How not to go crazy: useful tips from psychologists

Stress resistance in the modern world is something from the category of super-abilities. Each of us faces a number of obstacles in its path. Financial troubles, love disappointments, loneliness, lack of sleep and rest lead to various nervous breakdowns. A person may live for years in a state of constant stress, and then at one moment simply lose his mind. How not to go crazy if in life came the "black bar"?

How to pull yourself together if a lot of problems?

Do you know the situation when troubles fell on you, like from a horn of plenty? It is unclear where to start first and how to handle this all. Constant stress and fear of the future, which arise in such a situation, lead to tachycardia, sleep disturbance, panic attacks. How not to go crazy with problems?

First, take care of your health. You now need a complete high-calorie diet, healthy sleep, vitamins, walks in the fresh air. Ask your psychiatrist for a prescription for a safe sedative and hypnotic. And secondly, follow our recommendations:

Draw a circle on a sheet of paper, divide it into several sectors. Every sector is an aspect of your life. For example: "career", "finance", "home", "husband", "children", "health". Are you experiencing financial difficulties? Write what bothers you in the "finance" sector. For example: "debt 30,000 rubles." or "mortgage debt". And so with each sector. Surely, there are sectors in which there are no negative entries? Congratulations, it means that everything is not so bad. In any case, everything is solved.
Draw a table and place your troubles in it in order of priority. For example, in the first place - health problems, since it is difficult for a disabled person or a dead person to solve something, agree. Therefore, at the head of everything should be health, and mental as well. Then the debts, because if they are not paid, they grow like a snowball, etc.

Sphere	Problem	Decision
Health	Migraine, increased anxiety, restless sleep	Take tests, visit a doctor, follow his instructions.
Finance	Credit card debt	Go to the bank and arrange debt restructuring.
House	Need to replace the washing machine.	1. Handwash before repaying debt. 2. Take the option used. 3. Check out interest-free installments in the online store.

In front of each problem write its possible solution. Write down all the options, even those that you do not like. This is a real first step in solving their troubles. Troubleshoot problems in turn. Being engaged in one question, do not think about another. Let everything go on as usual.

What is the effectiveness of this method? You will see that even if you have accumulated financial and domestic problems, the world has not collapsed. After all, there are spheres of life in which everything is still good. Having put your problems on paper without unnecessary emotions, in a strict "dry" style, you clearly see their essence and can calmly think about solutions.

Losing my mind about loneliness

Anyone needs a society. Unfortunately, trying to keep up with the modern rhythm of life and ensure our existence, we often sacrifice relationships and communication with loved ones. Psychologically, it is very difficult to survive a situation where no one will support, listen, hide a blanket on a cold night and call for dinner. The following recommendations will help not to go crazy with loneliness:

Attend exhibitions, cafes and other events where you can be among people, meet like-minded people. Even just reading a book in the park on a bench is more pleasant than sitting at home alone.
Do not withdraw into yourself. In any case, there are other people near you, for example, colleagues at work. Communicate on casual topics: fashion, weather, sports or cultural events.
Get a dog. You will lose the feeling of "empty house", there will always be someone to go for a walk. Four-legged friend will not let you be bored!
Sign up for a gym or swimming pool.
Find a hobby for everyone. For example, you can draw, write an essay, sign up for courses of visage, manicure, martial arts.

A good way to get rid of obsessive thoughts about loneliness is to be needed. Charity can be expressed not only in financial donations. You can help volunteers in an animal shelter or help an old woman in need, a neighbor. Take a look around! Someone needs your support at the moment!

Unhappy and happy love

Not all relationships end happy ending. But even in the case of mutual love, many get a regular emotional shake. The reasons why this happens:

experiences about the life and health of the partner;
the stress of separation from your beloved (s) caused by strong attachment;
fear that happy relationships will end.

In order not to bring yourself to a nervous breakdown and literally do not go crazy with love, stop idealizing your partner. It is difficult when you have strong affection and sympathy for a person, but it is necessary. If you are apart, try to have as little free time as possible in your daily schedule. An active lifestyle, interesting books, new films, sports and work will help to distract from love suffering.

Live for the moment. Thoughts about the future and situations that may occur by themselves may cause nervous tension. Forget what happened. Do not think about what will happen. There is only now.

Jealousy - the cause of nervous breakdown

Is it possible to go mad with jealousy? Obsessive and baseless suspicions of infidelity may be the first signs of schizophrenia or one of the symptoms of psychosis. There is even such a term as Othello syndrome. If you do not want to bring yourself to a mental disorder, it is better to get rid of excessive suspicion. Understand the following:

Your partner is with you for a reason. If he chooses you, it means that he feels your response to you.
The golden rule: "What I did not see with my own eyes does not exist in my reality." Trust only your eyes and do not speculate on the basis of other people's gossip.
You can not control your partner 24 hours a day. In any successful relationship, the keyword: "Trust."

In any case, even if it eventually turns out that the partner changed you, what is the point of jealousy? By bringing yourself to a mental disorder, you only harm yourself.

The most compelling reason to not bring yourself to psychosis on the basis of jealousy: you may have other relationships in the future, and not alone. What will happen to you if with each new partner you acquire a new mental disorder? No man in the world is worth the lost reason and health.

How to survive depression after a divorce?

After a divorce, both a man and a woman often end up on the edge. How to survive this period and not go crazy? It is difficult to accept the idea that you will have to change the established way of life. It seems that the world has collapsed. After all, once the two loved, dreamed, there were common goals, aspirations. Not so you saw your future together. Now start everything from scratch, literally, life again ...

And how morally destroy the sympathetic and interrogative views of colleagues and neighbors. Is it possible to calmly answer the children's question: "Will Dad return again?" The division of property, guardianship issues, litigation - severe stress. How not to go crazy after a divorce, and not to drown in depression and memories of the past?

A family experiencing such a turning point needs a psychologist to help new spouses and children accept new circumstances. On your own, you can help yourself as follows:

Take a vacation at work, meet with friends less often. You need to take a break from other people for a while, come to your senses. Moreover, unnecessary questions will only annoy.
Say goodbye to your former partner. Remove everything that reminds him of the house. Talk to him mentally. Tell me how you love him, how you hate him, tell us about the pain he caused. Cry, tear the pillow, the sheet ... At the end, thank him and let him go.
Grasp the idea that you need to be strong for the sake of loved ones - children, parents, for yourself, in the end. After all, everyone has one life, you can still be happy if you allow yourself to leave the past behind.
Change everything - the color of the walls in the house, hair, clothing style, sign up for the pool or sports section.
Think about what you dreamed of in marriage, but could not afford it? All my life I dreamed of becoming a blonde, but did not allow myself this because of the preferences of my husband? It's time to change the hair color! Not enough time for yoga because of household chores? Now you have the opportunity to do what you love.

Please yourself with new clothes, perfume, phone of the latest model. Even if the desired thing will have to buy on credit. You have gone through a lot and definitely deserve the "incentive prize."