At the beginning of a relationship with a new partner, people are often afraid to say too much or do something wrong.
For this reason, many are interested in how to understand that the girl (boy) wants a kiss. Such an understanding will help avoid an awkward situation.
The value of the first kiss
A kiss is a physical contact with other people with your lips.
You can kiss not only on the lips, but most intimate has exactly the same kiss.
Throughout his life, the average adult kisses a thousand times. Someone does this with one partner, when first love develops into an adult feeling and leads to the conclusion of a lifetime marriage.
But, as a rule, people kiss for life with several partners. Sometimes their number can be very large.
In any case, two types of kiss are of particular importance - the most important and memorable first kiss and the first kiss in a new relationship, which also causes a lot of emotions.
First kiss with a new partner is always has a special meaning. When one of the partners takes the initiative, and the second picks it up, we can safely talk about steady emotional contact and the presence of sympathy between people.
The first kiss should not be taken too seriously, because the stress experienced will lead to embarrassment and lack of pleasure. It is important to simply tune in to the positive wave and relax.
Such a first contact often becomes a turning point for relationships. If, as a result of a kiss, a person experiences discomfort, aversion, or dislike, then the relationship will most likely not continue.
If the affection caused only positive emotions, then the further development of the novel is possible.
It is advisable to choose for the first kiss right time and place. The first date is not the best time for such actions. At the first meeting it is enough to confine a friendly kiss on the cheek or shake hands.
A place to kiss, too, should be chosen correctly. It is best to give preference to secluded places with a cozy atmosphere in which no strangers will appear.
Before you begin to kiss, you should make sure that the other side also wants it. You can understand this by behavior, facial expressions, gestures or words.
Why do you want to kiss?
There are three main reasons why lovers tend to touch each other’s lips:
Natural reflexes. People with all their development are part of the animal world. Many of our actions are based on reflexes. A kiss is a somewhat reflex. When a person sees an attractive individual of the opposite sex, he has a desire to get in touch with her. Initially, people pay attention to the appearance of their chosen one, then they involuntarily react to the natural smell of a person, and after the appearance of sympathy, as a result of long-term intercourse, there is a desire to kiss a partner. In this way, people check physical compatibility at the initial stage.Disgust during a kiss is a signal that the partner does not suit us physically and there is no attraction to it.
The positive perception of a kiss signals the possibility of further physical proximity, which may result in the continuation of the race.
- Emotions. In the process of communicating with a person you like, people begin to feel positive feelings towards him, and later - physical attraction. There is a desire for closer contact not only from physiological motives, but also on an emotional level. A kiss allows you to show your partner that he is interesting to us, dear and close.
Hormones. During a kiss, endorphin is released into the bloodstream - the so-called hormone of happiness, which has a pronounced relaxing and calming effect. For this reason, people who kiss with pleasure experience a sense of bliss, relaxation and comfort. It has been proven that lovers of kissing often feel much happier compared to those who do not pay due attention to this occupation. The second hormone that is produced during the contact of the lips of the partners is oxytocin.Its dose in such a case is significantly inferior to the dose received by the body during intimate relationships, but, nevertheless, the flow of oxytocin into the blood during a kiss holds the relationship of the couple due to the formation of a biological connection.
Natural reflexes. People with all their development are part of the animal world. Many of our actions are based on reflexes. A kiss is a somewhat reflex. When a person sees an attractive individual of the opposite sex, he has a desire to get in touch with her. Initially, people pay attention to the appearance of their chosen one, then they involuntarily react to the natural smell of a person, and after the appearance of sympathy, as a result of long-term intercourse, there is a desire to kiss a partner. In this way, people check physical compatibility at the initial stage.
