Can a man love and ignore at the same time and why?

The relationship between a man and a woman is a curious and, in some way, even mysterious process.

Especially funny is the behavior of a strong half of humanity, which, persistently showing interest and sympathy, suddenly cool dramatically to his darling.

What does this behavior mean? can a man love and ignore at the same time - The question that women were asked more than once.

Psychology and causes

Can a man ignore the beloved intentionally? To a large extent, this behavior is peculiar to men and is due to several reasons:

His heart is not free. Often women take for courtship the simple manifestations of gallantry and good manners. And even if the man gave his hand when leaving the vehicle and missed ahead at the entrance to the office - this does not prevent him from being an exemplary family man who loves his wife immensely. And realizing that the woman after that begins to build illusions and flirt, hoping for reciprocity, the man radically changes the behavior in order not to deceive her expectations.
He is not ready for a serious relationship. Until then, between you there was only a light intrigue with a romantic touch, everything suited him. But as soon as he began to notice the unequivocal hints about the development of a more serious relationship, he instantly changed and began to avoid you.
Such behavior arises because he is afraid not to resist the onslaught of the woman, or simply does not want to injure her with a sharp refusal and inspire empty hopes.
He is afraid of being rejected. The unfortunate experience of past relationships, innate shyness and timidity is what makes a man in love to avoid any contact with his chosen one in every way.
His feelings are cold. Even if only recently everyone considered you beautiful at times, and prophesied a long family life, at one point a man can understand that he isn’t the woman with whom he would like to link his fate. “Ignore” in this situation is only a way to complete the deadlocked relationship.
He lost interest. This happens with those ladies who "And a galloping horse ... and a burning hut ...". Excessive initiative and assertiveness of the woman leads to the fact that the man ceases to feel himself a “hunter”, becomes inert and instantly loses the fuse, encouraging him to new victories and achievements.
He has his own strategy of behavior. It is quite possible that a man is pursuing a certain goal: to intrigue a woman, to fall in love with himself, and even in some way, to bind.
He is traumatized by past relationships. A painful separation or unsuccessful relationship in the recent past can lead to the fact that a man simply fears a new feeling and tries his best to “stall” his development.

Signs and behavior

How to understand that the person who ignores you is really in love with you? The behavior of a person who tries to ignore the object of his feelings becomes tense and constantly under control.

To detect signs of sympathy in this case can only observing the verbal manifestationssince it is almost impossible to control them:

behavior in a common company. As a rule, even ignoring the "show", a man in love in any situation tends to make an impression on the one to whom he is not indifferent. That is why, flashing erudition, or successfully joking, a man, first of all, looks at his beloved just to see her reaction;
arms. Being near (or in the same room) with a loved one, the man subconsciously cannot find a place for his hands. Most often, he hides them in his pockets, leaving only his thumbs to look out;
movements. The man involuntarily begins to repeat what his beloved does: he touches his hair, picks up a handle from the table, or pulls the hem of his jacket;
sight. No matter how hard a man tries to hide sympathy under the mask of “ignore”, from time to time a piercing gaze with dilated pupils and slightly raised eyebrows, looking at his beloved, will give it away.

No less indicative is the behavior of a man when there is no nearby object of sympathy.

Help discover behavioral signs of love maybe a close friend watching a man at that time.

So, if in your absence a man desperately misses, not showing any interest in what is happening around, and when you mention about you or when you appear in the room instantly revives - the "diagnosis" is accurate - this is love.

Why does a man ignore? Find out from this video:

What to do?

What to do if a boyfriend / girlfriend in love ignores you?

First of all - take a deep breath and calm down.

Before you take any action, it is important to understand the reason why a guy or girl suddenly alienated and began to ignore you:

If human behavior was simply misunderstood, and in fact there is no sympathy (especially if it is not free), the only right way out is to accept and continue to enjoy life, meeting new people. The same should be done if his senses are cold.
If a person afraid of serious relationshipit is not worth every minute to draw him pictures of living together for thirty years ahead.
If he is really dear to you, and you want to continue relations with him - do not push, but rather - step back and wait for a while, after which you continue to communicate unobtrusively, but without many meaningful hints.
If the main reason for ignoring is fear of rejection, you can carefully take the first step towards, unobtrusively making it clear that his feelings are mutual and there is absolutely nothing to fear.
If a man loses interest in you, don't take an example from him and just defiantly ignore, or “grab by the throat” and sort things out. It will be more useful to renew a neutral-friendly line in communication, occasionally “seasoning” it with notes of easy flirting.
Often the true feminine cause of ignoring there is a banal insult. Moreover, she would never say what kind of duty. The man’s task is to analyze her behavior in detail and understand exactly what the lady responded to. Then - come with a confession and apologize.
If "ignore" - just a strategy of conquestit is worthwhile to think carefully whether you need such a "strategist". In any case, to succumb to provocations, constantly looking for meetings and "tearing off" the phone - absolutely not worth it.
Best of all - to maintain neutrality and composure. Often, this is the position that makes the “strategists” give up and show up first.
When the blame is the past, but unforgettable trauma from the "former" relationship, it is necessary to show extreme delicacy and talk to a person with integrity, fully revealing their feelings.

How to learn to ignore?

The man you love

First of all, you should honestly answer the question "Why?".

If the goal of ignoring is warm up self-interest and attract attention, then the basic techniques will be:

Waiting. Before answering the SMS, phone call or agree to a meeting, you must wait a while (half an hour, an hour, or even a few hours). Also, never call or ask for a meeting first.
Easy flirt on the side. Healthy competition is a great way to “stir up” a man if he does not dare to take the first step. A cheerful laugh, a sweet smile, a crafty glance thrown at another, or a correspondence with a friend, will make your chosen one feel that “prey” is slipping away and direct all his strength to conquering it.
But here it is important not to overdo it: your behavior should not be fake and too “cheeky” - everything is good in moderation.
Simulation of permanent employment. Let a man think that your every day is literally scheduled by the minute, and the time taken to meet him is a great success for him. Do not be afraid to transfer dates by “arranging” them under your tight schedule.
Doubts. As if by chance, you can covertly hint to a man that you increasingly began to think about what relationships are for, and whether you need them at all. Speaking about the future, it is worth keeping silent about the creation of a family, while philosophizing "about the uncertainty of what will happen to you tomorrow."

If the goal of ignoring is to break the relationship, your behavior should not be playful and enticing, but categorical: complete cessation of communication (personal, telephone, in social networks).

Remove all of his contacts, avoid even accidental meetings, move as far as possible from common friends, at least for a while by changing your usual social circle.

The girl in love

Seeking to attract the attention of a girl by ignoring her, need to be very careful and not "play too much".

Otherwise, this behavior of the beloved may simply get bored, and she would prefer a more consistent man.

Exist basic principles of "correct ignore":

to begin to portray indifference only after you have already demonstrated their sympathy and were convinced of mutual feelings;
do not refuse to communicate completely: let your rare calls be full of tenderness and even regret that the meeting was so long ago, but do not rush to appoint a new one;
Do not "go into the shadows" for a long time - this may lead to the fact that the woman grows cold to you. Best of all - suddenly call back and make an appointment "in an hour", explaining that your plans have suddenly changed.

Whatever the case, use ignore as permanent manipulation tool man is not quite decent.

In all it is important to observe the rule of the "golden mean".

And if suddenly your chosen one became indifferent - Do not rush to panic and sort things out. Try to analyze his behavior, and if it is worth it - take a step forward.