.
Advice to a woman: if your fan often recalls her “ex”, gets angry and says what a bitch she is, selfish and so on, then you can be suspicious of the “avenger”. Take a closer look at how he treats you personally, shows you warm feelings, is interested in your problems. If he is only concerned with hurting his previous woman, it is better to leave him until they themselves have suffered psychological trauma.
In conclusion, it is worth noting that many family psychologists advise to enter into relations with a divorced man about a year or two after the divorce. During this time, he will come to his senses, become more stable in emotions, anger and self-pity will cool off and he will be ready for a new serious relationship.