Hormones. During a kiss, endorphin is released into the bloodstream - the so-called hormone of happiness, which has a pronounced relaxing and calming effect. For this reason, people who kiss with pleasure experience a sense of bliss, relaxation and comfort. It has been proven that lovers of kissing often feel much happier compared to those who do not pay due attention to this occupation. The second hormone that is produced during the contact of the lips of the partners is oxytocin.Determination of readiness
Understand that the partner is already ready for the expression of emotions with the help of a kiss can be on the following grounds:
Close contact has been established between partners. If in the process of communication a guy or girl feels as comfortable as possible, openly and freely, then we can talk about steady trust in a couple. At this level of relationship, the likelihood that both people want to kiss is high enough.- Clearly present mutual attraction. People often when describing a person who is handsome to them say that they are “drawn” to him. It is this concept that best describes the feeling of strong sympathy and affection for a person on the emotional and physical levels at the same time.
Partners always feel the presence of a similar attraction between them. It is impossible not to notice.
- A girl or a boy non-verbally signal their readiness. If a guy or girl has certain manifestations of gestures, facial expressions, and postures that signal readiness for contact, you can safely proceed to action.
- Partner speaks openly about the desire to kiss, or begins to act. In these situations, one no longer has to worry and analyze the signals, since the second party takes the initiative and leaves no room for doubt.
Close contact has been established between partners. If in the process of communication a guy or girl feels as comfortable as possible, openly and freely, then we can talk about steady trust in a couple. At this level of relationship, the likelihood that both people want to kiss is high enough.Non-verbal signs of a guy
How do you know if a guy wants to kiss you?
Usually, it is enough to observe the behavior of the guy, his facial expressions and gestures so closely that to recognize his desire to kiss.
In anticipation of a kiss the guy behaves like this:
- a close look at the girl or, on the contrary, the constant diversion towards an embarrassed look (it all depends on self-confidence);
- constant pulling down of sleeves, ottyagivaya collar, tie correction, changing the position of the arms and legs, other nerve movements;
- involuntary desire to repeat the movements of the girl and duplicate her posture symbolizes strong sympathy, the desire to establish emotional closeness;
- touching the hands, neck, desire to fix hair and other obvious signs of intent to establish tactile contact;
- active manifestation of its location in the form of praise to the girl, compliments, advice and numerous questions about her;
- a sudden change in voice that occurs as a result of nervous tension and intermittent breathing.
How to understand that a man wants to kiss you? Signs:
Girl's behavior
If a girl expects a kiss, her behavior is easy to notice. Facial expressions, gestures and manners of girls in a similar situation are slightly different. The girl just expects a kiss, if she:
modestly looks away or pointedly focuses him on the elect;- inflates nostrils (this indicates tension and nervous excitement);
- bites lips, licks them or involuntarily opens;
- takes seductive poses - moves closer to the chosen one, demonstratively throws his legs, etc .;
- touches a young man - strokes his leg or arm, touches his neck or head, presses against.
modestly looks away or pointedly focuses him on the elect;6 signs that a girl wants to kiss:
Psychologist tips
What if the guy wants to kiss? If a girl sees that the guy wants to kiss her, she should determine their own desires.
If she realizes that she did not like the young man and physical contact with him is undesirable, she should carefully get out of the situation without hitting the feelings of her boyfriend.
You can “accidentally” stumble and stray, sharply recall unexpected business report unavailability for similar physical contact etc. The main thing is to behave delicately and politely.
If the girl wants to reciprocate the feelings of the young man, then she needs to show it to him with body language and gestures (move closer, touch, look into the eyes, etc.).
If the guy notices that the girl is waiting for a kiss or intends to take the initiative in their hands, he, too, you need to decide on your feelings.
In the absence of the desire to kiss, do not do it. We need to find a way around the situation and politely make it clear that the further continuation of the relationship is impossible.
If she obviously wants to kiss a guy or shows him full readiness to respond to his kiss (more often, girls prefer not to take the initiative in their hands), and he, in turn, feels similar desires, it is enough just to get close and start a kiss.
Thus, a kiss is a logical manifestation mutual sympathy and physical attractionarising between two people. According to external signs in the behavior of the partner, it is enough just to conclude that he has a desire to kiss.
