Holding hands, coquettishly embarrassed views, timid attempts to confess their feelings - all this is exciting, sweet, but ... completely forgotten. You can not say about such an event as the first kiss. Scientists have come to the conclusion that it sometimes takes root in the memory is better than the birth of a child or their own wedding. This enhances its value, but also adds nervousness. How and when to do everything right? Secrets of a successful debut - further in sections.
How to prepare for the first kiss
Morally
Nervous before such an important event - this is normal. However, if the nerves are heating up to severe dizziness, nausea, panic, then it’s time to work with it.
To calm myself a little, just accept a few facts:
- the partner will surely worry too, scroll the upcoming lesson in his head;
- From the physical point of view, there is nothing difficult in the process itself;
- There are many types of kisses, but there is no reference, “correct”. If partners choose a different technique, this not would mean that someone was wrong;
- the ability to kiss is already laid in the brain due to (un) consciously watching romantic scenes in the cinema, watching kissing waking couples and, finally, nature;
- the less problems, thinking, the best in the end is a kiss.
Immediately before the session it is better to talk about something general or to joke - this will defuse the atmosphere. It often helps to think that if a boy or girl wants to kiss, is sympathetic, she will be happy with any touch of lips.
And in order to reduce social awkwardness, it is better to kiss a beloved person in some secluded place where no one can interfere.
Physically
Another significant part. Being still at home, just going to a meeting, it is important:
- brush your teeth thoroughly, if available, use a mouthwash, dental floss or toothpicks;
- refuse food with a specific smell - fish, garlic, onions. It is also best not to drink coffee if you have stomach problems. Adopting a coffee drink in this case will quickly cause bad breath;
- grab a chewing gum or sucking sweets with a pleasant aroma - mint, barberry, lemon, for example.
Just before the kiss:
- You can slightly bite the lips, making them redder, and then gently lick them to look more attractive;
- forget about cigarettes or alcohol - the smell of tobacco, alcohol great spoils everything;
- spit out the gum - it actively stimulates the production of saliva, and this will certainly affect the quality of the whole process.
It is advisable to go on a date without a pile of bags or bags. The task is much more difficult if the hands are occupied with something. It is better to do with a backpack or bag with a shoulder strap.
How to hint at a kiss
There are several ways to show the other person that he is interesting as a partner, and to push him to a kiss. It is better to use a series of methods at once, since individually they can be random or two-digit. What can be done:
- during the walk, “by chance” touch with your hands, while talking, slightly touch the shoulder, waist / torso, fix the sticking hair of the pair;
- minimize the distance, but do not forget about comfort;
- make eye contact, squint coquettishly, wink;
- lick or bite your lip, look at the lips of a girl / guy;
- sit as close to each other as possible, tilt your head slightly toward the interlocutor, as if trying to hear it better;
- gently, playfully, put his head on his shoulder, then look into his eyes and smile.
It would be nice to hint at the desire to kiss somehow original. You can, for example, enter into a dispute, and in the conditions specify that the loser kisses the winner.
In the love game tricks are well perceived. Get close to the face to brush away the non-existent cilium. Start a conversation about a favorite form of a kiss, casually mention how much I want to try it. Point to something, and when the partner turns his head, come closer to him, face to face, kiss his cheek or touch his / her lips when he / she turns his head back.
5 golden rules of the first kiss
All hints, coquetry behind, nowhere to retreat, because her / his lips are already opposite. Anxiety grows inside and spreads over the body with a sweet, slightly tingling experience. Breathing partner gently tickles the skin, the heart beats more clearly, louder. It seems that the whole world hears him.
How not to spoil this moment and continue everything on the same pleasant note?
Hurry - to nothing
Sharpness can turn into an unexpected and unpleasant reaction of a couple, an injury or a spoiled moment, even if it was perfect before. It is not necessary to do everything with turtle speed, but smoothness in such a matter is a must-have. This is especially true of the following steps:
- the approach of the mouth to the lips of the partner;
- touching your body, hair, or face;
- lip movements.
