Top 10 books on the psychology of relationships
At all times, one of the most interesting topics for humanity has been, is and will be the psychology of relations between people. Due to the fact that gender differences are so diverse, it is difficult for men and women to understand each other, therefore literature that helps to improve relationships has always been a success.
We offer to your attention a rating consisting of the 10 most popular books on the psychology of relationships.
"Men from Mars, Women from Venus" John Gray
The global bestseller about the relationship between the sexes has become the reference book for many people. The author focuses on the well-known postulate: men and women differ in many ways, so it is difficult for them to reach a mutual understanding without putting some effort into it.
The book is full of accessible information on the topic of gender differences in perception, behavior, and in the emotional world. Each situation is examined in detail, life examples are given for a more vivid picture and easy perception of the material.
This book differs from many others like it in that there is a practical part in it that allows to hone the skills of correct communication. It is this part of the book that has helped many couples all over the world to preserve fading relationships, start a family and generally improve life, because the principles described in it allow to communicate productively not only with your partner, but also with people around you.
"Five love languages: How to express love to your companion" Gary Chapman
Many seemingly promising relationships fall apart because of the inability of partners to express their feelings. Understanding the whole tragedy of the situation, the author tried to create instructions for such couples on how to express their warmth towards their loved one.
The uniqueness of the author’s idea lies in the fact that he singles out five channels of transmission of his emotions to a partner, which he names as “tongues of love”:
- Verbal channel - words of support, affectionate nicknames, compliments, approval, praise.
- Time costs - the amount of time that a person spends alone with a partner, paying all his attention only to him.
- Gifts - presenting gifts to your beloved person: from occasional gifts and small surprises for no reason, to being close at a difficult moment.
- Service to a partner - fulfillment of requests and errands of a loved one.
- Physical channel - touch and sex.
The author emphasizes that the ability to evenly express his affection for a partner in all five "languages of love" is the key to a happy and full-fledged relationship.
"Love or love?" Victor Dobroslavovich
The author raises a topic that is quite relevant for the modern world: what is the difference between fleeting love, desire, passion, the desire to have other similar feelings from true Love? To meet the love of his life does not work for everyone, but everyone should be able to recognize it.
Due to the presence of many examples from life, cinema and literature, the author achieves an extraordinary ease in describing the complex and profound question of the differences between love and love.
After reading this book, you can determine whether the future of your relationship, whether the feeling of a partner to you or your own emotions are true.
"At the doctor" Lopinau
The book is devoted to the analysis of one of the most common causes of divorce - personal inconsistency partners.
Dr. Lopinau says that this problem is related to the fact that all people grow up differently, and some, up to old age, remain at the level of children's perception of reality. This fact determines the relationship of a person with loved ones.
The difference between the maturity of spouses can be significant, despite the same age.
"Between sex and love" Semyon Chaika, Natalya Tolstaya
This is one of the few books on psychology, which allows you to look at the problem from two sides, thanks to the presence of two opposite-sex authors.
Natalya Tolstaya, a well-known certified psychotherapist and practicing psychologist, and a very popular metropolitan TV presenter Semyon Chaika, express their own opinions about the problems of relationships between people, love and passion, jealousy, betrayal, understanding, separation and many other things.
"School of a bitch. Strategy for success in the world of men: turn-based technology" Evgenia Shatskaya
The famous Russian writer Yevgenia Shatskaya set the goal of creating an extensive encyclopedia for successful women. This book is one of its parts, dedicated to relationships with men.
In the modern world, the term “bitch” is no longer offensive. It means a woman who knows her worth, is a strong and independent, purposeful and sexy woman.
The author urges readers not to forget about their femininity and sexuality, teaches how to use them correctly for the benefit of their own goals and aspirations, says about the need to diversify relationships.
"3 main questions. Family happiness" Andrei Kurpatov
In his book, Dr. Kurpatov reveals the most problematic aspects of family relationships. This book is designed for people living in a marriage, however, and for unmarried partners, it will also be useful.
The author examines such important issues as building stable and reliable relationships, reaching mutual understanding between spouses, dividing household and sexual life, fighting for dominance in the family, the problems of betrayal and differences between male and female betrayal.
"Men's secrets + Women's secrets that you need to know before you live together happily ever after" Natalia Tolstaya
The popular work of the famous psychotherapist Natalia Tolstoy is dedicated to uncovering differences in the perception of partner’s actions from a female and male point of view.
The author emphasizes that men and women perceive the same thing differently, hence all the problems in a relationship. The book consists of two parts, describing the subtleties of female and male worldview. It is up to you to decide which side to start reading from.
"Act like a woman, think like a man" Steve Harvey
In life, it is so customary that women prefer to discuss their relationships and listen to advice on how to improve them from other women, whereas it is much more logical to ask for help from a man - he knows better the peculiarities of male psychology. However, men in ordinary life do not seek to find out and discuss other people's relationships.
The book by Steve Harvey, truthful and in some places rather tough, allows women to penetrate the masculine world, look at their partners with different eyes and understand them better.
"Woman. Advanced User Guide" Mikhail Lvov
One of the few psychological books focused exclusively on men. Mikhail Lvov wrote it in a format that is most familiar to most modern men - in the form of a guide.
In his book, the author tries to convey to men the fact that a woman is a man with a complex and delicate soul, therefore, proper handling of her requires certain knowledge and skills. At the same time, the author urges his readers to observe the measure in all, to control themselves and not to lose themselves in relations with the chosen one.
