Each person dreams to meet his soul mate and live with her happily ever after until old age. But relationship problems can begin literally after the first weeks and months of communication. Why is this happening and how to build a relationship between a boy and a girl, so that they enjoy both partners?
General tips
If the relationship does not go well from the very beginning, take a look at your chosen one. Perhaps you just do not fit each other because of the discrepancy of temperaments, character traits brought up from childhood, or simply because of the lack of love between you? There is no need to dwell on a particular person: if you see that he does not suit you, it’s not worthwhile to meet only for someone to be near.
As relations develop, people get used to each other and stop appreciating trivia. It is important not to forget how to notice even minor, but perfect deeds with the soul.
In a relationship, it is important to trust a partner. It is not always easy, but suspicion and jealousy always destroy love. Both the guy and the girl should feel that they are needed by their half. It is impossible to be together all the time, so in the absence of confidence in the partner, doubts will necessarily arise. In this case, you should speak frankly and find out how justified they are.
Tolerance and understanding - the basis of a long relationship. Each person has his own shortcomings, and it is better to decide at the very beginning whether you are ready to accept them. If you can not tolerate non-punctual people, and your partner constantly comes to meet you late, you have two options: either look for another candidate for the role of a loved one, or forgive him for his inability to plan time.
Do not rush into sex
Very many relationships begin with a bed and end with incredible speed. If you do not have common topics for conversation, you spend your free time in different ways, then even a night full of insane passion will not save a relationship. You will be bored very soon.
At the same time, sexual relations between a man and a woman are of great importance. Spiritual unity will not be enough for a harmonious relationship. Discuss what you like and dislike in bed, experiment and try to give each other pleasure.
Spend time together
Common interests make it possible to develop relationships and bring something new to them, and the emotions experienced together make the couple's life brighter.
But this does not mean that you need to completely give up your own hobbies, completely replacing them with those things that your partner loves. Everyone has the right to his hobby, you must respect this right and can count on the same attitude towards yourself. If your interests are radically different, find what you would like to do together.
Avoid criticism
Constant attempts to prove that you are smarter will lead to the fact that your partner will no longer consult with you and be interested in your opinion. It is much more important to learn to gently suggest a possible solution to the problem and offer help when it is needed.
Tips for girls
Girls are often more emotional than men. It should be understood that if a guy does not repeat to you every half hour how much he loves you, this does not mean that he has no feelings for you. No need to pull out of him recognition, pay attention to the actions. If a man is willing to pay attention to you, to spend time solving your problems - this will be the best proof that you are not indifferent to him.
Men do not have such a subtle intuition as girls, and do not know how to read minds. Learn to tell your boyfriend what you want. Thin hints often do not help: if you need something, the exact wording will greatly increase the chances of getting what you want.
No need to take offense over trifles. Girls are very sensitive and sharply react to everything that happens. While you are carefully considering a plan for revenge for the next “terrible crime”, a man may not even know the reasons for your anger.
Be sure to seek advice from your boyfriend. He should know that his opinion is meaningful to you. After all, he is a man, he must make decisions. Of course, this concerns the issues in which he is competent; discussion of a new manicure is best left to talk with a girlfriend. A man should constantly be given the opportunity to prove that he is a hero. And do not forget to thank for the help.
Do not bother your man. Do not call or write 100 times a day. No, he will not decide what you think about him every minute, he will assume that you simply have nothing to do.
Tips for guys
Girls are special creatures, often their actions defy any logical explanation. So just love her for who she is, not trying to understand or remake.
Carefully treat all the words of your girlfriend. Sometimes it is not easy, because girls love to talk. Often the most important thing does not lie on the surface, since your beloved wants you to “self-guess” her desire. Here it is important to remember one thing - if a girl says in plain text that she needs something, it means that you are already late. In this case, you need to either quickly rehabilitate - that is, to do what she asks for, or to explain why this is impossible.
Make compliments every day. Girls can not get bored - everyone wants to hear that she is beautiful. Your darling should know that she comes first. If you have not noticed a new haircut, you should definitely not say that this is due to the fact that you are tired at work.
Always pay attention if the girl is in a bad mood. Despite the fact that her mood can change 20 times in half an hour, every minute she should know that you noticed it. Yes, it is difficult with them, but without them it is much more difficult. If a girl loves you and feels that you value her, she will surround you with unearthly care, and in the most difficult moments of life will become your support.
The relationship between a man and a woman, between a man and a woman is multifaceted, they are like a puzzle, which consists of many details. If some part is missing, the picture will not work out anymore. And the most interesting thing is that each pair has its own details, and therefore its own picture - its own happiness. So the most important advice - do not listen to anyone, if you are well together, just love each other, keep good moments in memory and let go of bad ones.
Galya, Zheleznodorozhny