All actions are carried out as gently as possible. It is better to abandon the Hollywood passion, because during the first kiss, the couple still do not know any partner or even their own preferences. Excessive pressure, aggression cool pushed.
The very first time is always story of tenderness, lightness, romance.
Moderate diversity is good
Why moderate? Again, kissing is not yet aware of their preferred techniques. It is better to start with the standard model, and leave the bold experiments for later.
However, standing in one position, risking shaking up cramping or neck leaking, cyclically imitating the lip movements of an aquarium fish is also a bad idea. Here, diversity plays a key role. What then can be changed:
- head tilts - to the left, to the right (so that the noses do not get together, to slightly deflect the head back), changing the angle;
- points of impact - “Run” all over the face is still impossible, but it is allowed to kiss the corners of the mouth, nose, cheeks;
- objects of contact - lips will be the center of all touches, but why not gently rub their noses, cheeks, or even foreheads (without butting).
Another detail that is strongly recommended to change is the position and movement of the arms.
“Hands at the seams” - taboo
Dangling, twitching from the awkwardness of the brush look, to put it mildly, unaesthetic. They will have somewhere to do.
- Guys can gently hug your partner by the waist or put a palm on her neck, face.
- Girl it is better to touch the chest of the chosen one, his sides, shoulders or face.
- Also for both sexes a good idea would be to run your fingers through the hair of a loved one.
Stroking is an important part of a dynamic, dull kiss. Rather gently, slowly stroking your partner's back, arms, face, hair. Many people like it when a couple puts their palm on their neck in such a way that the index finger touches the ear lobe and strokes the skin of the cheek with a big one.
By the way, after such a kiss, or even in front of him, you can stroke the thumb of the couple’s lower lip, slightly holding his / her chin.
Language is not the center of the universe
French style is not suitable for the first time. Not everyone likes it and is more complicated from a technical point of view. From the first time, you can not guess how to move the language quickly, how far to thrust it, what to do.
Better to do without it first and enjoy soft touch lips. The shortage of heat can be filled with the same touches, but it is better to make sure that there is nothing vulgar or strange about them.
In the extreme case, if the tongue is still torn into battle, it is enough to slightly lick the lip of your partner, without even pushing the tip of the tongue into your mouth, controlling the amount of saliva.
Pause to be!
Delay such an exercise is undesirable. Between the kissing phases, stops are made at least in order to inquire whether the partner is satisfied with everything. Procedure:
- slowly move your face only a few centimeters so as not to lose the intimacy of the moment. Keep hands in place;
- catch the eye, smile encouragingly and warmly;
- quietly ask the question “Is everything OK?” or “Do you like it?”, follow the reaction;
- continue or interrupt the session depending on the mimicry, the response of the couple.
Also pause can be used to change the tilt of the head, swallow saliva, breathe deeply, if you need to catch your breath.
Kiss on the first date - yes or no?
Such a choice is a matter of each separately. However, you can immediately withdraw several advantages in favor of a decision.
| KISS | DO NOT KISS |
|---|---|
| Direct indication of the reciprocity of feelings without ambiguity. | It remains an intrigue, a mystery. The desire to kiss (if it was before) is exacerbated. |
| The achievement of intimacy is accelerated, relationships quickly reach a new level. | Increases the chance that the partner at the next meeting he hints at the desire to kiss or even do it. |
| Awkwardness at kissing on the next date decreases. | Education is expressed, the partner shows his selectivity, seriousness, and therefore stability in the relationship. |
| Quick clarification of “kissing” compatibility (the longer a person waits, the higher his expectations, which, alas, are not always justified). | Check the depth of interest. If, after the date, the partner keeps the amount of attention paid or increases it, despite the lack of a kiss, then his interest is stable. |
The first kiss is not as scary and strange as many used to think. His very technique is quite simple, does not require intricate action. All problems are only in the head. That is why it is so important to prepare for this event not only on the physical level, but also on the moral one. Let the center of all be pleasant anticipation, romance, and not panic fear.
