"I constantly wonder why I am ugly? I look at some girls and envy! If they just waved with their fingers, the whole world lies down at their feet! Guys, grades, friends, everything comes easy for them. on the stomach, thin lips, small eyes, crooked legs, small breasts. How can you do something about it? "
Every girl dreams to be beautiful. Not surprising at all. Beauty gives a lot of advantages - confidence, recognition of others, admiration of guys, the ability to look good always and everywhere. But what if you are ugly? After all, whatever one may say, they are met according to their clothes, not their minds, and the first impression is indelible. Only one way out - to change, especially if it interferes with life.
Is there a problem?
Very often, girls exaggerate, saying "I'm ugly." Too big nose or short stature is not a sign of ugliness. It is important to understand that all have disadvantages (if you can call it that). Ideal features and figure is only in the dolls in the store, and then, some of them are not for everybody.
Thin lips, small breasts, narrow hips - this is your feature. It is important to learn how to properly present yourself, and then the problem of ugliness will disappear.
Look at world stars, find examples in history. Hundreds and thousands of imperfect women became standards of beauty.
In fact, it is not external shortcomings, but uncertainty and complexing. To achieve admiration and enthusiastic views, you need to demonstrate their advantages, and not wrap themselves in loose clothes and look to the floor.
But what if the face is really ugly, with acne or other signs of illness? Or does a person suffer from a genetic disease? In this case, being confident is more difficult. The world is ruled by certain standards. But you should not give up. Take, for example, the story of Madeleine Stewart with Down Syndrome. This girl could become a model and now participates in shows of New York.
Practical task. Write out your advantages and disadvantages.
Raise self-esteem
After realizing that everything is not hopeless, you can proceed to the next item - raising your self-esteem. There are different techniques, but without accepting oneself, none of them will work. You are not ugly, but special. Why? For the simple reason that nature has created all people (and animals, by the way, too) different. Diversity is the basis for the development of all living things.
So what to do if you are ugly? Try to complete the following tasks:
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Take up the challenge, do something that has not been solved for a long time. For example, you can sign up for street dances, vocals, bake a complicated cake, take part in a competition, etc. It is important to apply your skills and knowledge, then you can be proud of yourself. - Change the style of clothes, hair, try a different makeup. Learn to decorate yourself so that it was nice to look in the mirror. Do not copy the image of other girls, your task is to find your own style.
- Ask a loved one to make you a photo session. Review the shots, save only those that you like. Remember your facial expression and body position. Repeat the photo shoot.
- Begin to smile affably around. A friendly person always looks more beautiful than a sullen one.
Take up the challenge, do something that has not been solved for a long time. For example, you can sign up for street dances, vocals, bake a complicated cake, take part in a competition, etc. It is important to apply your skills and knowledge, then you can be proud of yourself.Practical task. Pay attention to your merits. Think how you can emphasize them profitably. Love yourself.
Get rid of jealousy
Remember the moment when you started to think "why am I not so beautiful?". Most likely, these thoughts appeared after comparing oneself with others. This is a huge mistake that can drive into the complexes of any person. There will always be someone more beautiful, successful, smarter. Correctly compare yourself not with beautiful girls, but with yesterday’s self. If today's you are better, this is already a success!
Think about the fact that, envying, you are spending an enormous amount of energy. And you get what? Depression, insecurity, anger and resentment. Instead, you can spend strength on self-improvement or other nice things.
Advice of the author. When you become beautiful, you should be ready for the other side of the coin - envy, gossip, talking behind your back. Some men will see only the outer shell, and employers will doubt the mind. Unfortunately, beauty does not solve all problems. It is enough to be simply attractive, but at the same time honest, kind, feminine, beloved and healthy!
Care about inner beauty
It is said that negative traits are reflected on the face. Indeed it is. Angry people with age appear characteristic wrinkles, whiners drop corners of the lips, envious skin turns yellow. Therefore, it is necessary to change not only externally, but also internally.
What do I need to do? Pay more attention to your thoughts. It is from them that actions begin. Become kinder, more honest with others and with itself. To help relatives, to be responsible. The list is endless.
Practical task. Write a list of positive and negative traits of your character.
Down with laziness!
Do you think "if I am ugly, you will not fix anything"? In vain. Perhaps, about 100 years ago, many agreed with you. But not today, not in our days. Plastic surgery is on the level that a person with the most serious deformities can become quite attractive in appearance. Of course, such operations are expensive, but who promised an instant result?
Ahead a whole life, you need to strive for your goal. As you know, there is no limit to perfection. The sooner you start changing, the sooner the visible result will appear. Do not be lazy:
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follow the purity of your body; - your clothes should always be fresh, neat, fit you in size;
- take care of your hair, do not forget about manicure and pedicure;
- apply makeup according to time and place;
- take care of your health, pass a routine inspection;
- eat right, give up fast food and quick snacks;
- Watch your fitness - do exercises, run in the morning, sign up for a gym or go swimming (any other section);
- do all kinds of hairstyles, experiment.
follow the purity of your body;Practical task. Think what shortcomings in yourself you can fix. Develop a plan to change yourself and act!
In conclusion, another rule should be recalled. If you constantly talk about yourself, "I am ugly, fat, stupid," then very soon others will believe in it. Remember - you are special, with a lot of merit. And there are disadvantages for all. Love yourself and be happy!
Alina, Moscow
